You can ask, but don't expect an honest answer......The truth is....

Most ladies RARELY if EVER get tested!!!!

I'm sure some ladies will respond to this protesting that THEY got tested last week etc.---- BULLSHIT!  Most "ladies" are too lazy, or won't take the time, or won't spend the money, or really don't WANT to know the results. Others figure "I always use rubbers so why do I need to get tested"?  The truth is almost NO ladies get tested with any degree of regularity.  True.

Now let's hear the ladies protest.

Asking if someone is "clean" probably leaves a pretty good chance you just killed the mood a bit...  

Politely asking pointed questions regarding a providers knowledge of hygiene and STD prevention will tell you much more about how she takes care of herself...you may even want to play "himbo" (male equivalent to bimbo) for a minute and ask as though you are seeking knowledge for yourself. Providers that are truly knowledgeable will usually take the time to talk to you about it.

Be sure to educate yourself *first* before asking questions, as most paranoia about STD's tends to come from lack of knowledge on the part of the person asking the question.


xoM

*edit for the spelling police

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How long have you been doing this?

When was the last time YOU got tested?  

You don't see a pattern here, do you?

It is a delicate subject to be sure; I think the mileage you get will depend on how you broach the topic.

There are many in this hobby that do not get tested, ever- period.  There are many who do.  It is impossible to avoid risk all together, but if you visit a provider that is practicing questionable service that is a good indication of how she views health.  That street goes both ways; if I see a client that tries to pressure me into BBFS I do no see them again.  

Although Oy Vey was exceptionally rude and over-generalized, the reality is:  those who don’t get tested (hobbyist or provider) aren’t going to be readily willing to admit it for obvious reasons.

That said, what you are actually participating in also will dictate your risk level.  Read the CDC’s website for more information.  In basic terms- contracting blood born disease is practically impossible if you are using protection, correctly- every time (for intercourse).  The other minor things can be contracted even if you use a rubber, so you have to proceed at your own risk.  General good health and prudent use of protection are your best defense.

Good hygiene, eating properly (I personally try to load up on immunity building fruits/vegetables), catching a good night sleep consistently, not smoking, not using drugs, not drinking excessively and exercising are all ways to lessen your chances of contracting.  That holds true for all illness, not just STDs.

Some of us do test routinely and keep the health department HIV status document on hand.

XO
Melanie

Timing Is Everything With Asking This Question. I Prefer To....

wait until I am balls-deep in a lady's terd cutter before asking if she is "clean."

Sure it is too late to change anything at that point, but at least you get the Hate Sex for the rest of your session...however long it lasts.


I am always amazed at the things that get asked on this board!   LOL...seriously.


Think about this sensibly...asking someone if they are clean is like accepting a review on CraigsList.  You have no way of verifying it and it can only serve to give you a false sense of security in a situation where you should never be complacent.



As for other cleanliness issues...here is a PSA for everyone:

Can you ask about STD testing? Absolutely. I wouldn't be offended at all by your question. If you ask when our time is over though, I'm going to chuckle before I give you my answer (that is kind of like shutting the barn door after the horses have been stolen). But CAN you ask? Sure.

Here is the problem though.

Ask Girl #1 if she gets tested regularly, and she will say "Of course I do!" even though the only time she ever got an STD test was 10 years ago when her high school sweetheart informed her that he had tested positive for gonorrhea.

Ask Girl #2 if she gets tested regularly, and she will say "Of course I do!" and actually mean it because she just got the results from her last round of tests last week.

As another member suggested, the best way to guage the level of safey practices by your lady love is probably by asking just about any question BUT "do you test?". If the lady can give you intelligent and informed information about STD symptoms, treatments, etc, chances are she has taken the time to inform herself and takes care to keep herself safe and clean as well.