This happened with me earlier but hes just an older gentleman and this was out second time meeting so I already knew what to expect soooo I brought out my toy and put on a show... at least of us finishes and guys love to see a girl cum and masturbate .
a man can't cum. My SO included....*sigh* it's not the "just cum already" thing. It's show me you had a good time by cumming. i know it's me but still....
Goof proof way of making a man cum.....? Help me out here gents.... what would make you cum no matter what?
In my case, usually it's because of a combination of having had sex several times that day already, perhaps a half a bottle of tequila, coupled with my "Advance age" Given that trifecta, sometimes it's absolutely impossible to get me to finish for a fourth or fifth time in a given day.
Some women look at it as a challenge and insist on "doing whatever it takes" to get me to the finish line, but what they don't realize is that sometimes the effort, especially if it's done with a hand job, will put me out of commission for an entire day or longer by actually breaking the skin.
Please don't take it personally if a guy can't finish, most likely it has absolutely nothing to do with you, your sexiness or your performance. Sometimes it really is about the journey and not the destination.
Back in my "younger days" of only a few years ago, I would often see several different women a day for days on end, that combined with 20-30 shots of tequila pretty much guaranteed that I knew damn well before starting that I wasn't going to finish unless we passed out and started over again in the morning. Truth be told, I enjoyed almost every one of those sessions as I did when I came multiple times with the same woman. PLEASE, don't let it bother you.
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When my cock is in the no fly zone, only one this works and that's 69. 90 r success rate, usually also good for extended fucking too.
Each guy is different, I'd guess. But when Mr Johnson decides to take the night off, fortunately I enjoy the dispensation of digital, mechanical and oral gratification as much. For ne, it's the enjoyment of the event, not the final score
Even on a bad night for the ladies, we horn dogs cum as often as the body allows.
In the immortal lyrics of Little Feat ... it's "when the mind makes a promise that the body can't fill" ... play on Rox. I'd guess it's rarely, if ever, you or any other quality provider ... xo
I've had a couple of sessions where I didn't reach the finish line. It's not that big a deal for me. I'm there for the GFE activities more than the orgasm itself. Sure, I'd like to come, but the shared erotic attention throughout the date is really what I'm paying for. I don't get that at home--and that takes a partner. An orgasm does not.
If I realize I might not get there, the best thing is "relax and let it happen." Just keeping it low-key with no pressure actually increases the chance that I will indeed pop. Once the whole session turns into "oh god, what can I do to make this guy come?" well, the pressure and anxiety itself will shut things down for sure. So, for me, please don't start yanking on my johnson saying "come on baby, come on" etc. Just...no. (And every guy is different. I can come from a HJ, but not if lube is used.)
Actually, an almost 100% guarantee for me is erotic fantasy. You verbalize some sort of erotic story, a little mutual masturbation, and POP.
You did best you could on paid time.
Goof proof way of making a man cum.....? Help me out here gents.... what would make you cum no matter what?
It was not just paid time, but also in her personal life to sometimes.
Goof proof way of making a man cum.....? Help me out here gents.... what would make you cum no matter what?
Make appointment without money see what happen.
Her SO is hardly going to make an appointment and show up with an envelope to see his fiancé.
I always thought you could read better than you can write. Perhaps I was mistaken?
I always thought you could read better than you can write. Perhaps I was mistaken?
She plainly states this is an issue with her SO as well and her SO is most definitely NOT "paid time"
We already have one village idiot, we don't need another.
We already have one village idiot, we don't need another.
Fancy8888 don't encourage the clown looking for attention on here.
We already have one village idiot, we don't need another.
So trying to insult people on here is your only activity.
Just remember talking without facts makes you sound foolish.
It must be your bed time now. Lol
We already have one village idiot, we don't need another.
I think she is pissed about GaG giving Fancy8888 more attention. Lol
as long as I was paid for it. But you would fail my screening. I always screen out dunces like you, PudgyPuff.
I don't think the sex with you, would be that great anyway.
You sound like the type of provider that rushes her clients and hates any type of kindness.
Also you don't enjoy your job and I don't waste my time. Lol
Some providers like yourself, just don't get it.
You're so dense with your posting, we all know who you are and most of us have put you on our DNS lists. Enjoy beating off 4 your phun. LULZ!
The thing you don't get is, assuming things makes you sound stupid.
Also I do very well inside and outside this hobby.
I wonder can you say the same or is this fake tough girl act all you have left? Lol
You still don't understand the word fun and that is your problem.
We've heard you aren't remotely what you say you are.
Also I don't always have to pay either.
This is why I call this a hobby and have a personal life too.
