So I've dipped my toe in and gotten a number of responses, which, based upon what some people here have said, seem to be largely pros working SA. One wants to meet for drinks tonight and texted me her number. Googled it, and yep, she's a pro. Now she's said nothing yet about P4P, but I imagine if I text her I'll get the pitch. So the question is: do I text her, or not? I just offered meeting for drinks, with no expectations (I have somewhere else to be, so can't), but I'm wondering if she's hoping once I've started texting, the little head will take over. Truth is, her rate according to TER is far above what I'd be willing to pay. And I've already learned you don't pay for the initial meet.

here on TER and see if she has reviews.

One. Should have mentioned that initially....it's OK, but not spectacular, and her rate on there is above what I'd pay..

what 's your mental problem that you need to veer off topic and slam some provider you've never met because you don't like her rates?

I mean we're here for the same reason, right? But I do adjust my playbook. If a lady has posted anywhere else as a pro I see no problem in saying to her, hey I saw a picture that looks like you while browsing on TER or wherever and wondered if that's you.  Are those rates what you are looking for dating here on SA as well?  

Sorry, I just can't help myself sometimes. lol

AFAIK, the 50/48 year old was never a provider. Why slam her? Well, a few reasons. First, it was literally in her second e-mail, which I thought was a bit gouche and very offputting. Second, I thought it very much smacked of her not really reading my profile, because if she had, she'd have probably guessed that was far above what I was going to pay. And third, because I noticed she keeps changing her profile (making herself younger), in an attempt to see what works, apparently. Makes me wonder how honest she was being.

about who you were referring to, but my "off topic veering" comment still applies.

I pay for the privilege. lol