a man can't cum. My SO included....*sigh* it's not the "just cum already" thing. It's show me you had a good time by cumming. i know it's me but still....

In my case, usually it's because of a combination of having had sex several times that day already, perhaps a half a bottle of tequila, coupled with my "Advance age" Given that trifecta, sometimes it's absolutely impossible to get me to finish for a fourth or fifth time in a given day.

You did best you could on paid time.

If you're the type who watches the clock and slam the door at the exact time no matter what then you really shouldn't care one way or another as long as you got the money in your purse!

I've had a few sessions where I could not finish...

I know with the best will in the world that a guy can't get there every single time necessarily and it may be nothing to do  with what I am or aren't doing in that moment, but as this is our job I guess we can't help but take it a bit personally - like I imagine a doctor would if a patient died while he was operating  

It was not just paid time, but also in her personal life to sometimes.

We all have our good days and bad days.
I would not take it personally either.

Make appointment without money see what happen.

Her SO is hardly going to make an appointment and show up with an envelope to see his fiancé.

In my experience, when I am having a hard time finishing and either I or she REALLY wants me to finish, the good old fashioned HJ seems to have the best chance of getting it done. Super hard, deep passionate kisses, combined with a firm grip and a lot of lube will get the job done when even BBFS will not. Skin to skin contact seems to be the secret.

She plainly states this is an issue with her SO as well and her SO is most definitely NOT "paid time"

For me, personally, if I'm really turned on I can go for hours.  You should take it as a compliment that you can keep a guy erect for a long time.

Also I don't always have to pay either.
This is why I call this a hobby and have a personal life too.
 

So trying to insult people on here is your only activity.
Just remember talking without facts makes you sound foolish.
It must be your bed time now. Lol

Here's a little tune that explains it:

Fancy8888 don't encourage the clown looking for attention on here.

I don't have experience with this, but I've heard that it works

Alcohol is the devil that dooms me lol
If I drink to much I definetly take longer or just don't finish
I never complain I always enjoy my time with the lady I am with cum or not !!
I do have to agree a good hj , lube and dirty talk almost always does it for me

first of all, when i was going through various "be here now" seminars in the 70's, something someone said always stuck with me:

You shouldn't feel bad, since I always enjoy the journey even though I may not always make it to the final destination.  Sometimes when I'm too tired or if I'm hobbying too often, it can happen.

ps dude how can you get a 9.32 for performance and feel like a "failure"?  lol obviously you are a resounding success!!

not you too!  it's not on you to make it happen, you can only help it happen baby.

tons of dirty talk while you do it.  maybe lick the boys too

When my cock is in the no fly zone, only one this works and that's 69. 90 r success rate, usually also good for extended fucking too.

...I don't recommend the finger in the booty without asking first. Some guys (just like some ladies) are exit only.

Put a vibrator on his balls

Ladies you know more than all of us.     It might be soft kisses,  caresses ,  slow grinding with boobs rubbing our chest ,  those squeezing muscles that some possess,  rubbing your own butter bean showing your hot,  a soft lubed HJ, BBBJ, and show your passion as you run the book you know.  Get me hard and get me in the gate and nothing can stop me.   Every one I see shows me something new.     Your reward is that we will be back.     Love all of you.

When I masturbate, and don't.

Often it is the man and not you. Low testosterone, high or low blood pressure, mental health issues, ED, stress, diabetes, nerve damage, prostrate issues, medications and much much more can make in difficult if not impossible for a man to cum. I cum less then half the time do to health issues myself and in no way does it reflect on the performance of the lady, nor does it mean I didn't enjoy myself. I do, even if I don't get the traditional ending. Also at times I get a dry orgasm. So at times I cum even when it isn't as obvious as normal.

Sometimes my wife can't get me there without me being drunk or going multiple times. Sometimes things just don't work and there is ZERO reason to feel bad about it. Men contrary to mith aren't always constantly ready to go sex machines.

It will make it a sure thing I will not get there. Guys are like you ladies, we aren't all the same.

I can only come through HJ most of the times. A lot of times, the girl's arm gets so tired that she has to stop. Or my penis begins to hurt from the friction even with the lube. I always tell her it is my meds and has nothing to do with her. Most of them seem to get it, but some still feel they didn't do their job and apologize profusely. If I enjoy being with the girl, I will see her again just to let her know the ending is not everything. If you have repeat clients who sometimes can't finish, then you shouldn't worry about it. We guys really have no control over this; the little head has its own mind.

Guys as a rule are simple creatures but we aren't identical. I see a few people mention prostrate play. It works for them, but not for me. GaGambler brought up lube and a HJ. A HG is the best way to get me there too but minus the lube. See each man is a little different thus communication is key. He knows what does it for him, ask. Make it fun and sexy to talk about it. Each person is different in their likes and kinks. There is no one size fits all magic button.  

