Purely from self-interest, I’m always pleased, even encouraged, when I see “I love older men” in an ad. But I’m curious: Is there truly something about older men the provider prefers? Or is she reassuring those of us who are a bit abashed about bordering old fartdom that she won’t burst into scornful laughter at the sight of our wrinkled, potbellied selves? (If so, thank you. I for one appreciate the reassurance.) Or, perhaps, is she reaching out to an age group more likely to have disposable cash? Perhaps a combination of the above? Ladies?

We are, demographically, an aging nation. The 'slightly older guy' is probably going to have a little more coin in his pocket as you allude to, a little less testosterone flowing through his veins, and a little more appreciation for these younger ladies sharing with us the most intimate of things.

That said, there was a thread on the San Diego board a few weeks back from a self identified 64 year old guy who got tossed from an appointment right after he walked in to the room. I believe it was an agency lady. He walked in, she said (words to the effect of) I don't see guys your age.

I'm not eligible for social security yet, still a few years off, but I do always include my age, just in case the lady might have an issue with it.

MfS

them not liking immature guys. The money, also.  

Some of them probably have genuine older man fetishes.

Its not just the extra fat around the middle they like, but what they really adore is the extra fat in the wallet.  Older men have more disposable cash, which suggests they are more generous and can repeat more often, the two attributes most prized by providers.  They also tend to prefer less athletic, more GFE encounters, so not as strenuous and tiring for the ladies.   If I'm wrong on this ladies, please correct me.

For many a huge part of their biz comes from "older men" so why would they not want to cater to it? And the old dudes usually have just one blast in them so there is less work involved.

Not knocking anyone here, but them the facts and it makes sense on several levels.

...for our hot looks and experienced touch. Furthermore we're more likely to accept that her 22 is actually 22 and not 28 while a younger guy would instantly note the difference.  

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Sure would be nice if one or two of the ladies would chime in here!  While I suspect each of the replies thus far is entirely accurate, I suspect we'd all appreciate the thoughts from the other side of this little equation, especially since the OP was specifically addressed to the ladies!

..."rack rates" as you call them.  The younger guys want to see high quality, high class, high-priced escorts but they can't afford to or are too cheap to pay "rack rates" so they try to "negotiate" the rates of providers they can't afford to see.  They should stick to the BP girls they can afford.

BTW, "negotiate" = cheap ass SOB.

if you don't know the answer, nobody does.

Well, I alluded to my answer in suggesting the previous responses were probably accurate.  But again, the OP wasn't looking for the male perspective, he specifically asked for input from the ladies.  And still............

No ladies chiming in!

Though I wonder, if they did, would it be an honest answer?  Or a more polite answer?

Just sayin'!

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They are so much more appreciative, kind, thoughtful, and polite. I adore my older clients, who respect me an treat me very well. I always look forward to seeing them.

Not to mention how humble I am lol. But most of all it is because I fuck them and do not fuck with them a lot of girls tell me that younger guys have caused them problems.

 In the end does it really matter why they like older guys or just the fact were lucky enough that they see us?

The gals that accept my offers would disagree with you. I am sure you know what is best for them though.

I'm old. I'm ugly. I'm boring.  Yet they're always happy to see me (as far as I know.

Everything I'm about to say is in conjunction with the reasons already list above... except for the "less work for more money" part - that's totally not the case at all from my experience, but we're all different and have different ideas of what constitutes the "work" here.  

Even though maturity doesn't *necessarily* come with age, it often does, and enough so that many girls will probably assume that it does. I've seen some great younger clients, but I've also seen a few with ridiculous entitlement issues, attachment issues, and just issues in general. Common issues - constantly trying to date me, assuming that their youth entitles them to better treatment, or just being massively disrespectful under the guise of being "cool". I can't say all older men are gems, but I hope that life's trial and error has at least polished up their approach and expectations to some degree.  

Personality counts for a lot as well. Older men are more accomplished and experienced, and thus more interesting in general. I only entertain longer dates, and so there has to be some degree of connection. A lot of younger people don't really understand the value of personal engagement here... or they get confused by it in cumbersome ways. In my civie life most of my friends are older than I am for that reason, and always have been.

