I read with great interest how to perform oral sex on a women over at infosex.com.  I am an oral sex lover and always enjoy reading about techniques for eating pussy, hoping that maybe I can pick up some little tidbit of information that might help me further perfect the art of DATY.  

I was surprised by one thing that they did not mention - the insertion of the man's tongue into the vagina.  I have always found that if you use your tongue to lick the interior wall of the vagina it seems to pleasure the women. Of course I insert it as far as possible.  I have always found, by the way, that for some reason licking the right side (towards the top) of the women's vagina seems to cause more of a reaction then other places inside the vagina. Unfortuantely, there is no way my tongue is long enough to reach the "g" spot.

Do you agree that tongue insertion into the vagina is something that women enjoy?  Any comments on my idea that the right side seems to cause more of a positive reaction?

Well, OC John,
SOME women enjoy a tongue in the vagina...others have different moves on their agenda. The thing to understand about women is that there are many more individual and pronounced sexual preference differences among women than there are among men. As to the "right side" causing more of a positive reaction..hmmm....I would think that most women who do enjoy a tongue in the vagina are so consumed with pleasure that the last thing they think about is which side of the vaginal wall gets more stimulated.

I do think there's a danger in reading too many of these "manuals" and taking them for gospel. The most wonderful aspect of women is that they are so individual in their sexuality, particularly when it comes down to these nitty-gritty things. The best lovers are not those who are technically skilled per se, and who can identify this or that as surefire exciting moves. IMHO, those who are sensitive to each individual and can partake of that delicate dance that's called lovemaking - and NOT necessarily generalize to the next person - those are the ones who end up with a great sexual repertoire that is consistently changing, renewing and creating.

You boys ask the darndest things, LOL,
the Love Goddess

When it comes to DATY I'm really more of a "hands on" (or tongue in this case)kind of guy... Find a willing partner and see what the two of you can come up with. If she keeps asking for more you are onto something....

The variety and complicatedness of the organ itself precludes any possibility of mastery, but for what it's worth, never attack; just kind of sneaking up on it works best.

It's also very much up to the gal.

I have one favorite who will come in about two minutes of a little light licking.

I have another that needs thirty minutes of the most excruciatingly complicated maneuvers, and even then there's no guarantee of success.

It also helps to lift some five pound weights with your tongue for training.

Why don't some women like it?

the lady is "into it" she will normal give you some indication if you've hit the right spot.

There are several women I've known who are vocal about what is "sensitizing" them and as it's been pointed out....not all are constructed the same way.

Her pounding her fists on your shoulder blades might indicate a hit though....LOL!

You may be a woman, I'm not sure, but you don't understand women, that's for sure!  Women are sick of all these tongues going up their vaginas and anuses.  Toys are what they want, all different shapes, sizes, designs.  And I don't blame 'em.  Get your tongue outa there!  And grab that nice lookin' thing in the drawer to the right, baby!

And a very hostile posting! Do I detect some frustration on your part? Maybe you have been wounded deeply in your soul by tongue-rejecting, appliance-loving females!

Methinks there are plenty of females who would love a nice, soft tongue in favor of some buzzing plastic...or maybe there is a place for both in a healthy sexlife?

In the meantime, rest assured, I am a woman and I do understand them quite well. And what I do understand is that again, we have a large variation of females out there, with very particular likes and dislikes. Percentage-wise, I would wager that there are just as many females who like cunnilingus as there are females who like vibrators.

My advice to you is to get on TER, look through the profiles and find a provider that accepts DATY. And then do a "research session with her." Should be fun. As for sticking it up the butt, yes, probably there'll be a lot less demand for it. But that's because a majority of women have more sensitivity in their clitoris than they do in their anal region.

Do not despair, let your tongue seek a clit and it shall find,
the Love Goddess

Aphrodite (if you will)

I agree that manuals and formulas simply can't be trusted - every woman is as different as every man.  I only have one rule - listen to my partner, feel her, respond to her.  It requires paying attention not to technique, but your lover.  I find that most women respond very well to such attention and frankly, it's far more fun.  Sort of like playing a guitar or any instrument, the song is inside it (or her), you just have to listen to enjoy.

For the same reason, dogdoy,
that some women don't like a whole list of things...and others do! Also, remember that to receive - as in cunnilingus - you have to be relaxed. Many women have a problem with relaxation...their brains are meant to always be a little on hyperalert, evolutionarily speaking. Alert for baby's crying, poisonous critters crawling, hubby's roadkill, etc. etc. It's just their brains being on hyperactive alert all the time. That's why some women do better after a glass of wine, smoking marijuana, or even tranquilizers (not suggesting that you feed her drugs or alcohol just to DATY, mind you.)

Women with control issues may not like lying back and getting something as intense as cunnilingus. Or, they may have had it once by a prodding clod and decided it's too painful and not for them. There are a zillion reasons. Women are not as similar to one another as men. That's what makes us so intriguing, LOL.

Keep searching though, and I bet you'll find one that just loooooves it,
the Love Goddess

Real live women, not porn stars or web cam girls who are get paid for shock value, like all sorts of things. One of my two favorite ladies brings a whole bag of toys to her out calls but is very happy to just leave them in her bag when she sees me. My other fav doesn't want anything mechanical anywhere near her...just my tongue. The biggest misconceptions come out of generalizations.

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I love what you said-
"never attack; just kind of sneaking up on it works best."

Sneaking up on it? lol. I imagine you hiding behind something so as not to alert the lady's vagina to your presence and then sneaking your tongue near it when it's not looking. lol. The mental image makes me laugh.

Katie

I love what you said-
"never attack; just kind of sneaking up on it works best."

Sneaking up on it? lol. I imagine you hiding behind something so as not to alert the lady's vagina to your presence and then sneaking your tongue near it when it's not looking. lol. The mental image makes me laugh.

Katie

Was ask a self declared "raging bisexual" provider to teach me how to do it (DATY).

She willingly demonstrated in multiple ways- her tongue on my finger tip to show type and variation of pressure, where she liked it best, where her G spot was, and we had a great time.

Second best thing I've ever done- asked same to each provider after!  Because none of them liked it just the way the first one did!

Third best thing- I don't attempt it on providers who aren't in to it!

Have had a run of great experiences!

I find that many times after talking to her, she'll let you know when you hit the spot or if you're doing it right or wrong. If you hit the right area she'll be very vocal about it.

She will indicate where it feels good, technique,speed,sucking pressure,and if it doesn't feel good, she will let you know also.

He had never done it before.
Did it
then shot himself for not doing it sooner!

My ATF actually had never let anyone do it until me. When I first met her she gave me the list of what she did and did not do and it was on the top of her list. We talked and she had never let anyone even try it. After meeting a few time we bet on some silly thing and she lost. Yep, you know what she had to let me do if I lost. On the first try she froze like an icicle. She agreed at the end of the session that she had not delivered as agreed and over the next few visits we tried a few more times. The result is that now she loves it and told me she'd rather have a tongue than a dick in her. Her list is still the same to her customers other than me. It is actually on the counter where you drop the contribution.

I've always been very oral and the trick is to be very sensitive to her responses to each and every move. I find many times the first time I do not get into it for myself but only in an analytical way to find out what she likes. A little homework goes a long way.

As for toys, yes she has one and showed off one day with it. As we've grown to be comfortable with each other and open, she does have something she wants to do with it that she's never done before but I'm not sure if I'm ready to receive such special treatment in a certain part of my body.

Sir, you are very wise - and probably very satisfied.