Any married guys use ‘Married But Looking’ (ie honest)?
I do, and not unsuccessful, but probably tougher road, even if 90% are probably married.
For married guys, do you show your face in private pics, or during texts? I rarely do, and it has cost me, or saved me (who knows).
I feel advertising you are married, and throwing pics out just invite blackmail artists that understand image search.
Curious as to your M.O.s
I have been in the bowl about 5-6 years. I always posted as "Married but looking". I initially did not post any picts due to the concern of being recognized. Usually had to provide some once we got to texting and working out a M&G. About a year in with some success switched to a public photo with my face blocked and one or two private pictures showing my face. Numbers went up and justified the move.
Only blackmail attempt I ever got was some lame attempt when I was texting with someone (had not shared a picture) that claimed they knew who I was and where I lived and was going to tell my wife. I told them to go ahead and tell her (I knew they were bluffing as I was using a burner phone) and then blocked them.
As far as image searches go. I never use pictures I post anywhere else and make sure my settings on the phone's camera does not include location data. I am sure a true expert could get enough info off the images, but if they are that serious then they are going after a bigger fish than me. lol.
I recently got outed with wife, but that was my own doing and a result of an unfortunate accident (not involving SB). So I am currently on the DL list. lol. Literally and figuratively! lol. But to quote Arnold, "I'll be back".
... I do maintain a fake SB profile for research purposes.
I can tell you that as a supposedly 22 year old blond spinner in college and looking for fun older guys to help me, no-pic profiles don't motivate "her" to respond, especially when the guy sends a really stupid or crass message. "Her" profile specifically says "no married" and yet, about half the messages "she" gets are from married guys who either call it out on their profile, or volunteer it in their message. So complete honesty, or at least as much as you can share, is generally a good thing. Plus, if you are interested in having longer-term arrangements, lies will almost always end biting you in the ass.
If she wants to date (i.e.: fuck) a married guy, she will. There are plenty of POT's who may actually prefer it. But most SB's (and SD's) don't respond well to lies.
As for pics, I agree that for all of us, not just those who have a S/O, always use pics with location meta data removed and that have NOT been published anywhere else, like a website or social media account, or even a newspaper. And take them in generic locations, with the possible exception of famous landmarks not near you. For example, I went to Australia several years ago, and I use a pic of me standing in front of the Sydney Opera House, and I mention my international travels in my profile.
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The Cat
I've mentioned the wonderful ethically non monogamous relationship I enjoy with my wife many times, so I won't belabor that point. Except to say I don't care if anyone finds out if I'm married, she already knows and approves of my sugar dating. As for blackmailing me, I'd really love to see someone try. It would be fun playing them. But I don't use the "married but looking" tag. I think it implies that the guy is cheating, ie, wants to have sex with SBs but is keeping it a secret from his wife. that's not the impression I want to give. I generally do tell any SBs I'm talking to that I am happily married in an open relationship. Mostly, they enjoy hearing that. However, many SBs simply prefer dating men who are married. It is safer for them. they generally know that the men will be discreet. And more importantly that the men will NOT become possessive and controlling or want them to quit seeing others and be exclusive. For the SBs who do NOT want an arrangement to intrude too much into their lives, dating married men is much safer.
My SB profile says right up front that I am married but cheat. I imagine it cuts down considerably on my prospects. I also lay out ppm expectations before first meet. Again that eliminates a good chunk. But the small remainder is okay with it and I have been completely honest and upfront.
I usually ask girls for their PPM, rather than dictate. It comes from negotiating in business… always let the other party throw out the first number…but not sure that is wise with SB. I have successfully negotiated down, but it always feels weird.