February 14 is coming up fast. What are your Sugar Plans?  

 
I suppose there are two top-level directions to go if you want to see your SB for this (totally made up for marketing) holiday.  

 
Seeing your SB:
1. If you have an SO, will you be taking your favorite SB out on the alternate "Mistress Day" on February 13?  
2. If you do not have an SO, will you be doing the traditional Valentine's stuff like dinner, flowers, and "romantic" (i.e.: expensive!) gifts?  

 
And if you want to avoid your SB:  
Are you planning on being too busy for Valentine's Day, because:  
- You will be busy with your SO for dinner, gifts, and hopefully BCD?
- You don 't have an SO but want to avoid the potential complications that can arise from this day with your SB? What complications? Examples include sending an unwanted romantic message if your do not want to, spending serious money on flowers, gifts, etc., when you could be using that cash for other purposes, or risk of being seen with her on V-day by your civilian friends or family.  

 
There is no correct path here. You do what works for you, of course. As always, it's YTMD (your time, your money, your dick). But either way, do you discuss your position in advance?  Obviously if you plan on a date with her you will need to discuss and schedule. But if you plan on avoiding her, do you tell her something (i.e.: lie) about what you will be doing. or do you just ghost for a few days and let her wonder?  

 
And if you will be spending on flowers, gifts (and dinner), what's your budget? Is that in addition to regular allowance?  

 
For my plans, I have no SO. I'll be taking my SB to Mortons on the 14th, plus sending flowers (1 dozen red tulips-a less-expensive alternative to roses that look good anyway) plus something called "Wicked Good Cupcakes."  
My total spend projection:  
Dinner: $350 (with tip)
Flowers: $75 (with delivery fee)
Cupcakes: $65 (with delivery fee)  
Plus regular allowance.  

   
What's your Valentine's Day play?  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

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I have no SO, so I offer specials for dinner dates & overnights all weekend.

For her and her 2 besties,, yeah I typed Besties.

Includes all meals and a driver for 3 days,, with alittle shopping $$ tossed in the mix

A friend of mine is a caterer.  So I'm having her make a custom meal for my SB and I to have that night.  We discussed not fighting through the crowds at restaurants.  It's going to be a nightmare.  Even with reservations.  Quiet, candles, some light music.  I'm picking up a bracelet I know she likes.

Last year, I had a main SB/girlfriend plus a few side SBs.  This year it's just one girl.  I'm sort of seeing another SB but she's very flakey so it's a whenever thing with her.

Current SB is pretty new and does not require a lot to impress. Last night was our Vday date because I am in her city now. Total outlay was only about $250 for dinner (which I would have done anyway) and less than $25 for a gift bag, greeting card, and package of fancy drugstore chocolates. She seemed very pleased by the gesture. Bonus: This is the week between her birthday and Vday, so it “counts” for both.

I posted elsewhere that I got off easy. Dinner date between her birthday and Vday. Our relationship is pretty new and she's very young. She was very happy with my greeting card and a bag of drugstore chocolates. We met in an east cost city restaurant, open late and known for its oysters. I had requested a cozy booth and the waiter didn't flinch or check ID when I ordered champagne for her.

 
BCD at my hotel. She wore adorable lingerie and apologized that she hadn't been able to get the garments I requested. She spent the night. And asked to see me again two day later. By that time, she had the ensemble I requested and wore it for me. I pretended not to notice when she "hid" her panties in my suitcase.

 
So my VDay was pretty good.

 
Rockford

That's the kind of nuanced subtext that can keep a guy thinking about a girl for days after their date.  

 
BUT, in another context - like if you live with your SO who may be unpacking your suitcase! - it could be a passive-aggressive nightmare.  

 
Glad it went well.  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat