I'm curious as to how guys here think they can tell if a provider is faking it.

I have almost no frame of reference, as I've only seen four providers (only two with vaginal sex, though), and my wife didn't fake it. The two providers I had vaginal intercourse with squirted, which I assume means they had orgasms (or pissed on their own beds).

One is a screamer, and between the squirting, screaming and body movement, I'm pretty sure it's for real. But I could be wrong.

How do you think you can tell?

As soon as the deed is done, jump off of the bed and walk towards the bathroom and then quickly turn around. If she is laughing, then you know that she just faked it.

Seriously, I don't even give it much thought anymore. When I was a newbie I always wanted to make them have an orgasm. I soon realized that I was spending half of my session trying to make her cum and neglecting myself. Sometimes they did,  most of the time not. Now, I don't really care. I am paying them to get my rocks off, not the other way around.
If it happens, it happens. It's no big deal either way.  

When I'm genuinely having a good time, I just want to enjoy...and sometimes a man can't tell if I've come, because I'm enjoying myself rather than screaming my head off and twitching like a cockroach sprayed with Raid.

When faking it, sometimes I've overacted to the point where I'm like, 'Come on, really now? You can't actually buy this shit!' and the guy just ate it up.  

If you don't know without being told that she's come...you'll just never be sure. LOL. But as long as you have a good time and she's not complaining, just take it in stride, and enjoy

If you honestly think she's so thrilled having you drool and sweat on her...ask her as you're getting dressed to leave...

"Hey sweetie....looks like you had at least 3 big O's...how about we do this again tomorrow...for free"?

If she says "You betcha big fella"..."I can hardly wait"...

Then she wasn't faking it.

Can you let us all know when that happens?

Would be when her legs almost crush your head while eating her out. The other times I'm not so sure.

Any lady that is in this biz can fake a head crush.

to you big guy, but you can always tell when any woman, not just a 'provider' fakes anything. Body language. If you have any clue how to read a woman on any level, you will just know.  

Make sure you keep paying to get those rocks off Mr. P. Trust me, I'm sure whomever you choose doesn't care either. Hell if I read your posts, I would be sure to fool your ass just for s&g's and I can guarantee you, you would not have a clue... and no I wouldn't be laughing.  

A 'man's' perspective....so funny. LOL

You haven't fooled me since the day you walked in here after being tossed out of the feminist movement. You can't have it both ways.

You should spend more time looking for that fairy tale of a man. Unfortunately, if you haven't found him in 50 years it is unlikely that you ever will. The biological clock does not reverse itself and you will be continuously hunting for that Romeo, but alas you will not find him on a fuck board.

I am quite content with my level of understanding the opposite gender. It is not something that drives me 24/7 like it does for you in a never ending search for a mate.  

In short, most guys have no clue. Women who are good at faking it, can control their muscles, push you out with them, gush, etc. all the while, never having an orgasm. Every woman and body is different so what one does, the next one might not. Who cares? You're paying, so as long as she seems to be engaged in the moment, whether she actually gets off should not matter. She'll get off at the bank when you leave bwahahaha fkin ha!

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come on you...you should know better than that. A fuck board...are you kidding? God, tell me you're kidding. This is a board of opinions and a place to vent and chat...NOTHING more. Please tell me you're kidding P after all of this.  

And 50? Come on....LOL. No. Certainly don't feel it until I have to move homes LOL hahaha...I'll admit my knees hurt a lil this evening.  

And no, a never ending search for a mate? No No No...I tried for one year. That is all love. And lookie where it brought me......HERE hahahahahahahahahahahahahhahahah. No such thing as love babe, you know it and so do I. Not that kind of love you read about. You can only share that with one thing on the planet.......and they are amazing 'lil' creatures..............I think you catch my drift. I don't waste my time on any others WHATSOEVER. Why should I, look at where the pathetic human race has gone.....terrible. I think a gentleman almost passed out as he was barely walking down the street a few weeks ago and I offered him a ride home. He looked like he was going to keel over the poor thing and he looked at me as if I was some strange woman but ever so grateful. Made me smile that day and it was the least I could do saving him a mile to walk, I told him to call me if he ever needed a ride but he assured me he had that covered...why don't people do these kinds of things anymore. I don't get it. It's like the human compassion has been sucked out of everyone on the planet. I'm starting to lose it too with all of the lying and how people are, but I stick to my guns for those part.