Goof proof way of making a man cum.....? Help me out here gents.... what would make you cum no matter what?
You really should not talk with your own writing on here.
I mean what's wrong, you have to start trouble or need attention that bad?
It must be another slow Saturday night for you?
This is what happens, when you are a smart ass and your business is drying up.
The first thing that might help, is a attitude adjustment. Lol
Goof proof way of making a man cum.....? Help me out here gents.... what would make you cum no matter what?
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You really must stop discussing anyone else's writing when you think the "S" in "SO" stands for "sufficient."
How can you win a debate with anybody when English is clearly not your first language?
I don't care and thinking about other things.
This is a site for fun and that is what I am doing.
If I fuck up a point, my life goes on and could care less.
You on the other hand, don't give a fuck about your clients and attitude sucks.
Just try changing your mindset and I can tell by your own writing on here.
Well let's say you are not old, but want to appear smart.
It's about having fun and you should try it more.
How can you win a debate with anybody when English is clearly not your first language?
My clients LUV me cuz I treat them really well (and how would you know anything about it?). They are all gentlemen who speak and communicate like adults. Unlike you, who writes like a ten-year-old.
You clearly don't get it and keep making false accusations. Lol
Also you can fool some people, but you don't fool me with your business scam Afro puff. Lol
The more you post insult comments, I keep laughing at you.
It shows you are desperate and don't know what to say on here.
I am starting to wonder, if you even have any clients the way you act? Lol
Well it explains a lot, about how you operate on this site.
Because you can't help replying to every post. Now go ahead and have the last word, which you need and cease so desperately.
I guess hearing the truth about yourself is getting to you.
Well you still have time to grow up and change your attitude.
This is probably the most action you had all week. Lol
Also you started this whole thing.
So don't play the victim now, since you can't take the heat.
Sometimes my wife can't get me there without me being drunk or going multiple times. Sometimes things just don't work and there is ZERO reason to feel bad about it. Men contrary to mith aren't always constantly ready to go sex machines.
If you're the type who watches the clock and slam the door at the exact time no matter what then you really shouldn't care one way or another as long as you got the money in your purse!
OTH if you're willing to be a little flexible believing that a few minutes extras is worth the investment of a returning and appreciative client then the first thing that will help is PATIENCE.
Sometimes guys just have an offday or tired or not feeling that well or that horny. Reasons can be many but if you notice that he's having problem then try to take as much pressure off him as possible. Assure him that to just take his time and don't worry too much about being kicked out at the exact time.
Ask him if there's anything you can do to help.
Ask him if he would like to let you take over the wheel and drive.
Last but not least it goes without saying as a matter of fact: a BJ with condom is NEVER going to help better a bad situation
I've had a few sessions where I could not finish...
For me it's a combination of my past history of physical issues combined with my activity rate...there's no one at fault, it's a function of many factors that are beyond the control of the parties involved...
For me it's important to make sure my girl understands my history and that she's not at all to blame for my issues...
I know with the best will in the world that a guy can't get there every single time necessarily and it may be nothing to do with what I am or aren't doing in that moment, but as this is our job I guess we can't help but take it a bit personally - like I imagine a doctor would if a patient died while he was operating 
Goof proof way of making a man cum.....? Help me out here gents.... what would make you cum no matter what?
not you too! it's not on you to make it happen, you can only help it happen baby.
boy i hope no one ever died when you were making him cum lol!
i am very pleased you and roxanne take your work seriously and take a man's enjoyment so very much to heart, but there's just those days... and tons of reasons why a guy isn't shooting that day. the other commentors have gone through the list already.
lol like i told roxanne, how can you get a 9 for performance and feel bad when sometimes it doesn't get to completion?
it's obviously not you girl.
damn am i going to have to book a flight and come out there and do you both so you're not so bummed?
We all have our good days and bad days.
I would not take it personally either.
Goof proof way of making a man cum.....? Help me out here gents.... what would make you cum no matter what?
In my experience, when I am having a hard time finishing and either I or she REALLY wants me to finish, the good old fashioned HJ seems to have the best chance of getting it done. Super hard, deep passionate kisses, combined with a firm grip and a lot of lube will get the job done when even BBFS will not. Skin to skin contact seems to be the secret.
The problem with this of course is when done to extremes it can rub a guy raw and put him out of action for days. So PLEASE, try not to damage the equipment.
tons of dirty talk while you do it. maybe lick the boys too
For me, personally, if I'm really turned on I can go for hours. You should take it as a compliment that you can keep a guy erect for a long time.
I tell my hobby girlfriends up front to be prepared to give me a signal when our time is up. I don't like to leave before I "finish" but I understand she has other priorities. If the "end" isn't achieved, I can assure you I have fun along the journey.
