After a lot of trial and error, I think I finally have a solid rotation of great SBs.  First is my 36 year old Venezuelan.  She's the second one i ever met off Seeking and is my longest running arrangement so far.  The sex with her is off the charts with so much passion and intimacy.  She was insistent on condoms but by the 3rd date, she was fucking me raw.  The second is a 25 year old blond that is on the pill and loves creampies.  The sex is good but I think it will get even better with time.  The newest one is a 23 year old who is hot and also hates condoms (but not on birth control).  What I like about her (aside from the obvious) is that she has goals, and I actually think I can help her reach them with some money and some advice or guidance.  She knows why she is doing this and has a good head on her shoulders.

Not yet sure if I can manage 3 SBs.  Might have to cut it down, in which case, I think #2 will be chopped. But I'm going to give it a shot and see how it goes.  The biggest issue is that none of them can host, so it means booking a lot of hotel rooms.  It's not a problem now, but it can get very expensive in high season.  

But, all in all, as Herb says....life is good.

Enjoy them!  

First of all, congrats on your rotation!  You will always have at least one available when you desire, and that's perfect!  Don't quit browsing and chatting up new potentials though.  All arrangements end, but sometimes they end unexpectedly, so having some potentials on deck is useful!

 
As for hosting, I'm assuming you can't host yourself at home, or you choose not to.  It is quite rare, in my experience, that a SB can host, and it's a special treat when she does offer.  But usually, it's up to us to provide a venue.  Hotels are the obvious solution, but the expense can very quickly get out of hand.  And sometimes, (like yesterday for me with a new SB!) you will arrive at your venue and your date will simply fail to show up!  What would otherwise be just an annoying waste of time is also a financial loss.

 
My solution is unconventional, but it works for me in my situation.  I meet the vast majority of my dates in my RV.  I can park it anonymously in any big shopping center, my date can meet me there, and we have our own cozy, comfy, private rendezvous.  The girls seem to like it a lot!  And if she fails to show up (like yesterday!)  I simply drive home, no big deal.

 
In the past several years I have booked a hotel room for sugar dating exactly twice.  Once when I was traveling out of town and needed a room anyway, and once locally when the RV was in the shop and I had a date with my longest term regular.  Yes, running the RV costs money for gas and maintenance, but compared to regular hotel expenses, I think I'm way ahead.

Ive had 2 or 3 primary ladies going usually.  But they  fluctuate  constantly so I always have a few on deck.. Lucky for me I can host.

I can't host and wouldn't if I could.  I like to keep my SBs as far away from my real life as possible.  
I met a couple fantastic ladies who could host but they were asking too much for a PPM.  I'll keep looking though!

I currently have Six (6), and am struggling with who to drop or how to manage.

Lately have been scheduling 4 a week (none are yet open to doubling up, which would solve the problem), but this is not sustainable for many reasons.

#1 23 yo and Latin mix, #2 23 yo Middle Eastern, #3 20 yo black #4 29 yo mixed #5 29 yo Latin #6 18 yo black

I put them in order of length of time we have been seeing.  #1 and #2 expect weekly visits, the others allow me to skip weeks, but not 2 in a row.

Sadly I have to cut this in half, and have a hard time choosing.  All go raw, and three of them are “full access” (unfortunately not #1 or #2).

I have never been the one to end an SR (other than one and dones).  

Anyone politely ended a regular nicely w/o repercussions and somehow leaving the door open for later re-entry?   I don’t want to ghost, nor make up some excuse (although that is becoming more and more likely).

Rough problem to have.  Most of the time, they fall off on their own. As far as how often they can be around or just get a boyfriend.  

As far as how to pick, what are you looking for?  Is it purely the sex?  Is it the relationship aspect?  Pics?  Boobs?

Congrats on your success.  And on your ability to play 4 times a week!  But that much success can become a problem in it's own right, as you are discovering.  Too much pussy, wow, who knew that was a thing, lol!

