hanks y'all for the comments. Yeah, I know I was asking for it. I'm still new to the ways of "wanting to date a provider" and wanting more "OTC time".  I needed that good beating!

dding one more hilarious thing about the situation.

Her for having the nerve to yap about other clients and her damn BF, and you for putting up with it and expecting OTC time. She is probably doing on purpose to let you know she is not interested by constantly bringing up other guys. Yes, I often did OTC time when I was on tour...a few times at home too, BUT that is because I have no life lol. Well, I didn't until a few weeks ago, that is. I could AFFORD to offer an extra hour or two, because I liked going out and having fun, and I did not have many friends in my area...they were all 2 hours away. Add to that, my rate was always much higher than I needed to begin with, so really...it was not free lol. If I already got 700 for two hours, what's the harm in getting a free meal too? Heh.  

Yah, I will go with this bwahhahaa. I am being nice today.

Whoa, did someone steal your handle? You were so sweet before, always yacking about "your provider" and how much OTC time you get, and now it's about revenge? So, if your provider all of a sudden says she is done with you, are you going to slash her tires? Yikes!

That's for NOW, while she's playing him like a fiddle lol. Wait til she wakes up and gets married, and he realizes just what he was...a client and a friend, but not a fkin boyfriend! Wounded and desperate women are the most manipulative of the bunch. You can say I am a bitch, but guess what...you'll never get a sob story from me unless you ask to begin with, and even then, I would not USE a person.

Thanks for the education. I don't bug providers about anything, and certainly don't expect OTC time, so I'm not sure if the venom was directed at me or the original poster.

Then you are well on your way to getting some

thanks. I'd "stumbled" on a couple actually. OTC time "suggested" doing things with me outside of the hobby.
2nd or 3rd session was super. Then later on the lady gives some OTC time, but not a full date separate from the session, more like an addon.  

wow, put it right through the heart. "never be with YOU!"

Thanks I plan to do that. I did mention I was stupid to repeat so many times with her making me feel she would see me OTC eventually. And I also said I didn't see the signs early that I was just an ATM which I should have

I know your venom was directed at me.

I appreciate the comments. There are a lot more details of course.
I realize there's nothing in it for her, because I do realize now she saw me nothing more than an ATM, never a chance  
as a suitor, despite her many behaviors and acting to convince me to keep repeating with her trying to make
me feel like I had bf or OTC chances.

Nah, most providers enjoy seeing me. In fact the lady in question in my op, wanted to see me as often as possible.

You posted because you're put off that she refuses to see you OTC (or she won't anymore) right? You said she does nothing but yap about what other guys do for her, which is a sure sign of her trying to tell you, that she will never be with you in any context but a paid one. Now, you might still get some OTC time on the day of your visit, but try calling her up and asking for no paid time and see what happens.  

You made it sound like you've been getting OTC time for years, and now all of a sudden it has stopped and you are pissed about it. You said nothing about HER sending you messages out of the blue, her initiating it, etc. or the replies here would have been much different. I am not saying you are lying, but your story sure is a changing. After the post about seeing her new car, sorry, but it sounds like you have feelings for this girl, and they are not mutual. She probably landed a Sugar Daddy and that is why she can't afford time with you unless you're paying. HE is taking her time. Boyfriend my ass lol.

Well let me clear something else up for ya darlin, we ALL "enjoy" seeing you and want to see you as much as possible, until you turn into a needy PITA that makes even such a simple job unbearable.  

Fucking. Gag. Me.  

Yes, she followed up like any other business person would. Again, readjust your expectations of what is actually going on.

I'm sure that people have said that about me...that I was 'acting' to 'make [them] feel like [they] had bf or OTC chances'...but in the few times that's happened, it's all been in their heads. I didn't deserve that condemnation from them. I was always very clear that it was a provider/client thing, albeit a very friendly one. I did enjoy their company, to some extent. But once a client steps over that line, and lets his imagination run wild...you can't put it back inside the cage. She seems to be trying to get you back on course, while still retaining your continued financial support. But it never works out that way.  

Quit being a baby.

My OP was a bit rushed. So I glossed over some of the details which I didn' t make too clear.  
But you're getting the story right, now, I had OTC time on the visits(very little time like I said, pulling teeth, maybe a half hour here and there, a little extra time on dinner to hear her spirited political views etc.) , but never on a separate day even for a separate lunch even though she said she could do it sometime earlier on when I had asked occasionally.

Or, she might have just felt put on the spot when you asked her. Maybe it was just easier for her to say yes, and make up the excuse later.  But, she coulda meant it at the time...then things changed (like, that you developed feelings she didn't reciprocate).

LOL!! I diiiiied at this part!!

So, she has never given you that much OTC time, and when you whined about it, she did her best to placate you cause you're a regular. But that wasn't good enough? And when you asked about actually going on a date, she declined? And you are.... Surprised? That she doesn't want to spend more time with you?  

I think we are in opposite ends here. Not looking to gain a SO out of this. Maybe you are not my place to say right or wrong. And it may happen for some. All I have experienced is pretty cool actual non hobby friendships coming out of this. Keep the sessions buisness even if an hour date turns into 3 or 4 9 times out of 10 ya meet. And communication between the two of ya when no date scheduled. In my mind that's better than an SO great sex actual fun conversation and genuine good times. Kind of like a fwb but a bit diffrent. Just saying if ya don't take things too seriously or come across as clingy it can be very rewarding. Good luck to ya hope ya find whatever it is you're looking for here.