One idea, change the pace. A slow sensual cowgirl ride or BBBJ can make all the difference in finding the "happy ending".
I hope this helps 😗
Here's a little tune that explains it:
I don't have experience with this, but I've heard that it works
...I don't recommend the finger in the booty without asking first. Some guys (just like some ladies) are exit only.
It will make it a sure thing I will not get there. Guys are like you ladies, we aren't all the same.
Alcohol is the devil that dooms me lol
If I drink to much I definetly take longer or just don't finish
I never complain I always enjoy my time with the lady I am with cum or not !!
I do have to agree a good hj , lube and dirty talk almost always does it for me
first of all, when i was going through various "be here now" seminars in the 70's, something someone said always stuck with me:
"everyone is responsible for their own orgasm"
maybe, maybe not, but definitely more on the orgasmer than the orgasmee. in other words, never take it personal if your partner doesn't get to completion.
there are a myriad of reasons why someone doesn't most of which has been elucidated here already.
i would also add that ed pills tend to retard the orgasmic process.
now, maybe an orgasm would be the incredible cherry on top of a great afternoon with roxanne sundae, but i am willing to bet that most people enjoy their time with you, even if they don't complete.
as gagambler said above, it's about the journey, not the process.
do not ever take it personally. this might be tough, but i'm saying this to myself as much as to you: insist that your mind concentrate on your successes and not your "failures" in this process.
i would bet even more money that you have had more successes in your career as a provider than "failures" and i wouldn't even call them failures.
You shouldn't feel bad, since I always enjoy the journey even though I may not always make it to the final destination. Sometimes when I'm too tired or if I'm hobbying too often, it can happen.
Although when all else fails, a nice HJ often works, similar to what GaGambler described in his post. Another technique that works is a sensual prostate massage combined with a BBBJ. One provider also introduced me to an Aneros prostrate massager a few years ago. It's a device that's designed to hit the male P-spot
ps dude how can you get a 9.32 for performance and feel like a "failure"? lol obviously you are a resounding success!!
Put a vibrator on his balls
Ladies you know more than all of us. It might be soft kisses, caresses , slow grinding with boobs rubbing our chest , those squeezing muscles that some possess, rubbing your own butter bean showing your hot, a soft lubed HJ, BBBJ, and show your passion as you run the book you know. Get me hard and get me in the gate and nothing can stop me. Every one I see shows me something new. Your reward is that we will be back. Love all of you.
When I masturbate, and don't.
Sometimes, I think I'm too exhausted to climax but at the same time too horny to not try. Samething can happen on a date.
Goof proof way of making a man cum.....? Help me out here gents.... what would make you cum no matter what?
Often it is the man and not you. Low testosterone, high or low blood pressure, mental health issues, ED, stress, diabetes, nerve damage, prostrate issues, medications and much much more can make in difficult if not impossible for a man to cum. I cum less then half the time do to health issues myself and in no way does it reflect on the performance of the lady, nor does it mean I didn't enjoy myself. I do, even if I don't get the traditional ending. Also at times I get a dry orgasm. So at times I cum even when it isn't as obvious as normal.
So don't feel bad. A wise woman once said, "I am responsible for my own orgasm." It goes for both sexs. I can't always get there for health issues, sometimes I can't even get it hard. It isn't on my partner it is on my medical issues.
And one major reason not to feel bad besides it isn't necessarily your fault and is likely beyond your power to correct is it makes your partner feel bad our failing made you feel bad. Nothing puffs my ego more than giving my sexual partners a good time, and nothing is as deflating as knowing not only did we not perform as expected but we made our partner feel bad in the process. I don't intend it and why I always explain my issues from the start.
Please allow men the right to be human and fail to get there with out the shame of making you feel bad. It likely isn't on you
Guys as a rule are simple creatures but we aren't identical. I see a few people mention prostrate play. It works for them, but not for me. GaGambler brought up lube and a HJ. A HG is the best way to get me there too but minus the lube. See each man is a little different thus communication is key. He knows what does it for him, ask. Make it fun and sexy to talk about it. Each person is different in their likes and kinks. There is no one size fits all magic button.
Just to be clear, sometimes it isn't going to happen no matter what and that isn't on you. But for me to get the best shot don't pressure me or get down on yourself. A nice slow and tight HJ at the end minus the lube works best. But even if that fails is you keep it positive I will still love the journey. Often the journey beats the destination. Focus on that.
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Goof proof way of making a man cum.....? Help me out here gents.... what would make you cum no matter what?
