I recently had a wonderful time with a provider. She was giving me a wonderful bbbj, and after awhile I took over and we mutually jerked me off- with her doing an unbelievable job on the boys- it sent me into whimpering, rubber-legged slobbering fool- for about 15 minutes. And then boom, my erection was gone. She was saddened because she thought she had failed me-
BUT- I loved it. The sensation of her tongue and lips on by sack was out of this world.

So LG, could I have had an orgasm without ejaculating?

I have experienced it. Orgasm and ejaculation are distinct and separate events.

Yes, it happens for me regularly.  I remember reading somewhere that the cum can get routed to the bladder.  Ladies will say something like, "You didn't cum.  It felt like it though."  Just smile, kiss her, and assure her that it felt like you came because you had a wonderful orgasm.  You just don't need to ejaculate.  The two things are not necessarily related.

Anyway, if you felt like you had an orgasm, then IMHO you had an orgasm!  Even if you didn't "have an orgasm", who gives a damn what some scientist defines as orgasm if it turned you into a, "whimpering, rubber-legged slobbering fool- for about 15 minutes."  Rejoice brother and call her for another date while her dance card still has openings.

Absolutely!!! I can have multiple orgasms and never ejaculate. (I am male by the way........LOL)

I've met one of the providers from it and she showed me how to have multiple orgasms without ejaculation.

It's fabulous.

My answer to that one, orgasm-smorgasm...

A resounding YESSSS!!!!!!! I call them "dry orgasms." It seems some men are able to achieve them with tantric exercises; for others, they come naturally. They can precede or follow an orgasm with ejaculate; and, oftentimes they do occur during a fabulous BBBJ! They also seem to appear with age, although I have heard from one male that he began to experience them at the tender age of 25. Lucky dawg!

So now that you've officially become a member of the orgasmically privileged, please enjoy these sensations as often as possible.

I'm having penis envy right now
the Love Goddess

Want to trade?

You made my day! I feel so much cooler now- and thanks to the others for the info.  I cant wait to experience it again.

One of the things I love is the feeling of a man literally shaking on my bed from an orgasm, or LACK of ejaculation. I have had three clients who I have achieved this with. The situation almost always involves bbbj, with a prostate or perenium massage. The last gentleman I was with had 2 ejaculations prior to this and then I sent him into space with a prostate orgasm that literally! made him pass out. So yes, those ejaculationless orgasms are real and YOU are not the only one.

Alyssa

I have been having this experience during oral sex with my ATF for a few months now. Eventually I have an ejaculate type O as well but I've been having at least one "dry O" during our sessions as well for a while now...it is an amazing feeling...

It happens to me frequently... It isnot unsual for me to have multiple orgasms with providers while ejaculating maybe half or even one third of the times.   Go with it......... It's great for me!!!

I wasn't sure just exactly what it was.  Fortunately, I was with an experienced provider who read the confused look on my face, (amazing how 'in tune' some of those gals can be with us guys!), and gently asked about the experience.

  Up to that point, I didn't know anything about dry O's. That was several years ago, and about half of my O's are dry these days.

  I actually enjoy the dry ones more, it seems they're more intense, and last longer.

I wasn't sure why, but I have had this experience with several providers recently.  ONe of the things that makes it so intense is that the provider doesn't stop the stimulation because she doesn't think I have cum yet.  Now that I see it's normal (does always happen with oral) and age (I'm 48), I look forward to more.

set of feelings for me.  There was the 'WTF?' reaction, there was a bit of dissapointment, i.e where's the Roman candle?, and there was undeniable convulsive pleasure.

I'm almost 54 and discovering (with incredible angst and dismay) that second pops are becoming very elusive and at times impossible to achieve without several hours of recovery time.  First time to the plate...no problems and it always ends with a fantastic climax. Next time around it seems as if my mind and body are telling me I'm completely sated despite the presence of a beautiful partner willing to go again and my former memories imploring me to get back in the game.  Agonizingly frustrating...


In any case during the two aforementioned sessions, I was with provider's who would not take no for an answer during Round 2. As others have experienced, it was oral sex that took me to this strange new world of invisible ropes.

I hope I learn to embrace it to the point of looking forward to it but that may take me some time.

Great topic...    

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I would love to find a true tantric provider in NY/NJ that can teach and help me explore tantric sex.

There are plenty of skeptics around who don't believe that orgasm and ejaculation are distinct and separate physiologically but as the guys here can attest, they're wrong.

It took me a long while to realize that not every orgasm leads to ejaculation.  There's nothing wrong with that - each one is great.

Expecting ejaculation every time is a huge mistake.

Just learning to relax and enjoy each and every orgasm, small or large, makes a huge world of difference in self confidence.

Your own enjoyment (and not someone else's standards or expectations) is all that matters.

It is important, however, to explain to a partner that you are multi-orgasmic, so she'll understand why you're 'taking so long'.

"Why aren't you done?"

" 'Cause with each shudder
I forget any rudder.

I don't have
just one big one."

I had my first one a couple weeks ago.  Wouldn't have believed it if it hadn't happened to me.  

Thanks, Holly.

Swim

I've occasionally had it both ways. The "O" without the "C" is a long, quivering experience! But the "C" without the "O" is not satisfying at all.

I once had a bf who had his prostate removed. he could have mind blowing Os just no cum it didn't bother me one bit lol

"The Multi-Orgasmic Man" by Mantak Chia and Douglas Abrams Arava (Harper Collins) is an excellent book. It provides a great deal of information about breathing methods and how to use Kegel exercises to help achieve non-ejaculatory orgasams.

Most of my orgasms are now "dry". I find that many providers do not know about this aspect of male sexuality, and think that it isa "problem" to be solved by Viagra or Levitra or herbal products. Some do nderstand. I had one "dry" orgasm where the provider continued to stimulate me so my O lasted for ten minutes. That was unusual.