That and to help really young women experience the joy of rubbing their titties in the face of a man who might be her dad's best friend. It can be very liberating for them. Even epiphanal.


HalfHour

If i'm buying a house i don't give a shit if the agent is married, single or attached to my pito. That would be service with a swallow though

Nor do i care if he/she is green, pink, blue, red...etc

This outta steam a few; i have come to discover that most single moms are where they are by choice. Their 'former' wouldn't condone their running amok.

Flame on bretheren

E-O-M

For the first time, I came back from a session NOT thinking about how good or bad the experience was but about how I helped a human being.

She's a single mom with two kids, and I got to think about how we the hobbyists provide an efficient way for these ladies to get to the next level of their lives, which I presume is the completion of her education and getting a job on that field for a lot of them (I dated a single mom once).  

I mean, for these ladies with minimal education and low socioeconomic background, providing must be a really good way for them to move on and prepare themselves for the future of their kids.  Waiting tables only get you so far, and without family support and with kids it's hard to get an education.  

We the hobbyists are helping these families see the bright end of the tunnel and get there faster.  Yeah we get something in return but we get something in return from other charity works too (feeling good, networking with people, sharpening communications and professional skills through fundraising, etc).  

For sessions with single moms, I feel like now I can come back from them and consider the money well-spent, whether the sessions were fantastic or horrible.

as SNL's Tommy Flanagin (Jon Lovitz) used to say.

While you may be helping her buy a great future or a six pack of beer, let's be real:  we pay the money not out of altruism but because we want to have sex and this is how we have chosen to do so.

It needs no further justification.

To thy own self be true, quoth the Bard.

You DO realize that whatever story she told you about her personal life could be pure fiction right?

In all honesty I can't remember the last time a gal mentioned her personal situation to me on a first meeting...and I don't really care!  If I become a regular with a lady and we become friendly that's different but the last thing I want on a first meeting is a sob story or a guilt trip.

We are paying for pussy and the ladies are doing it to make a living. I respect that regardless of what goes on in their private lives.

I mean it goes both ways, I'd say escorts are the humanitarians for giving pleasure and affection to us gents when we need it!

It's nice to think that you're helping yes, but it's pretty funny to call it charity. Maybe because I'm still somewhat new, but I'm so grateful to these ladies that I'd almost say they're the charitable ones.

Ideally it's a nice thing for everyone involved.

Understand you did help her, because you made a choice to hire her. But I'm guessing she worked a hour, so at that point you're not helping her she's earning whatever income you've given her.

For example my yard is to huge, so I hire a lawn-man. Yes he's thankful that I've hired him, but I'm also happy that someone is cutting my yard.

Hobbying does not = Humanitarian Work, you're helping someone, whose also helping you.

Giving money to charities, or homeless people that's Humanitarian Work.

It never ceases to amaze me that the men who see us have basically the same attitude as the general public. Many think we are uneducated street urchins here because we want to better ourselves.

A lot of us are educated, intelligent and are here by choice because it is a high paying job where we are in charge of our schedule 100%.

Please pull your condescending head out of your ass. If anything we are the humanitarians by listening to your troubles and giving you physical affection.

passing out is an absolute posibility/


Hey Priapus would you please put another S in possibility for me up above? lol

Jesus H. Christ, why do you give a shit what she does with your money?  How do  you even know?  Because she told you?  Single mom with two kids?  Were you in her house dandling them on your knee?  Sorry to have to flame, but for God's sake please pull your head out of your ass before it's too late.  For every gal who betters herself to  support her education or family (on TER that may be higher than average) there are a dozen who are giving it up to a boyfried/pimp or putting it up their nose.  Sounds like someone's trying to justify spending $$ on hookers.  Do you think the whole hobby world is TER?

Oh, EOM.    Unfuckingbelievable

not a backpage girl, are you? proly never been a stripper? don't really know THAT many women who do this for a living; like more than 100?

just wonderin'

you realize that there are people, lots of people, even people who get articles published in newsweek, that would say if you are in this line of work, you are simply too damaged of an individual to know that you are harming yourself. some of them say that all such transactions are basically rape.

i think dr phil might say that your anger and strong reaction to the silly ides presented by the op indicates that you have strong issues of self-image related to your line-of-work. maybe even repressed guilt.

i'm not saying that, but others with a bunch more letters behind their name than either of us would.

what are your thought on that? i'd sincerely like to know

humbly
halfhour

Not a BP girl just speaking for myself and the handful of girls I know.

My reaction is because even clients who have known me for years and know that my life is 99.99% mainstream except for my job still think this on some level.

My reply to your articles/Dr. Phil question is as follows: This country is so sexually repressed that they must believe anyone in the sex industry is damaged. I assure you I am not damaged in any way. I was a total virgin until my mid-20's, had a stable middle class, 2 parent upbringing, have a college degree, worked in the corporate sector for years, owned a small business but chose this for the freedom and money. Period. I am also childess by choice so no scenario of trying to put food on the table. I want to become rich!