I can only come through HJ most of the times. A lot of times, the girl's arm gets so tired that she has to stop. Or my penis begins to hurt from the friction even with the lube. I always tell her it is my meds and has nothing to do with her. Most of them seem to get it, but some still feel they didn't do their job and apologize profusely. If I enjoy being with the girl, I will see her again just to let her know the ending is not everything. If you have repeat clients who sometimes can't finish, then you shouldn't worry about it. We guys really have no control over this; the little head has its own mind.
This happened with me earlier but hes just an older gentleman and this was out second time meeting so I already knew what to expect soooo I brought out my toy and put on a show... at least of us finishes and guys love to see a girl cum and masturbate .
Sometimes it just doesn't happen.. and I have to use my hand to get there.. It's weird.. when I was younger I was a 30 second guy.. I have to be careful not to take too much Viagra and all is a lot easier..
It's not at all about you. I hate it when I seem to be very slow getting to the promised land.. ..I thought I was relegated to one pop these days(I'm over 65).. but lately 2 are back occasionally.. Once I was with an Asian woman.. very clean and very aware of anything that wasn't spotless. Before a BBBJ.. she took out a wipe and cleaned me off (I had just gotten out of the shower..) .. We had one shot done.. she started playing with me.. went down on me and suddenly she had a FIA.. I popped immediately (which was a great surprise).. The point is.. it was a surprise and the idea that she would do that turned me on.. so things that separate the action from the feeling that it's just another day .. and the formula won't change.. is important.
I love feeling a connection and enjoying intimacy w a woman, it has very little to do w cumming. Being one and done in a short period of time, I don't want to be done if myself and the person I'm with are having a good time. Some of the best times I've had DID NOT involve me cumming. Failure, HELL NO!!!!!!!! Several times I've sensed the person I was with wasn't into and didn't feel a connection, so I let it go just to get it over with. So, bottom line Roxanne, cumming doesn't guarantee anything! Enjoy yourself and you'll never be a failure IMHO. I highly doubt a goof proof way of making a man cum exists, unless you're dealing w 18 y/o's and then all you have to do is look at them.
Goof proof way of making a man cum.....? Help me out here gents.... what would make you cum no matter what?
Cumming isn't the only issue. With each passing year, as with most gentlemen, the problem is the proverbial 'getting it up'. Unlike most gentlemen, the magic V drugs give me massive, lengthy headaches, thus defeating the purpose of a wonderful gfe session. So I'm on my own, trying, but unable to find the right combination of herbal remedies. Some help a little bit, while most don't.
I'm definitely at the crossroads of my hobby life. I search high and low to try to find ladies who will show patience and understanding, while still being incredibly hot, and responsive. I still love dfk. I still love daty. I still love touching a woman's body. I would be happy paying top dollar for that, come what may in regards to the other. But I know, by watching and talking to the ladies, and by reading threads here on the boards, that the ladies take my aging issues personally. Years ago, one atf even told me, during pillow talk, that she felt like she wasn't doing her job when her guys had 'up' and or 'cum' issues. A gentleman doesn't need that kind of pressure when wanting a comfortable gfe. I always knew that someday I would have to make a decision about her, but she retired first.
So what's an aging gentleman to do knowing down deep that the ladies want to goof proof the improbable? Well, what I've been doing is switching to fbsm, with a heavy emphasis on the fbm part, and not so much on the s part. And saving a hell of a lot of money. Even though the massage ladies are better about older gentlemanly issues, sadly there's far less kissing, daty, and touching a woman's body. I still think about that hot, wild gfe lady who would be happy with an hour of kissing, touching, and daty. But my hesitations abound
it's not because of what you did or didn't do; at least that has never been my experience.
It happened to me only once, with my favorite gal that I had seen many many times. We were having a great time during a four hour appt. and had gone through nearly two bottles of wine. After I realized that it wasn't going to happen, she actually began sobbing and crying. I felt horrible to see her so upset, but I still had a wonderful time and it was really a great date anyway.
While discussing how many times we had seen each other, she quipped "I'm surprised it hasn't happened more than once". That made me feel better, and now one bottle of wine is the limit.
A good way to cum can often be the lady doing something that is a bit unexpected or surprising
Client didn't finish, and scheduled again with you.
Same with your SO.
The only circumstance where it could be said that you had any bearing on his finishing, is if you imposed an artificial limit on the length of the appointment. Even then, it almost certainly wasn't you.
As a hobbyist who does not finish most of the time, I can say that you should not feel like a failure. Every service provider I have been with was wonderful, and I had a great time. That is what is most important to me. I know a man cumming is a sign he had a good time. The only time I finished was when the service provider gave me a combination BBBJ/HJ near the end of our date.