See you got me started hahahahaha

 Another instance I'll never forget...you should've seen this 90 yo gentleman who fell on ice at his mailbox on a major road and cars were driving by, he was on crutches with no right leg and he couldn't get back up...I'm like WTF....I stopped my car in the middle of the road, threw on my hazards and attempted to lift this man and then and only then did people finally get out to help. It was ridiculous and a true state of where the human race has literally GONE. Ok sorry I'm ranting. Sorry it bothers me.  

This place TER is nothing more than a place for me to write when I feel like writing, bash when I feel like bashing, have fun when I feel like having fun and simply be a woman, a beautiful, simple yet complex creature who is hiding behind an identity and chatting with you fine folks when and if I feel like it without giving a f*** of what you all think of me no more than the next guy, trust me.

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Well, this was certainly a mixed bag of opinions. I think I'll just try to drill it into the head of the next provider I"m with that I don't want her to fake things or lie, but tell me what makes her feel good and to let me know when I'm doing that right. Will it work? Who knows?

I get off just as much seeing my partner get off as I do getting my rocks off.  

If, in the end, I can't get any honesty, then I'll just have her blow me for two or three hours.

Most ladies will not tell the truth because it might effect further business. I have one guy who is the worst kisser on the planet, the whole sexual experience is bad, beyond belief, but he loves it. It is only an hour, which I keep telling myself every time I see him. Am I going to tell him he is the worst fuck of my life, no I am not. I want his money and it's only an hour.

Well, here's where I'm coming from. I'm recently divorced. Despite what friends and family tell me (every damn day), I'm not going to meet somebody. I don't want emotion, and I've had enough drama for the rest of my life.

I just want someone with whom I'm comfortable to have good sex. I want that someone to be attractive which, at my age, means paying for it. As long as I'm paying for it, I want the most attractive and all around best provider I can find.

I may have found that one already. Time will tell. If I can find out from her what makes her feel good, then I know what to do beyond that. If I can make it clear that I'm in this for maybe one to two years of seeing her  every month, maybe I can get to the point where I'm actually making her feel good as well as her making me feel good. That would be ideal.

I had such an arrangement with a young lady before I was married. I went to her apartment four or five nights a week, and we just had sex. It was great. I don't know why I ever left her for my ex.

I know that, at my age, I won't be the best fuck she's ever had. I know I won't have the biggest dong or the most muscles or any of that. But, with feedback from her, I can make her feel good (unless she wants to vomit at the sight of 60 year-old guys, in which case I'm SOL).  

I hate the "oh, you're so big", "you're so hard", "you're so strong" bull. It's so transparent I can't believe any guy would fall for it. With this last provider, I'd tell her to stop whenever she started to say such things

Provider orgasms are no where near the top.  I have a couple of very long term faves that get-off and have from the first time I saw them.  Beyond that, I have seen dozens of women over the years and, while I have known that some came no where having an orgasm, I couldn't really tell you if the ones that did were faking or not.  At the time I may have had hunches but ultimately if I enjoyed myself that was good enough for me.

Honestly the only time I knew for real that she did was when she would flinch at me trying to touch down there after I went down on her, because she was super sensitive afterwards. I've started to care less and less I mean as long as she seems to be enjoying herself. I don't mind the difference. I'm sure if I ever find a girl in the civie world she would fake it just as well. If she really wanted to she could tell me what she wanted done and how to do it. Every girls body is different you might be a stud to some girls, and a total snore to the next.

But realize this, you are paying her to be with you. If she is having a good time sexually, ie. orgasms well great but there might be a chance she isn't and if you come across as wanting something she can't do for real, the session then becomes tense and at the very least she won't see you. And that might be okay with you.  

Really, the only way to know for sure that a lady is into you is if she won't accept payment and calls you for sex. Otherwise, just relax, go with it, and enjoy yourself. Mostly you will never know if she is as into the whole deal as you are. Hopefully you find that ideal escort and live happily ever after in the land of p4p. Just be mindful that having a great expectation often breeds disappointment.

But that does not mean a woman has had an orgasm. It could mean "quit touching me, I have had enough". Much like the head crush, it can be done with no orgasm in sight