How often do you hear this responses from a SB when discussing PPM?! What are some of the best comeback lines you have used? Not so much looking for insults, though those would be funny to read, but how do you best turn around a potentially awkward conversation with either wit or charm?
but this is one situation that calls for a lie, considering that actually I AM looking for a prostitute, just a different breed of prostitute. lol
As I am sure Herb and anyone else here with a sales backround will agree the very first thing you do when you get an objection is to recognize it, and agree with it before attempting to overcome it. So the very first thing I do is to say in response to her something along the lines of "That's great because I am most certainly NOT looking for a prostitute" As I conceded earlier I tell a little white lie because in all honesty I still LOVE hookers and all I really want from most of the SB's I see is sex, but I don't want to chase off potentially great SBs by being brutally honest too quickly. lol
Once I have diffused the situation a bit and she no longer believes I am looking at her simply as a piece of meat I try to gently steer the conversation back to the subject of sex, while of course being sensitive to the fact that making her feel like she is a hooker will doom the arrangement before it ever starts. I typically will next say something like "I certainly don't want to be with a woman who will jump into bed with just any man who offers her money, I hope you aren't that kind of girl" I will go on to say that I am not even interested in having sex with every woman I meet on the site and that there has to be something "mutual" between us before we move on to having a serious conversation about being intimate with each other, but then to make sure that she doesn't start thinking that I am some sucker who is going to take care of her every whim and need and all she has to do is make google eyes at me and hold my hand I will add something to the effect that "but yes, I am a normal guy and I do hope that if we click you are going to be open to having something more than just a platonic friendship with me, but only if we "click" of course, and I think the best way to find out is to meet in person for dinner or drinks where we can find out if we like each other or not. Are there any nice places you have been wanting to try? I would love to get to know you better" and then the ball is in her court.
Lastly, if a POT SB seems dead set against having sex, I simply drop it. I want a girl who enjoys sex, and if we have to play some mind games so she doesn't feel "cheap" I don't mind playing along for a while so she will feel good about being with me, even if our "relationship" ends up with her only being a weekly booty call. lol
You sure sold me with that post and I consider myself a tough sell. You wouldn't happen to have a very nice bridge in Brooklyn, that you would be willing to part with, for the right price? After reading your post, I just may be willing to listen to your pitch about the bridge.
What a salesman! Bravo!
I really wasn't planning on selling it, but since you asked so nicely, I "might" be convinced to part with it. For the right price of course. lol
I just wanted to add a comment to "she no longer believes I am looking at her simply as a piece of meat". I agree completely with this idea. I actually enjoy the mentor aspect of sugar dating, maybe some of you guys do also. It's a real boost to my tiny male ego to have a young beauty interested in what I can teach her. Recently I had a date with my tall slim model-beautiful blonde SB. We had a fine romp in bed, and then we began talking about personal finance and investing. I wound up giving her quite a nice lesson and she wants me to teach her more. And on the way out the door she told me she loves spending time with me because I don't just treat her like a sex object. In truth, she's one of the very best sex objects I've ever had. On some level she knows this, and she visits me knowing I''m gonna make her cum many times. But I think it's the mentor/mentee aspect of our arrangement that allows her to think about it in an even more positive way.
So, you're selling very expensive condoms with a free demonstration?
First, just as Gambler recommends, I agree with her by saying yes, Sugar Dating is distinctly different from prostitution. One is a consensual form of dating, the other is a crime. And of course I tell her there has to be a real mutual attraction. I know I can't fake it nor would I ever want you to. I prefer PPM because it preserves both of our freedom and independence. Furthermore, any kind of weekly/monthly allowance has really bad negative unintended consequences. It always results if the SB feeling obligated, even when she's not in the mood. And it makes the SD feel entitled, because he's paid in advance. These feelings are inevitable and total buzz kills. But if I give you a gift per visit, then every time we get together both of us know, at the very least, we both want to be there. Zero obligation or entitlement. Hope this helps!
Nicely worded. I am going to steal that line. lol
so glad to see TER back online or at least accessible without going through Canada. lol
In fact I just had to "convince" a young lady who initially said she didn't want any money at all and that she just wanted was someone to date who would just carry their own weight to reluctantly accept ppm. After our M&G and we made a date (for tomorrow) she texted and said she still didn't understand how this all worked. (spidey sense elevated) I smell a few dates and then a HUGE request. So, I told her I could never be a "big amount at one time guy" and she would do better just accepting the ppm and stash it if she didn't need it.
Generally the ones desperate for money let you know early on. Few have the patience to play the long con.
Well, if you reach a point where she makes that statement, you are already on the wrong path. Use these occasions to do a reverse check back up the path of your messages to/from her to try to find the point where you sent her down the defensive "not a hooker/ho/skank/whore/prostitute" path. You may be able to find that key message that flicked her clit (...sorry, I meant ear) and triggered her reaction.
But as GaGa recommends (no surprise that I agree with him) you will need to acknowledge her objection head on and talk her back off the ledge. Comments like "Of course not! That's the opposite of what I want." and "You know, I'll admit I have gone down that path before in my (40/45/50/55/60, etc) years on this planet and I can tell you that is not why I am on this site. To be fully transparent, I'm looking for someone who shares my love of life and fun and who can also maintain her own life when she's doing other things." Then follow up with something like "but we both know that the magic of these types of arrangements is that we can be open and honest with each other and ensure that we both get what we want from our time together with no judgements or bad faith actions."
Then; wait. Stop. Don't say anything else... no matter how long (minutes, hours, days!). Just wait for her to reply.
If she does, you are back on track. If she does not, move on. Even if she eventually replies months after, you have left the door open to pick up where you left off. Resist the urge to slam her or burn that bridge because you are insulted or you think she did not show you the proper respect a man deserves. This ain't a macho ball slinging contest. It's how you lock down sweet SB pussy.
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As always sound advice Herb.
I am still mystified by the number of SBs that have stories about guys with childish behavior during messaging. Whether its calling the woman names if they can't come to $$ terms or are just plain outright misogynists.