Physically, I'm more into what a man can do than how he looks. Not that older men don't often look good Again, though, experience is a great teacher. Older men are *way* better in bed! They are more aware of their bodies, as well as those of females. They know what they like, or at least what they'd like to try. Younger guys are just all about their dicks... which is a problem when 1) it doesn't get rock hard lightning fast and/or 2) they cum every 15 minutes before anything even has a chance of getting good for *me*, and then just want to lay back and chill for however long their refractory period is. I was once in the company of a man who was worried about disappointing me because he just couldn't "get there" as fast as he used to. I'm admittedly sometimes a bit selfish with my satisfaction, so I certainly did not mind one bit as that gives me plenty of time to get off... as much as I want I don't want to get to graphic on a public board (more than I already have, lol)... but yeah, there is simply no comparison.  

~Mme X~

It really is no one's business to determine what consenting adults do in the privacy of their communications. If both parties feel as if they are benefiting from the transaction, then why not? You mention a "win-win" scenario, and who could really argue that point, if that is indeed the case?

...when they tell you how handsome you are or what a big dick you have or how many times you made them cum.  They wouldn't lie to you about how grateful they are that you ground them down on their rates because you're cheap, would they?

as I welcome all men of adult age as long as they are respectful and clean. In my civilian life yeah I love you old guys. The older guy I am hanging out with these days was explaining to me his Medicare lol. He wants to exercise again and he found out that the Silver Sneakers program offered at his local gym will be covered! We both are happy! So there is my input on this :

The escorts in question aren't simply "telling" him, they are SHOWING him, by their actions, that they are fine with the transaction. Why are you so concerned about what two consenting adults do? If you don't like guns, don't buy one. If you don't like abortions, don't get one. And if you or I don't want to haggle rates, we don't have to. If the ladies don't want to take a certain fee for services rendered, they are free to turn Jack down.  

But to make believe that these ladies are getting "ground down" makes you seem like these women are clueless dolts. They are business people, that I believe act in their own best interest. You seem obsessed with this topic (and Jack, frankly) as you keep bringing it up to him, and I wonder how long you plan on doing it. You are a very odd man, who claims that ALL police officers are bad so your judgment is suspect, to say the least. I would say a man living in a glass house shouldn't throw stones but I believe your domicile is no where near that durable.

A young provider I'm seeing tells me I'm a lot more respectful and polite than the younger guys she sees. No drama or problems. She must really enjoy my company. After we're done playing we just hang out and talk. Sometimes even go to dinner.

He is an embarrassment and for you to point it out while agreeing with him on most of the politics is quite telling.

I saw a lady one time for incall, showed up at her condo and the picture window had been busted out and was covered with a large piece of plywood. This was probably 10 maybe 11 years ago.

When I asked her about it she said that her BF had found out she was escorting and pitched a brick through the window. She was mid 20s at the time, so I'll assume her BF was one of those younger guys causing problems you mentioned. Granted not as a client. Not sure how long it took him to figure it out: attractive young college student, no visible means of support, but she owned the condo in question.

They give us some of their time, we give them some of our money, you're right, we are lucky.

MfSD>>>>

Good advice.This why sex workers put this in marketing ads.

I`m so happy to in this venue that couldn`t bring anything but my best to her table/bed. Great part of the session is when I`m leaving she say`s "Don`t lose my number, you`re welcome to see me anytime"

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And you find it surprising that no or few ladies want to provide an answer. I suspect most realize that trying to answer these types of questions is often like trying to walk through a mine field while only paying attention to the sky. They will be accused of "threAD" contributions (and some will be) or say something that some client doesn't like so they will start some vendetta or something or they'll say what many older guys might want to hear but then get told that's what they think we older guys want to hear so it's not believable.

I get the incentive to ask the questions -- and you can probably find such posts originating with me over the time I'm been here -- but none of them ever really seem to go anywhere. The reality here is that the business model is that of fantasy fulfillment  and for the most part we (clients) should be really happy when we get that in a fairly convincing show. When we do, spend more time with the woman and eventually you might be able to get to the truth. But those truths are going to be on a case by case basis.  

I suspect you know this already though.

