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Re: Non-verbal Communications - The Look
Tampa_Jim 128 Reviews 3830 reads
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Dear Love Goddess,

I thought about your response long and hard.  I wanted to reject your advice because it went against my experience.  I came up with several "what about..." scenarios but they all ended up being just as you said - educated guesses.

Finally, I realized that you had hit the nail squarely on the head.  I remembered the tale of two trips to Las Vegas.  22 years ago I went to Las Vegas.  I met this great girl named Mitzy.  We really clicked.  She was a hooker and I was looking for no strings attached no lying sex.  We spent at least three afternoons talking and having really good sex.  I left happy to have given my money to her for quality services rendered instead of to a casino for a pocket of lint.  My description of the trip would have been, "I met this really great girl and she turned out to be a hooker :-)!!!!!!"  I remember those afternoons with a smile to this day.  Later a co-worker went to Las Vegas.  He came back and said, "I met this really great girl except she turned out to be a hooker :-(."  What he meant was he was too cheap to pay this girl for companionship which he figured he should have gotten for free with the sweet talk and lies upon which all his brief relationships were based.

Which is exactly what you guessed,” She has nothing to lose; if she's wrong, it will just be a shot in the dark. If she's right - well then, she's on her way to making some money."

Here's the funny part, Mitzy is the lady who first pointed out to me the power of "the look".  She believed that a man could "spot a hooker in church".  This had actually happened to her.

Well, back to the looking and the hooking.
Tampa_Jim

Tampa_Jim7812 reads

"When I saw your eyes I knew you were OK."  

I heard those words last week but I've heard them often before.  She had been very cautious on the phone.  Our conversation and been very circumspect.  She wanted to feel safe.  For my own part I was not sure what I was walking into.  But then we exchanged "the look" and we were both comfortable.  Later I asked her why she had been cautious at first then accepted me as safe.  That was when she said, "When I saw your eyes I knew you were OK."

There was a time when working girls and their clients had no way to check each other out.  We met in public places, often bars and later through newspaper ads.  I used to think that only those of us that had been in this game in the days before reviews boards, verification services and free exchange of references had this visual communication skill.  However escorts who are too young to have been working in those days can have it too.  I have met UTR dates with fuzzy pictures in prearranged locations like crowded cafes.  We recognized each other by "the look".

I have noticed that the experienced providers in this business acquire "the look".  It's some visual exchange with the eyes.  Somehow we recognize each other even when we are not working.  Once in a large city a lady dressed in casual cloths and I flagged a cab at the same time.  Before one of those whose cab is it situations developed I saw "the look".  We shared the cab.  I knew she was a call girl, she knew I was a client.  There was no need to be cagey, no verbal fencing, no fear of misunderstanding.  We made a deal, told the driver to cancel the original destinations, and went to her apartment.

"The look" must not be failsafe or universal because people do get into trouble.  

"The look" I am referring to is not the one you get from hotel staff who already know the game.  That look is one of disapproving tollerance.

Love Goddess, Am I imagining this?  Are we humans in our little subculture able to recognize each other by non-verbal eye communication?  It is wonderful and magical but how does it work?

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Love Goddess6618 reads

'Tis wonderful indeed, TampaJim,
Yep, humans sure can engage in non-verbal communication! As for "recognizing," well, my guess is that...it might be a guess. And as you know, statistically, guesses can and do work. On the other hand, I'd hate for you to rely on "the look" 100%, only to be entrapped [egads, perish the thought] or as you put it, "get into trouble."

Many of these beliefs or "notions" that we acquire through experience can surely become almost "dogmatic," also on faith only. As to how it works in this specific case: it is my humble opinion [somewhat backed by research] that women - any women, providers or not - clearly are aware of when ANY man gives them "the look." If a woman is working as "a call girl," she has most likely honed her skills in 'deciphering' whether or not a man represents a potential "customer." So she may well be the first one to give you "the look." She has nothing to lose; if she's wrong, it will just be a shot in the dark. If she's right - well then, she's on her way to making some money.

It's not much different than two people hooking up in bars or clubs. They may see each other dancing, talking, drinking, standing around, etc. and subsequently give each other "the look." It's just that in your case, it means an invitation to paid sex.

Enjoy the looking and the hooking :-)
the Love Goddess

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Tampa_Jim3831 reads

Dear Love Goddess,

I thought about your response long and hard.  I wanted to reject your advice because it went against my experience.  I came up with several "what about..." scenarios but they all ended up being just as you said - educated guesses.

Finally, I realized that you had hit the nail squarely on the head.  I remembered the tale of two trips to Las Vegas.  22 years ago I went to Las Vegas.  I met this great girl named Mitzy.  We really clicked.  She was a hooker and I was looking for no strings attached no lying sex.  We spent at least three afternoons talking and having really good sex.  I left happy to have given my money to her for quality services rendered instead of to a casino for a pocket of lint.  My description of the trip would have been, "I met this really great girl and she turned out to be a hooker :-)!!!!!!"  I remember those afternoons with a smile to this day.  Later a co-worker went to Las Vegas.  He came back and said, "I met this really great girl except she turned out to be a hooker :-(."  What he meant was he was too cheap to pay this girl for companionship which he figured he should have gotten for free with the sweet talk and lies upon which all his brief relationships were based.

Which is exactly what you guessed,” She has nothing to lose; if she's wrong, it will just be a shot in the dark. If she's right - well then, she's on her way to making some money."

Here's the funny part, Mitzy is the lady who first pointed out to me the power of "the look".  She believed that a man could "spot a hooker in church".  This had actually happened to her.

Well, back to the looking and the hooking.
Tampa_Jim

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C2UrOrgasm8932 reads

I want the ability of giving, having etc. this "look" do tell how to be cursed??!!!

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Tampa_Jim5675 reads

Dear Candiss,

If I still lived in SoCal we could test this in person, LOL.  

Since you have been in the profession over one year I suspect you may have acquired "the look".  However, please refer to LG's cautions in her response to me.  I have concluded she is 100% correct.  Stay safe dear.
Tampa_Jim

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