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The Erotic Highway

One way to say "not getting back together"..
herbtcat 6 Reviews 96 reads
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... is to not block her. If she's still on and sees you, she will know you have moved on. If she's not on or active, it's a moot point.  If she reaches out, decide if you want to pony up for a bonus BCD and let her know if you are interested.  

 
Like PaPa Sweet, I also never promise exclusivity, and I always assume she is seeing other SD's. However, I generally let her assume I am not seeing anyone else "right now." Which is always true since I don't date two SB's on the same day. Semantics? Hell yeah it is.  

 
The lesson I suggest for you is that SA is not, and will (probably) never be, a place to find your soulmate. As I've said before, all arrangements end.  The proof? When you two decided to move from SD/SB to BF/GF it fizzled. I propose that if you had continued to give your "GF" allowance, the fizzle would have stayed a sizzle.  

 
Not saying she lied or misrepresented her intentions deliberately. But she signed up for SA for the funds. Finding a guy she actually liked, admired, respected, etc., was the gift with purchase (GWP).  But like the GWP every woman has ever obtained at Macy's or Nordstrom's, if the $200 bottle of perfume wasn't in that stylish Gucci tote bag, she would not have made the buy.  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

Juan_the_Mon2768 reads

Ok so the second SB I had that turned Vanilla is gone. Well not gone, but we broke up. Still friends. Her idea, she has some things to work out. Other than lonely it was kind of a relief as I just entered into this hobby. I mean I'd still be with her if she wanted, but she wasn't my soul mate.

Moving on. I was thinking about contacting my first SB. Sub-spinner, my type, but then I'm remembering the gifts she asked for, like right away, and realized I have options; GO back to SA.

Now having said that I made my SA account inactive due to the SB turned GF. Now I'm going back on. I don't want the first SB to know I'm back on, I don't want her to feel bad as I said I'd contact her if anything changes. I told her I had some things to work through. Didn't tell her I found a GF.

Now should I?

1. Not care and just go back on.
2. Go back on find her profile and block her - if that makes it so she can't see me?
3. Hide my profile and just message women I'm interested in? (I know some of you only operate with option 3.)
4. Is there some other setting in SA I should be looking at?

Thanks.

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Scaramouche78 reads

I don't really know how blocking works. But I would say if you're done with for whatever reason you shouldn't care.
You didn't say whether you both wanted an exclusive relationship. If not she may be seeing multiple guys and you can do the same.
But I'm still new to this so maybe the vets here have better advice.

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sweetman49 reads

Right from the start I make it clear to any prospective sugar baby that I'm not seeking nor offering anything exclusive. There are others in my life just as I assume there will be others in hers. And even if I'm not looking for a new SB (as if that ever actually happens, I mean, I'm always looking!) I enjoy browsing on SA so she should not be surprised to see my profile active regularly. That way, whatever the status of any given arrangement, she should not see my current activity on SA as meaningful in any way or as a reflection of any disinterest in her.

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herbtcat97 reads

... is to not block her. If she's still on and sees you, she will know you have moved on. If she's not on or active, it's a moot point.  If she reaches out, decide if you want to pony up for a bonus BCD and let her know if you are interested.  

 
Like PaPa Sweet, I also never promise exclusivity, and I always assume she is seeing other SD's. However, I generally let her assume I am not seeing anyone else "right now." Which is always true since I don't date two SB's on the same day. Semantics? Hell yeah it is.  

 
The lesson I suggest for you is that SA is not, and will (probably) never be, a place to find your soulmate. As I've said before, all arrangements end.  The proof? When you two decided to move from SD/SB to BF/GF it fizzled. I propose that if you had continued to give your "GF" allowance, the fizzle would have stayed a sizzle.  

 
Not saying she lied or misrepresented her intentions deliberately. But she signed up for SA for the funds. Finding a guy she actually liked, admired, respected, etc., was the gift with purchase (GWP).  But like the GWP every woman has ever obtained at Macy's or Nordstrom's, if the $200 bottle of perfume wasn't in that stylish Gucci tote bag, she would not have made the buy.  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

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Juan_the_Mon41 reads

All good advice. And I never would go exclusive for SD/SB. Back on it is.

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impposter69 reads

I am not yet a part of SA but I would wonder: Does she have more than one account? 1. Her regular dating account and 2. Her "snooping" account.  Or maybe she has a friend or roommate to act as her snoop. If she asks if you blocked her and you say "No," she may counter that her alter-ego knows better.

Posted By: Juan_the_Mon

Ok so the second SB I had that turned Vanilla is gone. Well not gone, but we broke up. Still friends. Her idea, she has some things to work out. Other than lonely it was kind of a relief as I just entered into this hobby. I mean I'd still be with her if she wanted, but she wasn't my soul mate.  
   
 Moving on. I was thinking about contacting my first SB. Sub-spinner, my type, but then I'm remembering the gifts she asked for, like right away, and realized I have options; GO back to SA.  
   
 Now having said that I made my SA account inactive due to the SB turned GF. Now I'm going back on. I don't want the first SB to know I'm back on, I don't want her to feel bad as I said I'd contact her if anything changes. I told her I had some things to work through. Didn't tell her I found a GF.  
   
 Now should I?  
   
 1. Not care and just go back on.  
 2. Go back on find her profile and block her - if that makes it so she can't see me?  
 3. Hide my profile and just message women I'm interested in? (I know some of you only operate with option 3.)  
 4. Is there some other setting in SA I should be looking at?

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