LG could use your advice.  I schedule time with a top reviewed VIP provider for later this month.  It's my first time and I can't wait.  Yesterday my wife and I were trying to make love and I couldn't "get it up", and it's the first time for that as well.  I have to admit that I've been thinking about the up comming provider experience a lot and even while I was trying to make love to my wife I was thinking about it.  Now all I can think about is what if I can't "get it up" with the beautiful provider that I've scheduled.  There's enough to worry about with this hobby without having to worry about performance.  Any advice to avoid a flacid problem?

Well, LimpWeenie,

Many things can affect erectile function - food, drink, exercise, age, but above all, PERFORMANCE ANXIETY. You don't say how old you are, but if you're over 50, chances are you just experienced your first episode of ED - and it happened to be with your wife. My advice would be to go se a physician and make sure you're not overweight, not a smoker, in good health, an exerciser, get great sleep, don't stress out too much at work, and above all, don't get your skivvies in a bunch over a "top reviewed VIP provider." Sex is not a "thinking" activity, it's strictly monkey business, complete with grunts and really low-brain limbic activity. The more you analyze, fret and use your higher brain function, the more chances you'll have at not getting it up. As for the provider - who cares, it's some chick that bangs good for the money - it's not the Madonna [to flip things around a bit]. You don't have to treat her like dirt, but you don't have to make her feel so special that your penis gets all "shy" either.  That's why I advise men who do have a touch of performance anxiety to book with the "girl next door type," not the homecoming queen you couldn't fuck in high school. The more they sit on a pedestal, the more the penis bows - in the wrong direction.

If your physician decides it's ED drug time, then so be it - go with it, but try things out with your wife first, just to make sure the hoisting mechanism really is working.

Don't overthink things and you'll be fine,
The Love Goddess

Thanks for putting things in perspective.

To further what the others have said...  In my limited experience, I am living with some nerve damage.   Things can work very nicely or loose the erection at in-opportune moments.  Some of it could be anxiety...  always worst before a first date...    Or it could be loss of focus.  If my mind wanders...  any sort of distraction...  bills, outside noise, tomorrows work, etc.  I can lose erection.  Further stimulation must be pretty continous without interruptions.  Even switching possitions can lose the erection if it takes too long.  

While we are on the subject...  provider sex...  condoms reduce sensation.  Friction is what makes things happen.  Think about friction for a moment.  To have friction you must have movement, not just on the outside (her side of the condom) but inside, on HIS side of the condom as well.  Obiviously a condom must be tight enough to stay on...   but I maintain must be loose enough to have some movement.  While some lubrication IS necessary inside, too much "super lube" can reduce the friction to ZERO & nothing happens.   I have found a Premium product which suits me & I generally bring (sealed 3 pack) them.  (I respect a lady's right to refuse to use a product not provided by her.  However, I've never had a lady refuse me.)  
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No I don't work for them, however, they have a wide variety of condoms, ships usps. They also have female condoms. I have a few friends who like the fc.  I bring them for our dates, since you can't buy fc's at most drug stores.