I have this situation coming up for me. Working in the medical field there are a ton of parties that I have been invited to. Parties at doctors houses, hospital parties, medical sales rep parties, and of course the company I work for.

I would love to take my ATF to one of these parties. This is not an out of town convention, nor am I out of town for training, these are the people I work very closely with and are in my community. My ATF is beautiful and charming, and would be dressed in a gown, so no issues there. We have been out on dates in this area before, but nothing like a work function. I would definitely walk in proud to have her on my arm, but since I have not talked to anyone at my work about "dating" someone. I will have people asking me where I found someone so hot and why haven't I said anything? Some of the women that will be there have asked me to go with them and I told them I was not going to make it. We all know some women can be very catty especially when alcohol is added to the mix, so I know I will have to deal with snide remarks.

Do I just not answer the questions of where did I meet her or how did you get so lucky to be with her? Obviously I could joke and say things like, she is actually paying me to be there with her. Or this is my sister (southern joke here). Have any of you taken your ATF or a provider to a local work function? How has it worked out for you?

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!  MM

If she is ok with it go for it. I've taken mine to many functions. You'll have a great time. Don't worry over the questions .

I have had the pleasure to attend many functions with my special friends. In one case I have attended his work functions on three different occasions, to where people welcomed me back each following event!

It is such a lot of fun, and a chance we ladies do not often get to dress up for formal events, so I really enjoy them.  As for cocktail parties etc, they are such a nice change of venue, meeting new people and flirting with your date, knowing what will come later!

If she is comfortable, and knows enough about you, I would encourage her to go!

would have the most to say about such a thing, not some over the hill tarts that are bored in their own marriage lol. If other married women are trying to fk you knowing you are married, that says it all. Who cares what they think, this is in your own back yard where anyone and everyone knows your wife and child. I am going to beat your ass!




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What a fucktard question.

He has put that out, so I am not revealing anything personal by saying such. I still don't think it is a good idea unless you are LEGALLY separated or divorced, because of the implications. She would certainly be told and realize that he has been straying for some time, and who wants to deal with that? I am no stranger to bitch slapping someone at a party, but I really can't do that when out with a client lol. Just saying...don't put your provider in a situation where she may actually have to fight some crazy person who wants to go there. That is a lose/lose.

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Why not play the game? You know as well as I do that some things are on here just to stir shit.

LMFAO that you bit so hard on this one.

He can add his ass to Barack Obama's unemployed rolls.

Several times by the same person , I have attended his work Christmas party which included a dinner and comedy show a wedding for his friend and a night out to watch him on stage with  band he jammed with in a public venue. No one really asked us how we met but our story was , a friend of a friend and no further questioning came up. Its always easy to engage someone in a conversation curbed to a different topic . Enjoy and have fun it's nothing to worry about and if by chance she is more popular than you may think and knows someone at your place of employment if she screened , she would remember that your place of
employment did come up in a prior screening and hopefully she would let you know to avoid
conflict .  

Happy Holidays !

Angela

Especially if it's work related.

Wow.  These guys are thinking with their cocks!!  You need to read your own post again and answer the question.  NO NO NO   Your ATF is a special secret for you and only you.  Look at these boards, there is a reason why we don't have our real names, professions, and address listed.  Guys want to CUM so bad sometimes it fucks with our heads.  That is the very reason I have sex and/masterbate twice a day

Wow I didn't read that in Obama's economic plan. If you take someone to a party you can be fired, I will have to look that one up.

Now go back and read the question. I ask "would you take a provider or your ATF?" and state that "I would love to take my ATF". These are hypothetical questions, and you got your panties in a wad. That's pretty funny

Yes, we often are asked to attend such parties, but the guy is usually out of town or not married when taking such risks. I would never consider going to an event with a married man, whose wife was so close to home and where everyone at his office knew I was not her lol. Parties are fun, and we get to dress up and play the little princess for a night..who does not enjoy that? I certainly do.

LOL.  She would be leaving the fishnets at home, huh?

And no, you can't be fired for bringing a GF to a work party even if you are married.  However, that doesn't mean certain people who consider this immoral (and might have some say as to how far you advance in the company) can certainly treat you differently if they witness this.  I once worked for a General Manager who was extremely religious.  If I did this, it would have definitely put a strain on our relationship.  

