I don't know if this is the proper forum for this question, but I'll give it a shot.

There is no one way or technique that will make her organism.  It's a matter of watching how they react, both with their bodies and with their eyes.  Some women will tell you what they want or where to go.  If they aren't enjoying it, they will quickly change positions.  

There is no universal answer that will be correct in all cases, not to mention women are a LOT more complicated in every regard than men, especially "down there" lol

Every gal seems to have a different preference on how to do it, and even then some gals' preferences change over time.  Some gals like light flicks of the tongue, others want you to literally chew on them.

I rarely DATY especially on a first time meet. For the ladies, they need to be in that comfort zone with you, to feel you. If not then they'll just look up at the ceiling checking their watches and rolling their eyes while you're going down on them...And if you're looking to give them an orgasm, let it happen naturally, it's not a contest.

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I know every woman is different. Every provider I've seen has had a different BJ style, but none of them so far have done it the way I really like it.  

the root cause for that injury?  I can only envision the conversation going something like this...

Don't dive into the "pool" so soon.

I read a comment on the General forum about giving the lady a massage first, and I've done that each time. Start with shoulders, work down the back and thighs to the calf muscles, turn her over and work up from calves to thighs to inner thighs. Then get down and caress and kiss her inner thighs, lightly running my hands over her near her vagina, but only occasionally brushing against it. Then brush and kiss the lips starting from the bottom and working to the top. Then work around the clit and in the little recess behind it (forget the name), before finally lightly licking the top and sides of the clit.  

I like to "give" and yes it does give me some degree of pleasure to make sure that even a paid companion "gets hers" but I can't imagine PAYING hundreds of dollars an hour to "give" a massage and DATY.  

It's not a lengthy massage, and I'm not spending anything like an hour. Maybe 20-30 minutes total.  

I don't think so.  First of all I love DATY so I'm doing this for my own pleasure at least to start out.  I always kneel by the bed on a pillow as Fish suggests to ease the strain on my neck. I always start softly gently kissing and licking and finally penetrating between the folds, licking into her introitus, licking upwards along her cleft and finally reaching her clit.  And that's where I spend most of my time, with occasional visits to the rest of the territory.

Like you, I do actually enjoy it. I wasn't deprived of it in my younger years, but I really didn't do much of it, nor was I worth a fuck at it until my mid thirties mainly due to having to bring a machete with me to do so back in those days. lol I am still that way, if a woman does NOT want me to eat her pussy all she has to do is grow a full bush and she won't ever have to worry about me putting my face down there.

Some are very closed, and some are wide open; then there are clitorises that stick out like a pencil eraser and others that burrow down deep.  I would think each condition would respond differently to any given stimulus.

Three guiding principle that work for me:

I'm all about the field study!  And I didn't mean to suggest that they were the same physically.

And what I enjoy, and don't like:
Mmmm...Lick and tease my clit, and tongue fuck my pussy. But, please never stick (and especially ram) your fingers in and out of my pussy. It is not a pleasurable feeling for me, and one that will dry my pussy up in an instant.  

Check Amazon:  She Comes First.  Gives you geography and suggested technique.

First of all you have to be with a girl who has suckable breasts without holding it with your hand, sensitive nipples