So my newest addition to my rotation is a 19 year old Latina who lives 8 miles from me. She's out of work (at a tattoo shop) due to the virus and we had our 1st BCD about 3 weeks ago. I've previously talked about how submissive she is (or at least she acts like she is).  Spanking her ass, slapping her tits and face, forced BJ's, choking (on the sides, never crush a windpipe!) and various name calling are all ok and even encouraged.  As I counted, she had at least 3 orgasms over the 2 hours we were knocking it out.  Score another win for us old, fat guys!  
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The day after our first date, she had to leave town for 2 weeks. I texted her every 4 or 5 days to keep in touch and she replied.  I texted her again last Monday to see if she was back - and she was. We set up a 2nd meet for Friday (yesterday) at 11:00 am. We confirmed day and time the night before, and on Friday I was ready to go (shower fresh, man-trimmed, and bedroom prepped for fun) at 10:45 am. So... at 11:00 am, no show, no text.  I texted her at 11:15 am and she replied a minute later - "sorry, just woke up, didn't sleep well...But I still want to see you." We reset for 8:30 pm last night. She showed up on time and headed to my bathroom to shower - always a good sign.  (Side note:  Despite it's "hookerish" appearance,  I really appreciate this about her, especially as I love going down on a fresh pussy.  Too many times, I've had to disengage, or suggest we take a shower together with other SB's.) Now there's nothing "first time" about the above. I just wanted to set the scene for this...
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She comes to my bedroom from the shower wrapped in a too small towel (that was a deliberate - it's the only towel I put out) and lays on the bed next to me. We start to play and after I spend some quality time in Australia (i.e.: "Down Under," get it?), she says "I feel like giving now.".  No objections from me!  
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As she starts to blow me I decide to ramp up the Dom stuff to a much higher degree.  I immediately tell her its time to take her punishment for being 8 hours late and start to porn-style aggressively face fuck her.  Now, a porn star I've  previously banged once told me that face fucking in porn is all role play, and that no girl (and presumably gay guys?) really likes getting face fucked hard to the point where she's choking, gagging, having trouble breathing, crying, and when she finally gets released, drooling about a quart of saliva.  
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This girl put the lie to that. How do I know? First I asked her if all this was ok with her and she affirmed it was. But then she said "Don't hold back anymore, Daddy. Punish your little girl."  
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So I upped the game by adding face and tit slapping, choking, hair pulling, and name calling.  I mean really demeaning name calling:  "Why did you keep Daddy waiting? Only slutty little cum whores keep Daddy waiting.  Are you Daddy's cum whore? Do you deserve to get choked by Daddy?"... and so on.  
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And that's when it happened. I'd been doing all this for about 40 minutes (couldn't believe I'd been able to avoid cumming) and suddenly she started to shudder - hard. I looked down at her ass and legs and she had cum. But I mean she had CUM - she had several ounces of cream running out of her pussy, down her legs and onto my bedsheets.   Note: this was not squirting. There's all kinds of controversy about squirting; is it really cum, is it just pee or pee-like fluid? I've had a SB tell me she was about to squirt on me while riding me cowgirl and I let it happen, since we were at a cheap hotel. LOL.  That did not smell like pee, it was clear and warm.  What this SB had was creamy, like cum.  
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And that was a first for me.  She came while blowing me and getting treated like a dirty little whore. I was not directly stimulating her clit or pussy.  
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The only time I've ever come close to (no pun intended) to that in the past was a SB I found webcamming who happened to live near me. She liked to be spanked hard and usually with the back of a hairbrush or paddle.  I  had brought her to orgasm two or three times bent over my knee.  
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But this was different. This SB really got off on the "abuse" and the "Daddy" thing.  After I blew a load into her mouth that she tried but failed to swallow, she just lay back on the bed panting, and had a huge grin on her face. Maybe 8 minutes later, she went to the bathroom to clean up.  
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Still smiling, she returned to my bed and we did after-sex chatting for another 30 minutes. Then she had to leave, got dressed and I handed her an envelope with her $$$ allowance as we walked to the door.  
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It turned out to be a good day, because..  
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Life is good.  
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The Cat

The four SB's I know who want to be submissive all brought it up.  I'm too chickenshit to bring it up first (afraid they'll run away.)  It's role play for me, I really don't want to hurt anyone (actual damage) but temporary pain is okay, especially if they love it.  I also spend a while after the events to just talk and chill with them.  I think that is really important if it is just role play to bring home that it is make-believe.  One reason is that if you have a chick who doesn't care if it is role-play or not, she might be a little be crazy in a bad way.  I prefer someone who can be rational, and also let out their wild side, but yet have it under control normally.

I have heard more than one SB tell me she is submissive, only to find out BCD that she really isn't. The role playing dialog is worse than bad porn, and her "submissive" acts devolve to being willing to give me a BJ (my hands stay by my side, please) before intercourse.  For this one, she seems to be the real deal, at least so far.  
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And as you mention, I'm not willing to hurt anyone.  Too many reasons why that's a bad idea:  
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First, and most important, I'm just not that guy. I do not get off on someone else's pain, even a submissive partner.  
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Next, I do get off on the submissive role play - but I make sure I recognize the fine line between "aggressive" and "sadistic" behavior. No interest in the latter.  
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Finally, I never make a lasting mark or cause physical injury.  If she really is BSC, it's way too easy for her to photo document any actual "injuries" and make a claim to LE, or parents/lawyers about abuse, rape, etc. I'm not worried about being blackmailed. Not married, no GF, no kids, retired, and my friends know I date younger (20's to 30's) women. Some friends even know I sugar, and one friend may get the occasional pic or vid of my SB nude.  (Sharing is caring.)  
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And I make a point of always being rational and respectful with every SB - every person for that matter - outside of sex play. Add to that I always explicitly ask permission before initiating anything, and I wait for explicit approval/permission. Just not worth the risk of assuming.  
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Life is good.
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The Cat

Sounds like a remarkable session with a remarkable woman!  congrats! I've met one girl recently who really loves being hit on the ass HARD and treated aggressively.  It's not really my thing, but I do the best I can for her and am always rewarded by multiple Os.  Practicing consent at every stage is truly important and makes both participants feel safe, it's the oly way to go.

I was fascinated to hear that she O'd during this activity without any vaginal stimulation whatsoever.  Just proves the old saying that the most important sex organ is the brain!  The closest I've ever had to this was one very experienced provider I used to date who did anal.  During one Greek session she had a huge O that totally took her by surprise.  She said that had never happened to her before, my cock was magic, and days later she woke up from a dream about it having another orgasm!  Anyway, glad you're having fun with this new SB!

Wow. What a night for both you and her!

I was once with a woman I met through CL, (back in the day) and we went for dinner and then came back to my place for nookie. After a little making out and petting, she asked me to spank her pussy with a belt. Like really SPANK her. I was shocked when she asked me but she really begged me to do it. So, I did and she wanted it hard and harder and then orgasmed really hard.

Afterward, we fucked but I think she did it for my benefit. She gave me a big hug when I was done and then left and I never saw her again.

I have to admit that pain and rough stuff does nothing for me personally, but some women dig it. My experience is that most of the time when women have said they're submissive, it's really role play. I'm cool with that and happy to get blown.

se la vie.