I even enjoyed the maintenance  comment from a less than mature, let's just person.
 

Maybe it's a bit slow and she wants to drum up some biz? Maybe she does feel a bit nostalgic and miss a good client she hasn't seen for a while? Regardless, ultimately it's nothing more than just a business call.  

damned if you do, damned if you don't.  

And even though she was a notch below my ATFs, she was still hot and fun.  So I went with the flow of things (lots of friendly emails back and forth) and we did have a second date - about 6 months after the first (she was a visitor).  She said our first date (with OTC time) felt more like a real blind date to her (hey, I am a decent-looking single guy with a touch of innocent boyish charm, so why not?).  So sure, some nice flirtation does have an impact on me.  Then again, I'm not a stooge, and it has to have some basis in reality and a connection from a date in order to be credible.  If a more mechanical lady started trying to flirt, I wouldn't buy it, and would take it as a bit of an insult to my intelligence (actually, I'd find it more amusing than anything, and would toss it up as just another funny little hobby side-bar)

purchases (car dealer, Best Buy, etc.) emailing me to tell me about the newest and greatest model and they want my trade-in (car dealer) or newest electronic gadget that I should be the first to own (Best Buy).

Whose judging? Just curious. Helps to make clear where someone's coming from. I get trolling for amusement purposes. I get that. I don't get  dating someone , regardless of their profession, past or present , and seeing hookers. Married and cheating? sure. Not married and cheating? Ummmm...no. That's just fucked up if you ask me.

Well, remember. I'm not an expert. I've only been at this two years. The balance is really hard, because every single human being is different, and you have to learn quickly how each person works. Some people are very good at it, others have to go by strict protocol based on very limited samples.

traditional monogamous pairings. Don't knock it til ya try it!

I came into this hobby so guarded, but have met some very "real" ladies that have changed my perspective on things.  When you go into these dates with an open mind, relaxed and willing to connect a little with a lady if she is an open person too, that can indeed happen, and you can both walk away with fond memories.  While it's important to be a realist with one's head on straight, being overly-cynical can make us miss out on some of the nice little things in life, like mutual acknowledgment of a fun shared time.

As soon as I posted that I knew that's what the response would be. I am not sure I would be cut out for one. More power to those that try it and are good at it. I am too...human?..maybe too weak...to try it and assume I could handle it.  That would be super hard not to let envy and jealousy and insecurity get in the way.  Sounds awesome though!  

I like being the one pursued, and I know that's almost an oxymoron here. But I'm just old-fashioned that way- and that's probably the only way I'm old-fashioned. I like them to come to me. I like to know that when someone emails me, that s/he wants to see me- not just the last chick who emailed them. Sure- I am probably "lower-volume" as a result, but it suits me and the people I see are perfectly wonderful.

All you need to do is separate sex from love. People do that in this world anyways. It is just being honest about it and remembering who you both go home to. The last five years of my marriage has been open but with rules, and I am love and lust after my wife as much as when we were monogamous, perhaps more so. Don't jump to conclusions.

Every once in a while my fave will email me....just to keep in touch. Living a few hundred miles apart she knows I'll never be in a position to request an immediate appt.

Not trying to troll here at all.  I sometimes have the same issue.  e.g:

I see a new (to me) provider.  The date doesn't live up to my expectations.  She texts/emails/etc for awhile, hoping to get me to schedule another appointment.  I don't feel any rapport or connection, so I'm vaguely annoyed--but then the messages stop (fortunately haven't encountered any truly stalker BSC-types yet).

OTOH, there are those providers with whom I quickly feel a rapport.  We both know there's going to be a "next time"--or even multiple "next times".  So when she texts me and says "So when am I going to see you again?", I'm not annoyed (although I try not to focus too much on the fact that these sorts of texts seem to come more frequently when she's trying to save up for another vacation in Hawaii or Thailand).

So I guess a feeling of rapport is a subjective matter.

In general, I do like the friendly/flirty texts/emails--if the provider and I have a real ongoing "thing" of some kind.  It works for me as part of the fantasy.

I'm sure one time with you is never enough!



Steph

Jumping to a conclusion about myself, how I would handle it.

and then proceed to do the exact opposite.

