I see a sex buddy NON provider friend about once a week on her way home from her work. Our time together is fantastic except for one problem. She's sometimes less than fresh in her vaginal area, you know what I mean. It's NOT strong, like as in a yeast infection.

Please, LG what's the best way tell her about this problem, since she loves DATY. How can I do this in a discrete way without hurting her feelings. Thanks.

Uh oh, giddyup1979,

This is an issue of "embarrassing odors," as they used to call it in my time, before there were matter-of-fact commercials for yeast medications.

Yes, you should bring it up to her, since this could be not just a sign of a yeast infection but actually something more serious. For sanity's sake, I assume you wear a condom during penetration, but that still doesn't change the DATY issue. Unfortunately there is no way to be discreet about it, since the problem isn't. It's in your face, pun intended. Hence:

You will need to tell her that LATELY, her vaginal scent (don't say smell or odor, those are sensitive words) has changed. Tell her that you are a little concerned FOR HER and hope that it isn't anything serious. Ask her kindly, "maybe just wash yourself to see if I can still pick up the different scent" and then perform the actual experiment. Since she's on her way home from work, you may wish to put out a nice towel for her and some non-allergenic, non-scented liquid soap. Or maybe she doesn't like to wash in your bathroom? Not to cast aspersions, but some men's bathrooms are scary dirty to women - really.

Of course you are not her gynecologist, nor should you be put in a position to give her advice. But her diet may have changed, or she really may have something going on in her vaginal area. Or, she may just be odorous from a day trapped in tight clothing. Winter months are dreadful in that respect - women trap their vulvas in pantyhose, tight pants, extra layers, all of which conspire to choke the airflow in the genital area.

If you display concern and care, her embarrassment, if any, will dissipate quite quickly. And if your bathroom is nice and pleasant, hey, maybe you can both go in there and have some rocking shower sex?

Just a thought,
The Love Goddess

It's actually a stale smell from a mix of urine and lack of air circulation. We usual meet at a local hotel.

about the 'change in scent' - always a delicate way to put it without saying "you stink."

In France, they call those happy hour hotel interludes 'Le Cinq á Sept' = The 5-7. Apparently a national pastime over there. Better than drinking for sure!

Ha!
The Love Goddess

go down on your lady after a long day at work or an evening of dancing.  Natural bushes, untouched by grooming devices of any type frequently made it a rather intense olfactory experience, even if everything else was OK from a health standpoint.  Ah, flower child bush- now that was something to behold.  And I know the "old hippie" reading this knows what I mean.

But we were so glad to get them out of their panties that the last thing we were ever going to do was complain.  We'd just suck it up and go for it.

I'm afraid the younger generations don't realize how lucky they are now that shaved, waxed, or at least trimmed pussy is in vogue.  Plus, what could be more beautiful than the enticing visual image of the soft petals of a woman's labia?  I wonder if my GF ever figured out what was on my mind when I bought her Calla Lilies?

I have had girlfriends myself in the past, so I completely understand the issue at hand.
I ALWAYS do the dip-n-sniff on myself before letting anyone go near me downstairs.
If I wouldn't go there, then why should my guy or my girl?
Try that before going in for the kill.

Here is a suggested translation that is simple which might appeal.

Man-glish:
I really want to eat your pussy but it smells nasty. Did you just get out of the gym or what?.

Say this:
I have a surprise for you. I have already started your bath, so I want you to go relax and I'll come join/get you in a little bit. (As LG suggested, have some nice smelling LIQUID soaps to chose from)

All you need to do now, is get a bowl of fruit, turn down the bed, put on some soft music and light a candle.
It will take you all of five minutes at the most.

Now, you go into the bathroom and sit behind her in the tub if it allows, otherwise kneel on the floor next to it, wash her back, then kiss her and wash her pussy in a teasing way to ensure its freshness and encourage her arousal.

What's the surprise?
You being sensitive and putting some effort into making her think she is special to you (you'll get points, I promise)AND you get a clean yummy pussy.
Everyone wins!
Just a suggestion.
SF