It's no different than dating a co-worker.  Is it illegal?  No.  Good idea?  Often times not.

I thought the "princess" thing was a 24/7 gig for you.

...................course I own the company so who is going to complain?   As long is there is no wife or SO to be concerned about, by all means go and have fun with her.  Several other men are always envious because of my hot date...in fact, I'm doing it again this year.



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I go out to parties with my SD's all the time. SD1 works in the silicon valley at a start up, so we always have to go to things to promote the new company. SD2 only takes me out, so...yeah.

If you have a lovely, intelligent lady that is fit for public consumption [lol] then you should take her.

I love an event!

That's believable and probably true.

A few guys bring escorts to the holiday party where I work.
Everyone can tell.
They are not exactly discreet.
I'm not saying this will happen to you. I'm sure your ATF is classy.
These girls... Not so much.
One time one of them won a raffle. 6 inch heels, boobs popping out she bounced up on stage.
My boss (the owner of the company) was handing out the prizes. The look on his face was priceless.
First of all she was all over him. Kissy kissy, and all that. It was a nice prize, but damn.
He says "Baby! Can I get some fries with that shake!" Then she did a little dance for him!
It echoed over the PA, the room went silent.
It was great! Every woman in the room was giving this poor girl the evil eye.
Every guy had a shit eating grin on!

What if he's not paying for the date and he just happens to be in a relationship or on a date with a hooker in her civilian life (and he doesn't know she's a hooker)?

Now we all know that you can terminate anyone for any reason as long as it's not an illegal one.  If I saw a person who reported to me with a gal I knew was a hooker at a party, I'd just assume he was NOT paying for the date.  There would be no way for me to prove otherwise.  Case closed.

If a Manager came to me (if I was in HR) and said they wanted to fire someone because he saw a direct report with a hooker at a work party, I'd tell him or her to go jump in a lake.  It isn't that simple these days.

Yea, I wouldn't bring anyone who has their face posted up on ads or something. And I would want to have spent time to get to know the girl beforehand too, which I'm assuming you do since she is your ATF. But why do it if you already have a wife? Do you just want to show off to your co-workers at work? Either way, not a smart move (if this is not a hypothetical).

This is a how would you handle this situation. It all stemmed from a conversation with a provider that said it's the life of a mistress, they never get to go to the Christmas parties, or Mardi Gras Balls that we have down here. So it got me thinking about how much fun I would have with my ATF at one of these parties.

Yes I do have a wife, and the rest of it is personal.

Indeed and very true . When I first started out my first month one man contacted me who is a homosexual yet hid it well. His company had a large event out west and he asked me to be his escort to the dinner and
the opera after. I was treated with the respect as if I were someone in his real world. Most of the people
who attended were from offices out of the state and out of the country and many connected via work email .He was one who stood by himself and did not want to be judged so he hired me and I have to say I felt great about the entire evening . So when someone only wants to view being an escort as a front think again because there are many , many people who hire services just for what they are supposed to be defined as such.

Ang

The question of her looking like a provider not being an issue, the only issue I would have is having her bump into another client.

In NYC, it's no secret that providers see a lot of guys in finance.  It would be BEYOND uncomfortable for a provider to bump into a client she knew at the company holiday party.  I don't even need to explain that one.

So unless you are prepared to give a list of all your employee names for the provider to crosscheck against her database of clients she has seen/screened...maybe not a great idea.

You need to ask your provider whether or not she would bump into someone she knew at your party.

I would not want this situation to become uncomfortable for either one of us. As far as this girl goes, she knows people in the medical field as well so it was never a good idea from her side or mine. It was all what would you do in this situation questions?

Thanks MM

If the provider doesn't bump into anyone that she knows as a client, then we're golden.

I would love to take a beautiful lady with me to one of the many holiday parties I attend.  One thing I would have to suggest is also to spend a couple minutes get you stories straight.  If your coworkers are like mine they are going to ask questions. Name, occupation, schooling, and other general questions.  Not to mention how you met and how long you have been seeing each other.  Even if you plan on being by each others side the entire evening there are still bathroom breaks and trip to the bar.  I am not saying any back story is wrong just that both parties may want to have the same story.  

though it was no doubt on my merits!