So my college SB landed an internship- pretty happy for her but it is in a type of job that will demand long hours and possibly even weekends (and I doubt she will have time to meet me at my desired hours on weekend since I need discretion )  

I knew it was too good to be true. Well if I was single I could have offered her my place to stay (she did drop a hint to that effect ) - oh man how I envy you all single dudes with free pads to host .  

But bigger question - should I start looking or give her a chance to settle in and see if she has time.

I hate going back on SA and wading through again to find this reasonable ppl level which is basically half of what the initial ask of many in SoCal is.  

My other benchwarmers are there but not available as frequently and frankly I don’t like them as much as my college cutie  

But it seems like in your case it's possible she will still want to continue seeing you after she settles in at her internship.  If it was me I'd tell her I'd love to see her even if it's much less frequently than you've been used to.  And I'd def go back to SA and start developing new leads.  What am I saying, I'm always on SA developing new leads!

Yeah I will probably have to go back … it’s not the SA monthly cost so much but just the painful process of messaging and vetting and then finding someone decent and good looking outside that stupid 700-1000 range everyone in SoCal seems to want for now (until market and economy crashes some more)  

And you’re right — I should keep seeing her w some frequency at least she will not be tempted to hook up at work or even if she does I will be in the know hopefully.  well such is life , there is no shortage of rich young professionals wiling to hit on young co worker’s although now i guess w metoo etc dating at work is not the risk I think it used to be for losing an SB

Heh, even for single guys, "hosting" and a "place to stay" are different animals entirely.  You know once they move in, everything changes.

Come on dude - You mean life changes like — sex on tap w a hottie  , whenever , wherever   I can only dream lol  

This would actually be ideal fantasy life for a single guy as it is only a 8 week internship so she would be back on campus in fall anyways. Now maybe when she comes home tired from work possible she won’t want sex but then you have the weekends to enjoy atleast

Look, I've tried this 3 times.  It's a BAD IDEA!  

 
What you gain:
1. Unlimited sex for free (because she's not paying rent) - except you don't get that.  You are busy, she is busy, she may still want extra cash for sex and it just never happens the way you thought  it would.  

 
2. No travel time to go BCD - except there is. She needs a ride to school, work, doctor, family, etc. And you are definitely NOT going to loan her your car! Or she needs cash for gas, food, clothes, nails and hair (for a date with someone else?) or phone bill, etc.  

 
3. Bonding with that special girl - except not really. She's still going to spend time with her friends, have her own personal time, maybe date a civilian BF, and maybe want to see other SD's.  If you haven't actually ended the arrangement and started real dating, you are just the roommate that she fucks for the rent.  

 
What you lose:  
1. All of your free time - you are now with her at home all the time. She may expect you to devote your at-home hours to her because she's bored, needs your help, or she just won't leave you the fuck alone!  

 
2. No hosting other SB's at your place. Unless she and your other SB's are down for three-ways (don't count on that), you now have to go somewhere else to go BCD.  And she will know that you are "cheating" on her.  Unless she is truly "polyamorous" (Google it), you do not want to have that conversation.  

 
3. You can't go on extended trips, travel, vacations without her.  Do you really want to leave her alone in your place for 2-5 days, let alone weeks or months?  Imagine how may new bad decisions she can make while you are out closing that $5 million dollar deal in Boise? Now imagine she made those bad decisions in your home, with your property, supplies, neighbors, stuff?   How much insurance do you have?  

 
4. You can't have your civilian friends or family visit you.  How are you going to explain that 19-year old spinner with a nose ring, and full-sleeve tats sleeping in your bedroom, or spare bedroom, or sofa to Aunt Sophie?  

 
No! No I say!  Just don't.    

 
Disclosure: The above citations come from my real-life Sugaring experiences.   Please make my sacrifices in unfortunate investments in time, emotional pain, physical property repair, and money I have pissed away worth the costs.  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

I completely agree.  I have tried it twice with terrible results.  I have experienced the same issues you stated.  I would also add that it it very difficult to get her to leave, when things go bad, as they almost inevitably will.

Treat it as her graduation from being a SB. Take her out to a nice dinner to congratulate her, and let her know that you still want to be friends. Also, let her know that if she has the chance to get together every so often, you would love that.  

Unless her internship is with Goldman Sachs or someplace similar (and your description makes it sound like it is), she will probably still appreciate compensation. If it is Goldman Sachs, she will probably refuse it, but she will also probably not have many waking hours away from work beyond what she needs, to eat, shower, go to the supermarket, and change clothes.

I don't even let my wife move in with me.

 
(Not that she's begging to anyway.)

 
Now, that's marital bliss!

HTC — Way to throw cold water on a fantasy lol  

But yeah these are all good points. Anyways I never had the option given the family situation, just that it would have been nice in theory if not reality

Oh, man, my bourbon just went through my nose. Tru dat, nevertheless!!