A-I: "The percentage of women who orgasm during sex varies significantly depending on the type of stimulation, with estimates ranging from about 21-30% for unassisted vaginal intercourse to 51-60% or more with clitoral stimulation. Studies show that many women require direct clitoral stimulation, often through a combination of activities, to achieve orgasm. Approximately 10-15% of women report never having had an orgasm under any circumstances."
I've found over the years most of the women I've been with do not have orgasms, per se, though they do experience intense pleasure. More women I've been with experience an orgasm through oral [cunnilingus] than intercourse. I like to have a partner instruct me on what they like and how they like it, and that communication helps a lot.
I've also experimented on partners quite a bit with the Rose Toy, with mixed results, none as spectacular as others have claimed, but impressive. Still, 'The Big O' remains as elusive as ever, with maybe 30-40% of partners I've been with able to achieve an orgasm in general. This seems to run counter to some of the stories I've read posted on this forum and in TER Reviews, leading me to wonder just how accurate some of these stories really are, or if I've just been meeting less orgasmic gals. [Or if the ladies are faking it]
Sexual health studies seem to bear out my own experience, though the average orgasmic percentage is higher in the published studies vs my own experience. My sample group is obviously much smaller than published studies. Here is one such study:
Sex researchers say 27 percent of women don't climax during vaginal sex.
ABC News [September 3, 2009]
https://abcnews.go.com/Health/ReproductiveHealth/sex-study-female-orgasm-eludes-majority-women/story?id=8485289
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Conversely, I don't always orgasm either. A lot of factors contribute to that as well, some physical, some mental.
I've found a wide variety of responses. With providers, there's one group who O very quickly which I strongly suspect are faking. But the ones who stay the course with Daty for 15-20 mins and slowly build, I think most of those are genuine, specially when you feel the pulses after. Of course some don't reach that point but seem to enjoy the ride nonetheless. But toys almost always seem to help.
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