Are you posing that as a hypothetical or did it recently happen to you?
An interesting scenario. Think I would be pissed, but then again, flattered that the girl thought the date/time was somewhat special to have used the photo.
So you're out on a dinner date with your SB. Fancy steakhouse and the vibe is top-shelf. You snap a pic of her sitting across that intimate table and she looks really good. Lighting is perfect, her smile is natural and genuine. She's dressed in casual designer clothes, and they fit her well. It's a really good pic! A one in a hundred shot!
Then she posts that pic on her profile...
Thoughts?
And let's flip the script. She took an awesome pic of you. Can you/do you post it on your profile?
Are you posing that as a hypothetical or did it recently happen to you?
An interesting scenario. Think I would be pissed, but then again, flattered that the girl thought the date/time was somewhat special to have used the photo.
The hypothetical: The pic that inspired my post was taken by me last night when I took my #1 to Ruths' Chris for my birthday dinner. We started the date at my place where she successfully blew out my candle and then insisted I give her a cream pie as dessert. Then we went to dinner for other main course. I took her pic shortly after we were seated and sent it to her. When I took a closer look at it after getting home I saw that it was a really good shot. I really don't know if she will use it for one or both of her profiles. I don't think she knows that I am aware of her 2nd profile with mostly different pics. So perhaps she will add it to that one.
The real deal: About 3 or 4 years back, I had an SB who used a pic I took on her profile. She had also used other pics I took when we had travelled aboard. In addition to her profile, some of those went on her social media accounts - all solo/without me of course. Honestly, I was somewhat annoyed at first. I remember thinking that she could have asked me if she could post them first. But once I saw that she would do that, I motivated me to look at other SM posts she had made.
And that led me to bust her for using my money dishonestly. She had asked for funds to travel to Vegas for some career-related conference. But an examination of her posts while there showed me the Chad/Tyrone/Pookie she was really there to meet (and fuck). And that motivated me to look up the conference she told me she needed to attend. Yeah, there was no such event. Now I have always said I don't care how my SB uses the money I give her. Once it's hers, it's hers. But lying to me to get $750 so she could bang some broke-ass douchebag at the Venetian Hotel? That's a disqualifying move. I ended it the day after she got back, leaving her with 4 months on her apartment lease that had to be paid by someone other than me.
Bottom line: I am ultimately ok with her using my pics for anything, as long as those pics do not disclose any info that compromises my identity or other personal info. A pic of my past SB standing in front of the Sydney Opera House? Not a problem. A pic of her standing in front of my house or car showing address or plate data? Nope. Not cool.
I get that she wants to show off to her followers. But, I would be concerned that she would then be pressured to explain the circumstances leading up to the photo. That is the part that I would find troublesome.
But, that is because, my policy has always been to only engage in relationships where a primary requirement is total discretion. I expect that she is not sharing the existence of our relationship, or the details of our encounters, with anyone, ever. Period.
This was with an SB from a couple of years ago -- and we both used pics we took of each other. Since we didn't have an exclusive relationship and she said she was not monogamous, I did not have a problem with her using my photo (it was a good one, nothing too sexy). For myself -- I don't have many good images of myself in the wild, and selfies are awkward, and usually turn out poorly, so I was happy to have it. We split amicably and still are in touch from time to time, although we never discussed the issue of photo usage.
I could care less if the SB uses pics I took of her to add to her profile, even if we were on vacation that I paid for . My current SB posts pics I took of her on her IG account and I do on mine too. I realized early on in my sugaring career that I had to completely give up any kind of possessiveness if I was to keep a calm mind.
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