I actually agree with you 100%. I didn't make myself clear at all. I have been ghosted and it hurts. Because I too put a lot of emotional eggs into these sugar baskets and I hate having the rug pulled out from under me. (too many mixed metaphors?) But you know what I mean. In this case, with this particular girl, I am actually mystified about why our relationship has worked so well, over such a long time period, with no emotional trauma. It's always nice seeing her when she reappears, never any problem when we take a break. Go figure!
7 years ago I started dating a very cute 19yo Latina hottie I found on SA. We dated for a while, then she disappeared and I moved on. A couple years later, she showed up again and we rekindled our arrangement. Once again, we had some dates and she disappeared. That's been the pattern with her ever since. In total, I've had a dozen dates with her in 7 years, most recently 6 months ago. I assume she contacts me whenever she's feeling bored or needs some extra cash!. She just texted me and wants to get together this afternoon, so I'm very happy to see her and play with her again! Can't wait! She's still only 26yo! That's one of the benefits of starting with a very young SB! And obviously it's another example of why never burning bridges is a policy that pays off! ( I wonder if I can count this as a 7 year long arrangement? ) Anybody else had this kind of situation with a SB?
One was a 35 yo Ukraine beauty who would see me weekly then disappear for a few months. Then come back and go hot and heavy. Repeat. I started thinking I may have been her side toy. She even asked me to stop paying her. Disappeared a last time about 1.5 years ago. I actually ran into her at the grocery store. She acted like everything was fine.
The otger was a Malaysian stunner. We'd see each other every other week then radio silence for several months. This went on over 3 years
And bounce around for various reasons. But come back because they know I pay the allowance, show them a good time and am not creepy.
She showed up right on time, we were both delighted to see each other, and we got naked very quickly. A lovely hard core session ensued, culminating in me cumming deep inside her. But I sensed that she had not cum yet and I'd brought my new favorite Rose toy, something she'd heard of but never tried. I showed her how it worked and applied it to her clit and she almost instantly was squirting and came! She was like, wow, that was so fast! And so we did it again with the same result. Afterwards we lay in bed and talked and got caught up for a nice long cuddle session. If she stays true to form, we'll have a few more dates and then she'll disappear for a while.
..Is what I take from your posts when you say she disappeared on you, then I would have a very hard time taking someone back.. I put a lot of time cultivating my relationships with SBs and ghosting is just something I don't tolerate.
How hard is it to say... "Hey it was great knowing you, but I am going to take a break.. If things change down the road, we can go on more dates"..
I really appreciate property, complete communication.. It goes a long way with me.. That's just me. You be you..
I actually agree with you 100%. I didn't make myself clear at all. I have been ghosted and it hurts. Because I too put a lot of emotional eggs into these sugar baskets and I hate having the rug pulled out from under me. (too many mixed metaphors?) But you know what I mean. In this case, with this particular girl, I am actually mystified about why our relationship has worked so well, over such a long time period, with no emotional trauma. It's always nice seeing her when she reappears, never any problem when we take a break. Go figure!
I believe you have this pegged exactly.
If she ghosts....she's gone. Most of us put an extraordinary amount of effort into these sugar baby relationships to be rewarded with anything but honest behavior.
Equally, I appreciate that many on this forum are hobbyists and pussy if their main goal...being able to overlook the inconvenience of being trashed by someone with few human morals.
Like you said: it's me, others will think differently.
EuroGuy and Sweetman ----
See to me... Pussy only is not the ultimate goal of SB relationship. Pussy is part of the equation sure.. I am not trying to have a girlfriend either. To me, SB relationship is that sweet spot that is between a full blown relationship and transactional P4P. Reliability goes a long way. Just showing up when they need us is them using you as their ATM.
I can get me a hooker any day of the week and I do dabble in P4P as well. Going to Miami in 3 weeks and seeing two hotties. One I have seen before and one that is new. And I can guarantee you, the sex will be better.
For me there are exceptions to the ghost-once-she's gone rule.
I have a Columbian beauty, an SB I've been dating for nearly 18 months. She's always struggling financially and deals with depression and anxiety issues. As much as I've tried to help her financially and support her emotionally, she goes through periods where she drops out of touch.
At one point I'd not heard from her in 4 months and she wouldn't answer my texts or calls. I let her go. At another point I checked back with her and got a reply. We're seeing each other again a few times a month and she's once again one of my favorites. Our relationship has developed into something I never thought it would and it's been good for both of us.
Ghosting happens for various reasons, and it's never easy to tolerate. But leaving the door open does have its advantages.
I try to keep an open mind. I remind myself I'm often dealing with troubled young women in various stages of their journey and that I'm sometimes I'm the only adult in the room. I won't tolerate rudeness or crazy, but I do try to bring patience and understanding to the table.
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