I've had a couple of sessions where I didn't reach the finish line.  It's not that big a deal for me.  I'm there for the GFE activities more than the orgasm itself.  Sure, I'd like to come, but the shared erotic attention throughout the date is really what I'm paying for.  I don't get that at home--and that takes a partner.  An orgasm does not.

This happened with me earlier but hes just an older gentleman and this was out second time meeting so I already knew what to expect soooo I brought out my toy and put on a show... at least of us finishes and guys love to see a girl cum and masturbate .

You really should not talk with your own writing on here.
I mean what's wrong, you have to start trouble or need attention that bad?
It must be another slow Saturday night for you?

I think she is pissed about GaG giving Fancy8888 more attention. Lol

Sometimes it just doesn't happen.. and I have to use my hand to get there.. It's weird.. when I was younger I was a 30 second guy.. I have to be careful not to take too much Viagra and all is a lot easier..  
It's not at all about you. I hate it when I seem to be very slow getting to the promised land.. ..I thought I was relegated to one pop these days(I'm over 65).. but lately 2 are back occasionally.. Once I was with an Asian woman.. very clean and very aware of anything that wasn't spotless. Before a BBBJ.. she took out a wipe and cleaned me off (I had just gotten out of the shower..) .. We had one shot done.. she started playing with me.. went down on me and suddenly she had a FIA.. I popped immediately (which was a great surprise).. The point is.. it was a surprise and the idea that she would do that turned me on.. so things that separate the action from the feeling that it's just another day .. and the formula won't change.. is important.

I love feeling a connection and enjoying intimacy w a woman, it has very little to do w cumming. Being one and done in a short period of time, I don't want to be done if myself and the person I'm with are having a good time. Some of the best times I've had DID NOT involve me cumming. Failure, HELL NO!!!!!!!! Several times I've sensed the person I was with wasn't into and didn't feel a connection, so I let it go just to get it over with. So, bottom line Roxanne, cumming doesn't guarantee anything! Enjoy yourself and you'll never be a failure IMHO. I highly doubt a goof proof way of making a man cum exists, unless you're dealing w 18 y/o's and then all you have to do is look at them.  

You really must stop discussing anyone else's writing when you think the "S" in "SO" stands for "sufficient."
How can you win a debate with anybody when English is clearly not your first language?

as long as I was paid for it.  But you would fail my screening.  I always screen out dunces like you, PudgyPuff.

Cumming isn't the only issue. With each passing year, as with most gentlemen, the problem is the proverbial 'getting it up'. Unlike most gentlemen, the magic V drugs give me massive, lengthy headaches, thus defeating the purpose of a wonderful gfe session. So I'm on my own, trying, but unable to find the right combination of herbal remedies. Some help a little bit, while most don't.  

I don't think the sex with you, would be that great anyway.
You sound like the type of provider that rushes her clients and hates any type of kindness.
Also you don't enjoy your job and I don't waste my time. Lol
Some providers like yourself, just don't get it.

I don't care and thinking about other things.
This is a site for fun and that is what I am doing.
If I fuck up a point, my life goes on and could care less.

You're so dense with your posting, we all know who you are and most of us have put you on our DNS lists.  Enjoy beating off 4 your phun. LULZ!

The thing you don't get is, assuming things makes you sound stupid.
Also I do very well inside and outside this hobby.
I wonder can you say the same or is this fake tough girl act all you have left? Lol
You still don't understand the word fun and that is your problem.
 

My clients LUV me cuz I treat them really well (and how would you know anything about it?).  They are all gentlemen who speak and communicate like adults.  Unlike you, who writes like a ten-year-old.

it's not because of what you did or didn't do; at least that has never been my experience.

You clearly don't get it and keep making false accusations. Lol
Also you can fool some people, but you don't fool me with your business scam Afro puff. Lol

We've heard you aren't remotely what you say you are.

Because you can't help replying to every post.  Now go ahead and have the last word, which you need and cease so desperately.

I guess hearing the truth about yourself is getting to you.
Well you still have time to grow up and change your attitude.
This is probably the most action you had all week. Lol
Also you started this whole thing.
So don't play the victim now, since you can't take the heat.
 

Client didn't finish, and scheduled again with you.

As a hobbyist who does not finish most of the time, I can say that you should not feel like a failure. Every service provider I have been with was wonderful, and I had a great time. That is what is most important to me. I know a man cumming is a sign he had a good time. The only time I finished was when the service provider gave me a combination BBBJ/HJ near the end of our date.