 
I think the key problem is that you've allowed them to expect to see you every week.  For me, a weekly visit is too frequent, even when I only have had 1 or 2 regulars.  Seeing the same girl every week would start to feel mechanical, and boring.  That's just me, but every 2 weeks is perfect.  By the time my next date rolls around, it's been 2 weeks since I last visited her, and we are both truly eager to see each other again.  All my long term arrangements have been on a 2 week schedule.  One I've dated for 8 years now I only see every 2 or 3 months!  So it's always a special treat.

 
I think you could tell your SBs that you'd like to see them every two weeks.  Your life is simply too busy for more frequent visits. (Which is true!)  Maybe one or more won't accept that, esp if they are depending on the weekly $ from you.  They may end things with you.  But with 6, that's ok, right?  But it will be their choice, hopefully no recriminations, and def possibility of future visits.  I've had quite a few returnees wind up starting up anew after long absences cuz I always left that door open.  Good luck, let us know how it turns out.  

All arrangements end. Some end well, and others leave scorched earth in their wake. Most of time, you can control which path a "break up" follows. Most of the time.  

 
It's fairly easy when she turns scammer, rob, wants to change the terms in way you don't like, or she stops performing as negotiated. Addressing scammers and ROB is obvious.  Just block and move on.  The other possible reasons can be addressed by calling out her behavior (keep it professional/civil) and asking her to explain. Then if appropriate, either respectfully end the arrangement or renegotiate the terms.  

 
It's more nuanced when you want to change the terms or end the arrangement for reasons unrelated to her bad actions or performance. Here's some guiding principles to start and manage the break-up process when you want to (try to) keep an open path for future potential.  

 
Just like your original negotiations, it's always about you, never her. The most straightforward method is to let her know you have a budget issue and it's just not feasible to keep seeing her. If done carefully, you can silently imply that you are open to a reduced allowance and/or schedule frequency and let her decide if she wants to accept that. Ideally, it's even better to let her tell you, rather than you asking her.  

 
Do not say "I need to pay you less" or "I can only see you once a month".  Just imply that your budget issue means you can't fulfil your part of the arrangement, and you would never ask her to take less (i.e.: never imply she's not "worth" your time and money).  After all, you are a nice, upstanding guy who would never try to "cheap-out" on her. And the honorable thing to do here is free her up to pursue other opportunities.  

 
Possible "budget" crisis: Lost your job, family member lost job or needs medical, your investments crashed, you got hit with business or tax fines, etc.  

 
Another approach is to tell her you have a significant schedule change, like increased travel for work or family issues. If you won't be in town to see as often as promised, you won't be able to fulfil your side of the arrangement.  

 
Ok, so that's money and schedule as "cause". One more is a change in your relationship status.  If you have a wife or SO, tell the SB you really want to focus on your relationship because she deserves it, or you feel too guilty, etc.  If not in a dedicated relationship, tell her you found someone (through traditional channels) and really want to give this a chance. (Can she really blame you for wanting "true love"?)  

 
There are other approaches of course. But these may give you some ideas on what best works for you.  

 
Final thought: It is important to avoid lying as much as possible. Lies will bite you in the ass eventually. It's increasingly difficult to maintain a lie over time. And women... well women NEVER forget details. Ever.  

 
So try to base your justification on some level of truth and reality. (Ex; If you tell her you are moving out of state, it's inevitable that you will bump into her at a restaurant or shopping mall, etc.)  If/when you end up connecting to her in the future and she asks about your situation, you can give her a seemingly honest update, because you are being honest.  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

Yes, normally they do drop on their own, which hasn’t happened as quickly as I thought, which is how I got here, with three new POTS wanting to meet no less (which I have to stop that I guess).

All have great bodies (Assman), and 3 have nice breasts.  #1/#2 have decent connections, but also limit encounters as I only meet weekdays.  All are mostly about sex, but #6 likes to out for intermission.

Tough call.  I tried back to back, but that was too much in a day for me.  I know some have more than one SD, so probably just try to rotate 3 every other week, and see who drops off.

I need to stay off the site, but honestly hard to pass on strange.  It will self manage, as you say, but will miss any of them.

I think I will attempt the every other week thing with #1/2.  #4 recently lost her job, and she hosts (the only 1), so not sure how that is going to work.  Usually one cancels each week for that time, or some emergency.

But time, my member, and my wallet are all taking a hit right now.   I will let a few know the deal this week and report back.