Are all guys supposed to have precum? After decades of masturbating I've never noticed any, just the main load at the end. Am I in the minority for not having any? How much comes out and how soon after arousal? I'm sure it varies from person to person but it's always been a mystery to me.

Yes, coma69toast,

Please read the postings a few threads down, where a poor guy apparently has too much of the good stuff for some women to handle...

Everyone has pre-cum. It's normal. You do too, except yours is probably in the form of very tiny microscopic droplets. Of course, it's never as much as true ejaculate, but sometimes enough to lubricate nicely. And, with everything else, there's a curve; if you can't see or feel a single drop, you're probably a little on the lesser side....and the guy in the thread below is at the other end of the spectrum.

As to how soon after arousal: well, you need an erection, so that's a given. No precum will cum before its time, LOL. So, it's very individual, really. But I'd wager that for most men, it happens after arousal and during plateau [if we're gonna go the Masters&Johnson route.]

Don't worry. A lot of women do not like pre-cum for oral sex, since it can get sort of slimey. Pre-cum does not have the same consistency as ejaculate, that's for sure. It's sorta stickier, thinner, more like vaginal mucus, actually. It sticks to your gums and you can't get up and rinse, because that's a sure moodkiller. So you're kind of stuck with it [pun intended.] I have to be honest here too [since I still was a woman, last time I checked]: For BBBJ's, I prefer real ejaculate to pre-cum, although for coitus, it's da bomb. Can't go wrong there. It's the best lubricant imaginable!

Hmmm...pre-cum, Dominus te cum, ta dum, ta dum, ta dum
the Love Goddess

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I thought everybodt was the same.  I've been told I generate a more than average amount of it, but it usually doesnt manifest itself until Ive reached a full erection, backed off some, and gotten hard again, but once it starts it keeps coming at a rather steady flow
(like a drop or two every minute or so).
It is a pretty neat source of lube though.

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Thanks for the response LG. That thread below is what prompted this question although I've been meaning to ask it for a while.

Is its purpose only for additional lubrication? Women seem to create plenty of lube on their own to get the job done. Luckily my nano-sized amount hasn't caused any problems. I wonder if my gland knows when it's needed or not depending on whether I'm having intercourse or just rubbing out a batch. To me it would be strange to have stuff dribbling out whilst masturbating. I still wonder how many guys or gals on here notice this fluid in detectable amounts.

Don't sweat this issue coma69toast,

As long as you can get it up, who really cares? The pre-cum is natural and it's purpose is not necessarily to lubricate. It HAS no real purpose other than to announce that sperm's a comin'. That's pretty much it. And, when men get older, they make a lot less of the stuff.

Just ask Kinsey, LOL,
the Love Goddess

"I still wonder how many guys or gals on here notice this fluid in detectable amounts."

i ALWAYS notice...however that is because i am a total precum whore, lol. i look forward to seeing gents who produce a lot, because the sight of it glistening and dripping from their cocks is just (imo) a really really hot tangible (and tasteable!) sign of their level of arousal. even though intellectually i understand that some guys just don't produce much, some barely any at all, and it doesn't necessarily mean they're not as turned on. from a primal, submissive cavewoman standpoint, the precum thing just cannot be beat.

as far as women creating plenty of lube on their own, this is not true for every woman or in every situation. the level of a woman's physical arousal can vary greatly, so i think that a man's precum is just one of mother nature's ways of helping the process of procreation along.

As we all know, a man's urethra serves the dual function of carrying urine out of the body as well as semen during ejaculation.  Because of this shared plumbing, when sperm is ready to be released, it's necessary to flush the system, so to speak.  

The main purpose of "pre-cum" is to establish the proper pH level (acid/base) in the male urethra in order to match the vagina and, therefore, be compatible with the safe delivery of sperm.  This function can be performed without any "pre-cum" being visible outside the penis, as long as it travels the length of the urethra internally.  Anything beyond that is just something else to have fun with during sex!

How can I stay retired from this board with threads like these?  You can't get this sort of entertainment anywhere else.  LOL.

that's a very interesting explanation. From what I have been taught, pre-cum is essentially there to lubricate the urethra so that sperm can pass through, and also to "clean out" the urethra of any remaining debris and to 'loosen' potential sperm which may be 'stuck' there so it can get out with the next ejaculation. From what I understand, it changes the level of the pH in the MALE urethra, not the female's.

Where have you seen the pH level vaginal information?
the Love Goddess



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Actually, my post did say that pre-cum adjusts the pH level in the male's urethra (not the female's, which isn't involved at that point).  The vagina, as you know, is naturally slightly acidic, but a man's urethra could be much more acidic than ideal if he's recently urinated, and being off just a bit in the pH level can wreak havoc on the little swimmers.  

I can't write that sentence without thinking about that old Woody Allen movie where he's a sperm about to bail out and, of course, he has an anxiety attack when the alarm bell goes off and it's time to jump.

Anyway, as to where I read it, it's just part of the vast amount of arcane information I've absorbed over the years that I can no longer recall the source.  I guess there's a joke about aging in there somewhere- the good news is you've learned a lot of things, the bad news is you can't remember from where.  

But the study I can't recall that's really been driving me crazy for 30 years was by some university researchers that classified male personality types based on the female body part they found most sexually attractive.  For example, a man attracted to a woman's legs was found to be a different personality type than say a man attracted to a woman's breasts.  Of course, we're all boob men at some level, but they were talking about primary attraction.

Based on that approach I must have multiple personality disorder, however, because I've noticed over many years of intense observation (with no regard to my own personal safety, I should add) that my attraction to a woman's body changes significantly depending on my mood, stress level, energy level and all sort of other variables- even, for example, if I'm getting sick!  

I have no idea if other men have experienced this or not, but I always thought it was a topic the people on TER would find entertaining, if nothing else.  Of course, there have been a lot of studies about how women's attraction to male features changes throughout their monthly cycle, but this was the only thing I'd read of a similar nature regarding men.  

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I couldn't let your previous statement stand that per-cum "has no real purpose other than to announce that sperm's a comin'."

After I posted my comments you came up with several purposes above that contradicted your original statement.  

TER is not a court of law, nor are my posts Ph.D. dissertations, nor are they passages from a book which must have footnoted sources.  I'm not wrong just because I can't quote a reference.  I spent many years in college but I can't give you the author or publisher of a single one of my textbooks.  Does that mean I don't know anything?  

Rather than trying to discredit me in order to shut me up, why didn't you just write a more complete response in the first place?  

My role on this board is not the same as yours.  95% of everything on this site is anecdotal, most of it written by guys with a teenager's understanding of human sexuality.  At least my posts are well thought out and informative.  Why don't you do a search back 6 or 7 years and read some of the contributions I've made to this site, some of which have now been read over 7,000 times and linked to repeatedly.  Then tell me whether or not I meet the high standard of this board.  




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an erection is not needed for pre-cum to uh, er, come. Just kissing can start the system up, which has led to some embarrassing situations since a teaspoon or more can be present after a good time of making-out, or even dancing together closely. I'm not complaining, but I do need to think ahead about wardrobe issue sometimes.  

Also, since I have been researching and practicing various breathing technqiues and  gluteal muscle clenches for delaying ejaculation, I have seen more than a tablespoon of pre-cum accumulate over 90 minutes of solo 'practice' while maintaining an erection. I have found some Taoist writings that talk about not having every solo 'session' end in ejaculation. Over the past half year I have seen a number of benefits to this. My energy level stays higher, there is what seems to be a longer low-level endorphin wave, and when I do decide to go all the way the sensation is very much heightened and lasts a lot longer.