I have been reminded of the words of the song "What a fool believes" by the Doobies - circa 1975 - and how it relates to the hobby.  Based upon numerous posts, it would seem the "time of the month" phenom has evolved into the "dashed dreams" dilemma.  I must say, in my own situation, LG's cues and insight have been dead on-target.

So the question to LG is why do providers egg us aging rockers on - only to retreat into the security of the "traditional provider-client relationship" umbrella?  Is it that we are so incredibly gullible - trying so hard to recreate what has yet to be created?  Is it that anything goes in the NSA FFB hobby?  Is it that we are "eyes wide shut"?  Is it the ego play on the providers part - or is it to solely, as you would say, advance the gig - knowing at our typical age perhaps we want to capture what once was??

Pull out that vinyl and give it a spin.  It's almost like Michael McDonald was in your head 30 + years ago, telling you then what you really don't want to hear now.

BS

BS's comments are poignant and a bit melancholy.  Hobbying is supposed to be fun!  Of course, I can't perform at the same physical level in anything, as well as I could in the 70s, but I am more appreciative of the present, more aware of the nuances, more aware that there is (hopefully) still much more to enjoy and learn in the time ahead.  I believe most "mature" hobbyists feel somewhat the same way, so I'd say there are compensations that go well beyond trying to relive the past or indulging in schoolboy fantasies.  
Just my $0.02.

My dear BigSplooge [I just loooove that wurd, hehe,]

Providers egg ANYONE on- that is their job function, pure and simple. And no, we [you?] aging rockers are not incredibly gullible..but we are, "biochemically speaking," past our immediate jonesing for testosteronic relief. Our bodies are slowing down in terms of racing gonads, and we are able to become slightly more meditative and reflecting, even in situations where the sex act and sexual relations are concerned.

It's almost as if visiting with a provider is a surefire way to generate a delicate wistfulness, an emotional "disappointment," however slight, only because the provider is there to rock the sexual boat, but really not give much else in return. THAT is not her implicit function; the fact that so many successful providers have comprehended the extra bonus in offering 'GFE' is most likely a combination of being a woman who just can't be a sex-machine without emotions, and having clients who truly appreciate just that.

As for providers going out on a limb, only to pull back and leave the 'aging rocker hobbyist' hanging, well, I can only say CAVEAT EMPTOR. Providers are women like everyone else - it makes their job a little sweeter if there's more honey than vinegar put into the mix. But women are wise and know that you can't have your cake and eat it too...so when they realize that they have strayed the line, they take their goodies and run off...leaving you with visions of sugarplum fairies and a longing, sweet taste in your mouth.

Such is the fate of a cognizant "fool." If the average age on this discussion board were 25, I bet we'd have a lot more "tight pussy" talk, and maybe even the opposite - guys wanting to shake off providers who overstay their welcome....

Enjoy that insight - you've earned it,
the Love Goddess

wow thats weird, that song has been rotating in my car this week...but then last night the police did "roxanne" made me think...loved ya since i knew ya...you don't have to turn on that red light...ahhh tha hobby life, its a gas...

As I have recently stated in thread below about trust issues,
To me, I feel as if I have paid a woman to deceive
me, abuse me, and then walk away from me, thus leaving me emotionally hurt.

This has never been my intention, nor desire to have happen to me.
Especially if I make clear, to her what my boundries are, and confront the violation each time that they occur.

What should be FUN, really has become a drag upon
my self esteem and left me feeling somewhat emotionally worked over by her words and actions.

This my fellows, is not What GFE is about, unless
of course you have had past relationships where your girlfriend beats the hell out of you emotionally, and it was what you desired.

For me it is not my desire, and I have taken many
precations to insure my emotional safety.

Maybe the vast majority of providers should take a good look in the mirror, and just as they want
respect, and safety, they should realize that so
to does the hobbiest as well.

The hobby is not a good venue, in which to attempt
to trust, as their are to many needy people, with
the goal of meeting there needs alone.

Trooper 2, LG's wisdom and empathy are unsurpassed, so no need to restate that.  But I wonder if your hopes and expectations are more than can be fulfilled except in rare circumstances that elude most of us?  At minimum, we can realistically hope for a delightful time with a lovely, sexy and fun provider who makes us glow for a limited time afterward.  Emotional involvement can only come later, and gradually, with mutual confidence building on both sides.  Isn't that enough?

Bittersweet.  I met a lady through the hobby who is just terrific.  We connected, and no it's not just my imagination.  But then my wife found out and this lovely provider pulled back.  I had to choose, at least for a time, and now she won't see me.  This is a very tough way for the ladies to make a living.

My dear BigSplooge?  Are you now egging me on??? LOL

LG, interesting perspective.  It's an escorts *duty* to egg me on???  Now that's a new one on me.  I always thought GFE ment "jump your bones like your girlfriend" not "fuck with your head".

So, for future's sake, when I see some lass who rocks my bones...and she gives me her "real" name, and asks me to call her, and that I remind her of her BF, and that she wishes she had met me when I was single, and tells me I am very sexy - that there are too many aspects to my existance to describe, and tells me I fill the bag with greater spoo than none other, what do I say - oh dearest LG (wanna come out of retirement??)????????

go about your day. Believe me, if she really wants you beyond the clock, she'll offer it to you plain and simple, without hints.

Women have always done the choosing,
the Love Goddess

Never put me on a pedestal, for I do like to step down sometimes. I will disappoint you sometimes.

When I had escorted, I would have some clients who wanted to see me on my off time, but I always held back, for to me it was a business. I got in it to make money, and I did make some good friends along the way, but business is business.

What a fool believes? well let me set the record straight, in my case, I have not hit her up for extra time, or off the clock time, I was and am very careful of her boundaires, and have never ventrured across.
What pains me, is such as what the L.G. describes,
in the above paragraph, in that off clock, a desire to seperate the business, and dating, was in fact ventured by her, Not I, and it was Me who showed up on time, not early, never stay past
the hour, in fact left 5 minutes early, and never
hit on her, for more than anything than a desire to be who I am, A gentleman!
So understandable, that I would become confused,
and hurt, when said provider, would engage me
emotionally, When I was specific in stating that she
not do anything, phony, or false.
In this instance, I stated that if my emotions were engaged falsly, then I would walk away, but if she kept things real, and upfront, then I would desire to continue to see her, and yes even
be willing to meet some of her emotional needs,
should she desire it. but only after honest and upfront communication!

So I was hurt when I felt that she was being
disrespectful, or at least inconsiderate of me and
my desire to be kind and generous, toward her.
Only to be treated like a game piece, and I having no knowledge of what rules, or boundaires
were in place at any one time.
Go Figure?

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