Hookers and Johns, Johns especially, all claim to be so open minded and wonder why society doesn't "get them" and then they turn around and judge everyone else by their own moral standards. Ironic, isn't it?

For what it is worth to you, I haven't hobbied since we have been together. I didn't post my response to brag. It was posted to show the OP that it can happen. His providers words can be true and heartfelt. Just don't take it too seriously. I appreciate and respect all the choices and lifestyles people choose. I don't need to judge and neither should you.  

and for the record, I am another non cheating whore monger, not that I give a shit what you think about me either.

As for what I think about you.....Naw, I am sure you don't give a shit either. lol

I'm with you Mr Twister. To each their own, I couldn't date an active provider.

No problem. I'm a troll too. Only judging you if you're cheating. That's a judge-able offense. Sounds like you're not. So, you're ok in my book. Not that you give a shit.

Assume you mean me. And yes, you're right...I would pass judgment on  a cheater.  So, guilty of judging...while saying I'm not. My bad.

Just beware when they know you so much and then they are asking for money
They want your wallet more than your cock

Against 70 year old Mohammed Ali?

Then why make the distinction that you're not a cheater? if it's so laughable? Lest you be judged? it matters in life, not on an internet forum. That much I agree with you.

The question is why jump in on a post and start making assumptions and judgements before even asking the question?  I'm sure you know what happens when you make ASSumptions.  

I didn't. I asked you a couple of questions. Go back and look..."let's see if I have this correct"... THEN I was going to judge you if you said you're seeing other women after declaring your ATF is now your girlfriend. You said you weren't....pretty much end of story. Unless you keep this up. I'm just a troll , remember? I can respond all day

Baby let's just get a bunch of this group together n have a Lil orgy lol APPARENTLY some on here just need to fuck or get fucked lol you can text or email me anytime you wish n I know whom I can n can't contact  at any time or not.  It's all in the connection n how each person feels and that person's situation.  What makes one feel good inside could in the end put a person in an uncomfortable situation (referring to one's SO) I really don't think there is a right or wrong answer on this. All depends on the individual  and that person's situation  
Love
TL

My pussy up quite nicely  
Does it make you feel good to be a dick? I love dick but on a different level than you I HOPE
Hugs and kisses
T

Dude, just because you end a sentence with a question mark does not make it a question. Your post started with "huh so let me see if I have this right. You saw a hooker. A lot. And now you and her are together. Because she is you girlfriend. And your still seeing other hookers?"
That is an ASSumption. Nowhere did I say I am seeing other providers. A question would have been - "are you still seeing hookers?"  Do you see how this works? (That's a question). Apparently you have an issue with reading comprehension (that's an ASSumption - although reasonably deduced or arguably a statement of fact).  

Email me here and I will reply with instructions so you can learn how in advance notice/ahead of time session planning you got to do to help me become available to meet you during your preferred day off. time off etc.  
Right the way meeting is impossible because I am not local.  
Nobody is really available now but they might lie to you saying they will show up in 15 minutes but the driving distance between your city and city where provider lives always interfere with that right now arrival.  
So Don't believe everything you hear.

Um my phone?  Wtf are you talking about?  I meant he beat my PUSSY up quite nicely and isn't that what I said chunky?

Since you're lawyering me...you conveniently left off the very next sentence where I asked if you are on TER for amusement purposes, rather than because you actively are seeking and seeing providers. The two questions went together.  

I tell you what is going on with open relationships or being married with a hooker: with clients she has sex with the husband she makes love.  
If the husband realizes that she loves him and not her clients then he shouldn't be jealous on her. He should know her clients don't give a rat ass about her . They just looking for a sexual service. You know what I mean? Hookers needs to be loved to like ay human beings.  
So when guys/clients disrespect hookers (and they do that a lot) those hookers will notice and deny them dates.  
So please keep this hobby respectful and lets treat hookers like human beings!

...are the messages I get from women with whom I had sort of mediocre sessions. Obviously, messages from women who I'm craving to see again excite me to maybe schedual an appointment right away. And it's happened that I got a message from a provider I hadn't seen in a long, long time and that was very exciting and only a little bit strange.