Hi LG

So I have been with two providers in the last 2 weeks. These are actually the first two women I have ever been with. I am 32.

My question is in both cases I was unable to come during intercourse. Both times the girls finished me with a combination HJ/BJ. Is this normal? One of the girls told me that it is actually pretty common, but I don't know.

Could it be the condom? I am not circumcised and the condom sometimes felt like it was trapping the skin and felt a little abrasive on the inside. Or could it be nerves? Honestly before I saw any of them I figured I would come in like 10 seconds, but I lasted like an hour without coming.

I mean I am enjoying myself quite a bit no problem getting or maintaining an erection (though the first time took a little while to get started as I was super nervous) and the orgasms are great. In fact I am kind of getting turned on just writing this post remembering these encounters. Am I just concerned over nothing? It just seems a little weird and is sort of bugging me.

Please let me know what you think.

Dear phenemol,

First of all, congrats to being intact! Your sexlife will be of the gentler and kinder sort - less force and lube necessary to get the pecker off! By the same token, yes, that DOES make you  more sensitive, even to latex condoms. If you were screwing in a committed relationship, I'd probably recommend the lamb condoms [if you can stand the smell of vague sheep, LOL], but for now, you're stuck with the latex or polyurethane kind. The poly is good if you're not HUGE; in my experience they can break if pushed to the limit. Or, if you are of the larger sort, then maybe you need a Magnum? In either case, buy yourself a variety of condoms and experiment on your own until you find one that works. And I'm assuming you know how to manage your foreskin while inserting your penis in the condom, so we won't go into it.

Now, as to your situational psychogenic anorgasmia - yup, it's extremely common. What to do:

1. Stay off the joystick for a week or so. No masturbating at all - not good if you want to make sure you're going to have an explosion in the condom.

2. See if you can get together with the same girl a few times more. Familiarity in this case does NOT breed contempt, LOL - it breeds habituation that is comforting and relaxing

3. Don't push yourself. Go in there with the idea that it doesn't matter if you come in the condom or not. Performance anxiety is all in the mind, particularly if you feel stressed out by the time constraints of paid sex.

Other than that....have fun,
The Love Goddess

Great thanks for the advice I will definitley follow it. One last question do you think a little lube inside the condom might help?

I go in spurts, let me explain that.  I have cum in the condom with many ladies, and been unable to it with some of my faves.  I got a condom pop 4 times in a row, but the last 5 I was with, the condom won.  And 2 of the 5 were fave ladies of mine.  You just never know.  

One girl that was a first time visit, I popped in record time, have no idea why.  She was not the best I have been with, but it just happened.  Right now, I am probably worrying about it too much.  Just relax and don't worry about it, and I will try to take my own advice.

On the other hand, I was with one of my two top faves (I poppped in the bag with her the first 6 times I was with her) and could not pop in the bag for the second time in a row.  And it ain't for lack of trying.

Go figure.

Swim

Thanks for the reply I was worried there was something wrong with me haha. I'm probably just too worked up.

That is, if it applies to you. Reduce jerking off from 10 times a week to once or none. That will greatly enhance your possibilities of coming under ANY circumstances.

Hey just an update s I followed everyones advice here and it worked! I had the most intense orgasm of my life it was great! Thanks All.

That must explain the earth shaking I noticed the other day. Congrats!!!