My fellow mongers I need support.  I’ve told you about my rotations of SBs.  I’ve had some dumped some but never have I been dumped.  
The most perfect SB I had just dropped me like a bad habit.  In fact she basically told me that’s what I am.  She needed to quit lying and be true to her heart and no longer see me.  She did admit she’ll miss the money.  But I will tell you I really am hurt.  I cared about this one.   I liked that I was the first Dick she’s had since she’s a lesbo.   She said she liked the Dick, but I guess she’s going back to eating pussy.  
I bitched and offered her $500 for one last fling.   We will see if money motivates.   But I’ll miss this one a lot.  

END OF MESSAGE

In civie life I dated two lesbians (not at the same time, alas) and both were very intense but very short lived (about a month).  Lesbians can be a bit mercurial, it seems.

Given that the SB/SD world is somewhat closer to RL dating than the escort world, such situations as yours are to be expected from time to time.

 
It sucks, but get back up on that horse and ride, and in no time you'll forget all about old what's-her-name.

How long and how much?
Not that there's a connection...

Very suddenly the lesbo  went from sweet honey to evil bitch within a day. Since I think we're in the same state it might be the same one lol

I've been dropped by a SB I had developed strong feelings for.  It hurt.  But that was over a year ago and my current rotation is younger and better looking and sexier than ever.  Replace the one you lost and don't dwell on it.

You gotta expect that dating a lez is going to be short term.  You know in countries that allow lez marriages -- they have the highest divorce rates -- higher than heteros and higher than gay men.  There's also a lez joke -- what does a lez bring to her lez lover on a second date -- a moving van.  They commit quickly, but not for long.

21, blond, blue eyes perfect 32b tits, finely trimmed V jay jay.   She wasn’t the best at the bbbj but since I was the first one she did it on, took it well on completion.  We had 3 dates, they were all good.  Her Lez gf is a big fat pig, I’ve seen pictures.  

If you have a long arrangement, it is impossible (for me, anyway) not to develop feelings for the SB. To me, that is one of the best things about SA, if you can make an arrangement last for a while. But, never forget, it's transactional. I'm not cynical about this, because I think the two contradictory things of caring about your partner and giving/receiving money can coexist.

You'll get extra emotional sweetness out of it if you let yourself care, I think. But, you take some hurt once in a while.

Or, just always treat it as nothing but hot sex with a variety of willing ladies.

One answer is just as good as the other.

In my experience an SB that walks away from an arrangement over a BF or in your case a GF when everything else between you is working will one day (in the not too distant future) have some kind of financial emergency and guess who will be her first call?

 
It's also entirely likely that she might also start missing "dick" Some women of course are entirely homosexual, some of course are 100% hetero, but there are a HUGE number of women who find themselves somewhere in between. If she truly likes dick, but is simply in love with this other woman, your chances of her finding her way back to you are VERY VERY good.  

 
My advice is don't "grovel", just be patient. Maybe drop her a line from time to time, maybe on her birthday or even Valentines day which is right around the corner. Don't pressure her, just simply remind her that you are still out there and if you catch her at a nostalgic moment, or during a time when she might be having a fight with her GF, she might just come fuck you again "for old times sake" lol

Thank you wise and sage monger.  You are the granddaddy of all mongers.  

Great advice from GAGa...patience pays great dividends ....sometimes 😋
Problems Represent Opportunities !

Have to add my experience from last night to underscore the Gambler's observation about the HUGE number of women in playing both sides of the ball. (Eagles going to the Super Bowl, that's a ball for you  

First date with a student at the city's performing arts school. She actually bought a house with her military lesbian partner just a couple years back, then decided last summer to take this scholarship offer a thousand miles to the north. The couple broke up due to the relocation. My babe has the refined features of those Cuban emigrés not so far removed from Spanish origins.  She turned out to LOVE the dick. I hadn't expected to go BCD on the meet and greet, which actually entailed tickets for us to see Chicago's Second City Improv, but here she was crossing the street in her black leggings post-rehearsal, and I had to know good things would happen when she apologized for not having time to put on make-up, get in proper clothing, or even put on underwear! Sure enough, after dinner, when I inquired whether we shouldn't prolong the night with a room, she instantly signed up. And after showering together, we were good to go. Brilliant BBBJ, and lots of vocalization, along with the words we love to hear, as we found the rhythm. Perfect GFE from beginning of the date to the end. Will she last? Her post-date messages have been awfully appreciative.  

***   And this was a real balm given what my #1 SB has done. She was on holiday hiatus for a couple weeks, traveling away to a NYE concert, then snowboarding in the New Year. Our first talk after she returned home was about picking up an extra course in school and the need to cut back, for the sake of time, on our once a week overnight dating. The general retreat in the texting, and the telephone call to set up a date a couple weeks down the road means, the tea leaves say, that she likely has "terminal" news. We went from a really good relationship to this pass, and there are two possibilities. She outed our relationship to family and friends -- and while two close family members seemed to accept the situation, if not be supportive, I believe a few friends were more "judgmental". Secondly, we went bareback before withdrawal, on occasion, and thoughts about that are easily changed. I really developed feelings for this woman, who continually surprised me, whether sharing her life experiences or proving my worst supposition to be unfounded. So, perhaps it's not over, but in a very real sense, I've moved on. Sent out a barrage of messages and now have multiple POTs lined up besides the two I fuuucked this weekend. Including another DI athlete, replacing the the first, who was a veritable October Surprise.  

I am slowly making the switch from frustrated husband to sugar bowl veteran. The ups and downs sometimes seem too crazy to stay in the game. Far too much time spent searching, far too  many flakes and ghosting, a transactional relationship that can masquerade as something else, but ultimately will dollar out. But then the moments of pure gold happen, and all seems redeemed. Carpe Diem!

Dam I need to take lessons from you since we are in the same market! Lol