Are based mostly on attitude. My attitude and their attitudes probably.
I find that between 34 and 39, guys are coming into themselves and I like that. Then they turn 40-45 and ....now they want to emulate porn, which can be good or bad depending on the porn! ha ha ha ....then at 46 they start to realize that they are who they are and are back at where they were between 34 and 39. At about 55 omg. sweethearts and at 60 down right desirable, at 70...wow, I want to lick em up and down, at 80 omg so darn cute, cuddly and sexy. geeez now I am horny.

e based mostly on attitude. My attitude and their attitudes probably.  
 I find that between 34 and 39, guys are coming into themselves and I like that. Then they turn 40-45 and ....now they want to emulate porn, which can be good or bad depending on the porn! ha ha ha ....then at 46 they start to realize that they are who they are and are back at where they were between 34 and 39. At about 55 omg. sweethearts and at 60 down right desirable, at 70...wow, I want to lick em up and down, at 80 omg so darn cute, cuddly and sexy. geeez now I am horny.  

Can't wait to see you when I'm 80. That is if I survive then. Oh heck I'm 52. Can I see you now?

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But now I can't wait for 70, for that licking up and down!

There is the other ugly side where some of them make easy robbery targets. That's the site where it is most prevalent. I don't see it too much in TER ads.

I don't recall meeting too man potbelly "older men". Many "older men" I see actually seem to take pretty good care of themselves.  
But yeah I think they are attempting to express their affinity for older men AND give them some reassurance so they don't have to ask when they introduce themselves if she/we don't mind him being of a "certain age".

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You can come see me Sounds like you have a very sweatheart attitude! And I'll lick you up and down, too!

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They go the extra mile to please me sexually. They have oral skills that are exceptional in most cases. They are not a pain in the ass and understand the boundaries of the hobby. They have lots of life experience and stories to talk about over dinner or just pillow talk. Generally they are less guarded and free spirited. Overall just more fun. There have been a few exceptions of course. However, I almost always regret lifting my age restriction.

I'm old. I'm ugly. I'm definitely boring.  Yet they're always happy to take my money. (This I know).

Is there truly something about older men the provider prefers?  

This may come as a shock to you but in this venue, as a provider, personality NOT looks, is everything. If we were even 25% as invested in looks as our clients are, we would never take appointments and would all be looking for something else to do. When dealing with crap-tastic personalities in THIS venue, we are dealing with some serious swamp dwellers that make it tough to NOT hate men after 2 or 3 of those cretans approach you. Bottom line, older guys (usually) make up for in personality what they have lost in looks and as providers, THAT is a great compensation that makes it a lot easier to enjoy our work.

 
Or is she reassuring those of us who are a bit abashed about bordering old fartdom that she won’t burst into scornful laughter at the sight of our wrinkled, potbellied selves? (If so, thank you. I for one appreciate the reassurance.)

I won't lie. That is entirely within the realm of possibility. If someone clearly indicates that they prefer older gents, it is definitely a statement that they are probably more forgiving of your appearance than you are.

 
Or, perhaps, is she reaching out to an age group more likely to have disposable cash?  

Nope, although its a nice fantasy. Fact is, it doesn't take long to figure out that older clients won't see you as frequently because they often live on budgets (that will not change in the future and they know it) so their ability to be generous or a frequent flyer is seriously limited by their realities of financial needs in retirement without an opportunity to increase or generate new income streams. So you might have more disposable income than when you were in your 30's but your medical needs, post-retirement budget, insurance premiums, and long term care considerations are now all the table with it instead now.

Old guys are (usually) sweeter to deal with, more considerate human beings and a lot more likely to understand and appreciate the value of time (his, yours and everyone else's) and the real pleasure in someone/anyone being a professional who is invested in your well being or having a good experience. It takes time and life experience to finally mature into this person.  

And that's why we love old guys. The only thing that would make them better is if they DID have more disposable income and the energy to come and see you more than once in a long while (compared to younger guys

I like older men, even outside of work i don't date men my age, in work i feel much more comfortable with older clients and we vibe well together, more likely than younger rushed clientele. Also yeah, older men are more likely to have disposable cash, but that isn't really a reason i'd include that message on an ad, because i don't care much about how much money you have, just whether or not you'll spend it on me, lol.

All that being said, I don't advertise specifically towards older men in my ads (maybe i should) i just tend to get the older crowd anyways, which i'm ok with.