Dear ChestRockwell69,
Here's what I have to say about that one: The answer is the first sentence in your last paragraph - short, sweet and definitely to the point. YES, you ARE an open guy with a different perspective. And yes, the fact that you haven't seen your mother burn in hell for her profession as a sex professional - despite the almost universal opprobrium heaped on providers in society - has probably made you into a less moralizing person than most, at least when it comes to sexuality.
Now, what if I told you that many aspects of Freudianism are considered anachronisms and not considered in current theories of personality? Remember that the whole Oedipus complex arose because of male "castration anxiety" and other more or less fabulatory theories of good old Siggy. I offer his "seduction theory" as evidence for his own mutability when it came to theorizing about the human mind. And, as far as the Oedipus complex is concerned, that would have nothing to do with you wanting to rescue a woman - it would mean that you wanted to HAVE SEX with your mother on some level, and that you were much more tied to her than any other female...and would have DIFFICULTY getting with someone else. As to the fact that a man can't get with a woman who has the same profession as his mother - well, then we might as well declare everyone in the entertainment industry completely Oedipally damaged, because actors beget actors who get involved with other actors...and they don't seem to suffer more than anyone else [although they do seem to GET LAID more often than the average person, hmmm..]
I say that there are so many other things playing into your choice of mate - genetics, pheromones, chance, your current life stage - remember that you are an individual, first and foremost, and not some product of your mother's profession, however fabulous and noble.
Instead, enjoy the relationship for what it is. It doesn't seem like you want to "rescue" anyone - if that were the case, you'd be with someone who was more in the "abuse" territory, rather than a "fast woman in control of her sexuality." Now, if this lady DOES have some issues, I'd venture to say that being a provider is not the genesis of those issues. Many women are extremely traumatized, abused and/or disturbed and they are NOT providers. In fact, to be a successful provider requires someone who is stable and largely in control. So think of that- maybe you're drawn to strong, independent women just like your mother - and what's wrong with that?
I wouldn't worry about this too much - instead, live life to the fullest. So what if your love life is "colorful?" Would you rather be a crashing bore in a humdrum relationship? Isn't that why most married men get with providers in the first place?
Bravo to you for being so open,
The Love Goddess
Your original question: "Do I have an Oedipus complex?" is interesting, given that one person, who would need to be discussed, in answering such a question, was never brought up; your father.
I'm not arguing with anything LG has said, but I'm wondering if the question has some impetus behind it having to do with your relationship, or lack of relationship with your father.
you are able to have a relationship with an escort, not because you in some way want to be with your mother, but because you are more understanding because of your mother.
A lot of people, even ones that partake of this "hobby" carry with them a lot of preconceived notions about escorts (and clients), thanks to you growing up with a mother that was an escort, you aren't burdened by the same notions others are.
