AsianManNOVA posted a reply (thank you, Sir!) in my recent update to a post on Worst 3 Words.  This motivated me to create a new post that expands on his reply:  

After an arrangement ends, presumably amicably, do you ever (or still) send her any money, gifts? Do you even stay in touch with herm, assuming she is open to the idea?  

 
Obviously, specific circumstances can and will pre-empt your behavior if she wants to move on with no ongoing communication. But many times, maybe 50% for me, we remain on good terms and will even stay connected by social media, text/email, etc. - only my SD accounts, of course! So what is that after-arrangement situation like? I have maybe 4 or 5 post-arrangement SB's that maintain a connection with me. Two of them will even stop by for a one-off BCD from time to time. For others, we regularly, if infrequently stay in touch.  I may even send her small (less than $100) cash gifts in certain circumstances (birthday, believable emergency, etc.) with no expectation of any reciprocity.  Why? Perhaps I just appreciate the emotional connection we had (and have) and that nurturing part of me feels good about "paying it forward" to those who are genuinely working to improve themselves. Perhaps I am, in my core, a nice guy and I believe she understands that being nice does not equal being weak. Perhaps I'm just a sucker...? Either way, the actual funds sent aggregate to a relatively small amount, compared to my budget for Sugaring.  

 
NOTE: I should point out that although I firmly adhere to the principal of no money IN ADVANCE of BCD, this action falls into my other principal of "never burn bridges."  

 
So what about you? Do you stay in touch after the end, assuming both of you are agreeable?  

 
If you do, has that ever resulted in a supplemental BCD or perhaps some other tangible benefit? Or do you get some level of personal satisfaction from helping with no expectation of returned value?  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

I don't have a 'policy' on this and not a lot of experience with endings. But I had a long-running relationship with an SB and we decided mutually to break it off but we remain friends. I stay in touch and invite her to dinner every now and then.
Interestingly she gives me pretty good advice on how to deal with sugar situations. I may help her a bit too but in any case nice to have a friend I can talk with about the scene.

I haven't sent gifts or $, but I do try to remember to send them happy birthday messages as well as Valentine's day, Holidays, etc.  A few have showed up for repeat BCD fun after long absences, which is lots of fun.  I actually have 2 like that right now.  Others have moved on and sugar dating is no longer a part of their lives.  But I enjoy the friendships and plan on having lunch with one of those in a week or so.  I miss her!  

Herb, I also try not to burn bridges if I can help it.

One comment you made piqued my interest: you mentioned that you limit communication to any SBs through your SD accounts. Do (or have) any of your SBs known your "real" identity?  

From my limited experience in the bowl I don't have a problem giving a SB my personal info (limited to name, main cell) DESPITE the fact I am in a very stable and happy marriage. My wife gets excited by the thought of me with other women (and is open under the right circumstances to join in the future) so I don't care if a SB knows who I am.

I've had a few longer ones where we stayed friends for a while.  Had one where her and I were friends for years.  She got married and we cut it off because of her spouse.

A few others have also become clients so that has moved things onward.  I've tried with others who wanted nothing to do with it and there are plenty I'd rather not talk to again.

Overall, I prefer to be in an arrangement with someone I like talking and would want to keep in touch with.  Ones that are just hot and I want to hit it a few times rarely last long either me.

The younger me would have tried to stay in occasional contact.  But the older (hopefully wiser) me would really see how often SHE initiates contact.  If it is only me initiating, drop it.  Chicks that want you involved in their life do stuff to keep you involved.  If they aren't making the effort, half-hearted acknowledgements of your pings, they're just being "nice."  Move on.

Good questions.  

 
All my SB's know my full name, address, phone, and more. In fact, I make a point of sending them my info, including my LinkedIn profile link after our M&G, assuming I want to move forward. But I may use a Google voice number at first, and I keep an anonymous IG and X (Twitter) account that I use to connect with her accounts, when appropriate.  

 
My point about using SD social accounts after is more about not planting pointers back to me post-arrangement. She will eventually develop new SD's/BF's etc., and if they happen to dip into her phone (because - that's what douchebags do) I don't want them to see a pic of me or my real info, let alone a pic of me with her.  

 
I am not worried about a SB, current or former, outing me or threatening to blackmail me. I'm not married, no kids, and retired. And all my friends know I date women in their 20's, while my closest friends know the mechanics.  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

I know their real names so I look them up on FB to see how they are doing. Sometimes, they announce they are in a relationship (LOL). I will also text them once in a while. Some of them don't reply so I just assume they don't want to keep in touch. I remember one told me she got a real job so she didn't want to see me anymore. She was hot but mediocre in bed so it wasn't a big loss. She was sort of a professional student who finally got her master's in Government Study (a useless degree). This was right before COVID. After COVID, I noticed her profile was back on Seeking (I guess her salary wasn't enough for her lifestyle). I messaged her and asked her if she wanted to meet to catch up. She never replied.