Dear bowl47,
You MUST be a very nice guy, because otherwise women would not want to be friends with you. So that's one GIANT variable in your favor!
As to the "main reason" being a severe overbite..for some reason, I'm a little skeptical on that one. It may be that you have focused on it because it has bothered you to such a degree that it has made you very self-conscious and therefore affected your romantic relationships overall?
In any event, I am pleased that you have found a pleasurable sexual outlet by meeting with providers..there are so many nice ones! But I am curious as to why you feel guilty. Is it because you feel that you are taking advantage of another human being? Or is it because you feel it's [egads, drumroll please] MORALLY wrong???
If that's the case, please stop immediately. Providers you meet through TER are generally - and I mean an overwhelming majority - in this business to a) make money and b) do it in a way that satisfies a multitude of needs. They are generally NOT abused women who have been driven to this type of work for lack of better opportunities. Instead, they have realized that sex is a commodity and a service, and like many other services in this world, it should be available for a price.
And of course, there are zillions of providers who just LOVE their jobs. Yep, it is true. If you don't believe me, post your message on the General Discussion board, and you'll see how many ladies will volunteer to help you get rid of any guilt feelings your psyche can muster. So please don't feel guilt or discomfort for the ladies...they are doing very well in this world, thank you.
Now, some of those guilt feelings may have their roots in your upbringing, background, religious beliefs, etc. Many people bring up their children to believe that providers are low-class, bad, amoral, etc. And then those beliefs linger in our heads as toxic arrows of morality, threatening to pierce every shred of fun we may have when consorting with not just providers, but anyone highly sexual for that matter.
So what can I do to absolve you? Well, I say the POX ON GUILT!!! No more! No más [since I'm in LA, LOL.] Guilt in this case is a wasted emotion. And on top of it, if you have a shred of the heebie-jeebies underlying your "nice times," you'll just be more tense and avoid having sexual contact for as long as possible....and that just derails your training wheels for meeting with potential "civilians."
I say, don't wait until your fly is ready to burst open - get out there and practice, practice, practice, with every provider your wallet can handle. The more contact you manage to cultivate with women, the easier it will be for you to realize that overbite or not, ultimately, it's your PERSONALITY that will seize the day..and the lady, in the end.
Don't despair, just go for it,
the Love Goddess
-- Modified on 7/21/2007 5:03:57 PM
