Do women like it fast or slow?

I just timed myself. My ideal frequency is 2.8 to 3.4 thrusts per second. Is it too fast for most women? Or that's done only in porn? (I've never seen other men do it in real life.) My ATF seems to like it. I'm not sure about other providers.

With my ATF, I always stop periodically to make sure that I'm not hurting her. I can never be sure whether her reaction is out of pleasure or pain. She would ask, "what's the matter?" Then I would start again knowing that she's ok.

Am I being over sensitive?

Thanks.

-- Modified on 12/1/2006 3:37:07 PM

Hey, pal, unless she pushes you away, wants to change positions, or says "that hurts!" keep on going for it! BTW, that seems like a lot of thrusts per second. More power to you.

-- Modified on 10/28/2007 11:35:52 AM

How about a little too analytical, BBrain,

Perhaps we must all pinch ourselves to remember that this board is frequented by intellectual people, and that we can get a little carried away with quantitative issues and skills ;-D

I can GUARANTEE that most women do not time the thrusts, or even have a universal preference for one or the other. It really depends on who is on the other side of that penis - on both ends of it, that is! Some women may like it jackhammer style from you; others may want it slow and deeep - also from you!

Of course, you don't want to hurt the one you make love to. And that's why it's always prudent to ask. But if you've got a woman clawing your back and screaming, "faster, faster, more, more," I would probably go for it and ask questions later. Hell hath no fury like a woman unscored...

Diff'rent stokes,
the Love Goddess

. . . I was thrusting sitting on my chair, holding the watch. In any case, I pump like those porno hunks.

That thrust frequency is awesome. Either you have a short one or you have something that Guiness should look at.

I can't go on forever. I need so rest, especially when she screams "deeper, deeper." However I derive most pleasure from quick, short strokes; that's how I come.

Stopping abrupting is my way of asking "are you OK, should I keep going." My ATF always look at me like "why do you stop?"

Thank you, Love Goddess. From now on I'll stroke now and ask later.

I'll not forget a provider who would pull me in deep, lock eyes, and the only movement for awhile would be our breathing. She called it an *eye fuck* and afterwards she was even wetter than when we slid to a halt. Heaven!

Should I discuss this sometime with my current AFT? I don't mean bringing it up as a comparison. Just suggesting it as an idea.

Without prior discussion, the halt might get a *what's wrong* look. Funny, this little part of the brain that monitors the self and says *keep on thrusting or she will think you have run out of gas.*

Sometimes, though, total trust of self and the partner sweeps in, the little monitoring neurons deactivate, and pure communion and union take over. Ah!!!

if you keep this up... don't worry about the details and just enjoy the moment... one way or the other, your partner will surely let you know... just gets confusing because many times no means yes, yes means more, more means well... you get the point.

I beleive in using instinct. Sometimes you fuck (deep hard strokes) sometimes you make love (nice and easy). Whatever the moment calls for. Learn how to multitask, fuck or make love, or both.

was staring into the eyes of a lovely lass I just met while stroking her chin.

Alas, nothing more came to pass as she was another's, yet I wouldn't trade in that moment for the best three lays in my life.

To you, Shawn; where ever you are.

I think every man should watch Sex And The City to gain ideas about what to do, but especially what not to do.  (Try Season 6, Episode 82 for this particular subject.)

I didn't sit in my chair and time thrusts, but I can say that most women don't really like the jackrabbit or jackhammer approach.  Fast thrusts are fine as long as there is some depth and you're not lying all your weight on her, which men tend to do when they get going and forget they weight at least 50 lbs. more than said lady.

Kate

Kate,
Good advice as a man I forget about the differance in size, we can hurt a women and not know it.
Thank You

. . . 135-137 lbs.

. . . I have a short member.

Women are built differently inside, too, so what feels good to one woman might not for another, or sometimes it feels different depending on the level of arousal (which also changes the interior landscape somewhat).  I think most women will  position theirselves to receive the best sensation or let you know what to do.  I think she will tell you if it really hurts, so  I definitely would NOT STOP

Maybe a better question for your ATF is "show me what feels good to you" rather than "does that hurt" b/c she might be more forthcoming with that approach.  It's more positive.

It'll get her sore. And you won't be
able to vary WHERE you're stimulating.
I do slower and sometimes stop so
I will last longer. But I'm 49 y.o.