I have never once felt guilty and 75% of the people in my life know what I do as I am not ashamed of it at all. I only withhold that info from blabbermouths and those who would worry that I was in danger.

The US public is woefully and willfully blind to the fact that the internet has opened up this business to women like myself who would never in a billion years have thought of escorting had it not been for surfing the net and discovering it.

This is not to say that trafficking and non-educated women don't exist in this business, of course they do. But it seems the majority of this country, including many on TER, want to believe that represents 100% of the women who escort. I know from personal experience this is not true.

It's a business transaction, nothing more.

I buy liquor at the liquor store. It's a business transaction. Sure, it helps the store owner put food on his table but by no means do I consider myself a humanitarian.

And some of these ladies easily make several times the average guy's salary. Usually by an order of magnitude. Humanitarian my ass... lmfao.

and I thank you for accepting my reply as sincere.

I agree with you 100%. I think it's a shame that client you have known still think that on some level. I believe you, and I think that sucks.

I would like to think I am not odd-man-out on this issue, but maybe I am. I believe many women make an informed choice to be in this line of work; and it should carry no shame, nor guilt to do so.

I am beleaguered with the idea that men who are in the hobby may have a double standard and look down upon the women who provide what the men seek. I feel that double standard is what is sleazy. Not the woman, nor her activity.

My best goes out to you, with sincere wishes for success and reward in your endevours. The world need more women like you.


HalGHour

"Humanitarian"?  You gotta be kidding me.  You're just justifying your actions and covering up your underlying guilt of playing the game. Please.  Get a grip.  You're completely delusional!  If you want to do humanitarian work, volunteer some of your time at a food bank, work some charitable events, donate some goods or money.  You can't equate hobbying with humanitarian work.  I think this is probably the most ridiculous post I have ever read.  Thanks for the entertainment.

My three ATFs all have kids (one is pretty obvious) and I never feel like I am being a "humanitarian" to any of them.  These ladies are all smart and at least one has a degree.  But, this work often provides them more income than a standard job and they can set their own hours.

Professionally, I manage people and I have a few ladies with kids.  Heck, I have a few guys with a full family.  I never consider myself being superior because I am allowing them to put food on the table to feed their family.  

Bottom line, the providers (well the ones we tend to deal with) offer a service at a marketable rate.  They get the income they need (just like most of us) and we get the service.  I see it as nothing more than that.

With that said, I do understand your intent was well meaning and I personally took no offense (but then I am not a provider) but if you really want to be a humanitarian go volunteer your time or open your wallet (not saying you don't already) but in this case it is all business.

AnATLGuy

I'm going to just assume you posted this rile up the masses and are just fucking with us.  Geez.  Just admit to yourself - you like to have sexy time with them and are willing to pay the price.

If you want to go help women - go donate blood/money to the Red Cross.

“But honey, I wasn’t fucking other women. They needed my help! I was doing humanitarian work…..”

are like this, too.  Are some of them damaged?  Maybe, but it also depends on what you mean by damaged.  And who's to say I'm not damaged?  All I can say for sure is, most of the girls I know like what they do and are damn good at it.  Society, OTOH, knows jack squat.  The only reason I don't tell many people what I do has nothing to do with guilt.  It only has to do with a refusal to be judged by them and their narrow little minds.  It's just not worth the effort trying to change them.

It's hilarious...

Along with many of the answers that are not taking it too seriously. (I mean... how can you take the OP seriously?)

Regardless.. the laughs are good today and I thank you.

Can't wait to meet up with somebody newer in the business to help them move on with their "career" so I can feel like a humanitarian... LOL!

Many of them tell me when I first meet them they they are supporting their kids. They also want me to come back a regular.

Thought it was too profound for this crowd and didn't want the boys to deal with the backlash of PMs they'd get because of.

You see? I'm not a totally insensitive, selfish prick...

Yeah, so if the wife catches me then I'll be able to explain how I was just doing some humanitarian work.  After all, she once told me that I need to get more involved in communtiy activities.

What a fantastic attitude!

wow sounds like several posters would benefit from some one on one time with Dr. Suzy.. on both sides of the fence but i admit im not unbiased bout the lady being her newest convert & guest on her show:p

she is however a seriously legitimate sex therapist as well as an outspoken advocate of legal provider/hobbyist encounters and all other adult related activities in the sexual aspect.

tis just my 2 cents AND my civic duty of the HUMANITARIAN variety on this board for today  
so dont forget my gold star now ya hear? lol

xx
DD

ps pls forgive my attempt at levity as i intended only to lighten the mood on here a bit, not as an insult or to disrespect or make fun of anyone who may or may not have experienced abuse of any kind at any point.

"NO ONE is perfect unless they are a perfect ASS."