For the guys that said no, was just wondering why not?

Reo you feel that seeing a provider is cheating on your SO?

I wonder how many of those who answered that seeing a provider was not cheating also answered the previous poll saying they'd dump their SO if they found out she was seeing a male provider.

married man say NO because they're "vested"

i say YES because i'm single & unattached!

Reo you feel that seeing a provider is cheating on your SO?

This was an interesting poll...first off im single at the moment and seeing a provider in my mind isnt cheating.
However the second i start dating someone i simply will cease from seeing providers....again this is just me im not one to judge anyone else..just answering your post..if one has a S.O. and they see a provider,,,indeed they are cheating,
thanks and have a great week all.
Sham.

Been married 30+ years and have a good sex life at home. However, I found many years ago that I need/want variety. So, when I'm out of town on business, I see providers. I don't define that as cheating.

I have never had an affair with a civilian - I define that as cheating.

By the way, I answered "Nothing" on the poll about my SO seeing a male provider.

I am one of those who said 'no' I am not cheating.  I guess I feel that way since my SO decided some time ago that she was done with all that sex stuff and no longer feels that it is part of her marriage vow, so I feel it is no longer part of mine.  I did not want to startup an affair for fear that it would break up the family with children involved.

I also said I would dump her if I found she was seeing a male provider.  Since she pushed me away and made me go into the hobby, something I did not look to do, I would be very upset if I found that she was interested in seeing someone else.

Reo you feel that seeing a provider is cheating on your SO?

In the previous poll I answered I'd do nothing, because I don't care and wish she would find someone else and leave me alone.

....so let's leave her out of it...

I did not have sex with that woman(sounds familiar)....
we just played some friendly games of parchesi, tiddly winks, and chess(maybe not in that order)...(and the winner gets to F the loser...and visa versa)

What was the question?

A woman awakes during the night to find that her
husband was not in bed.

She puts on her robe and goes downstairs to look for
him. She finds him sitting at the kitchen table with a
cup of coffee in front of him.

He appears to be in deep thought, just staring at the
wall. She watches as he wiped a tear from his eye and
takes a sip of his coffee.

"What's the matter,dear?", she whisper's as she steps
into the room,"Why are you down here at this time of
night?".

The husband looks up from his coffee, "Do you remember
20 years ago when we were dating, and you were only
16?" he asks solemnly. "Yes I do" she replies.

The words were not coming easily. Do you remember
when your father caught us in the back seat of my car
making love?"

Yes, I remember" said the wife, lowering herself into
a chair beside him.

The husband continued.............."Do you remember
when he shoved the shotgun in my face and said,"Either
you marry my daughter,or I'll send you to jail for 20
years?"

I remember that too" she replied softly.
He wiped another tear from his cheek and said,

I would have gotten out today".


Cheers!

That question is very easy to answer, Sedona.

No she would not! If the subject ever came up, my wife and I would find ourselves on directly opposite sides of this issue. Needless to say, I have chosen never to bring it up. I'm certain that neither one of us would be able to change the other's opinion on the matter.

Of course it is cheating. People who have responded that it isn't are in denial.

It didn't have the .........

It isn't cheating because I have permission


.............. option.

That is a new one LOL Excuses..excuses...excuses. No matter how you want to put it up, you are just cheating lol

too funny. I love the excuses I hear. They get funnier and funnier LOL

Nobody makes you do anything, including cheat on your wife. Perhaps in your mind your wife has MADE you do it, but in all reality you are the ONLY one who makes the decision to have sex with women other than your wife.

A a single guy I can't relate to cheating...cause I'm not cheating anyone when I see a provider or sleep around with civilians. That's a luxury of being single and there are many more.

For the record, I think that unless there is an mutual, oral agreement between husband and wife that the marriage will be open, then it's cheating to see a provider.

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I'm a massage provider and I am married. I have only had sex with one man in the last six years - my husband. That includes giving or receiving oral sex.

I do not consider what I do to be sex. Also, my husband is aware of what I do. I believe that the only people's opinions who matter in our marriage in regard to cheating are the two of us. Ergo, I answered that I do not feel I am cheating on my SO. So that explains one of the "no" answers.

unfaithful?

Which is more important to you?

For me, that is like asking "Can I cut off the top part of your heart, or the bottom - which one?"

it sounds like some of these gentleman weren't really married before they started hobbying.  It is more like they were priests or monks that had taken a vow of abstinence.  Or maybe I have that backwards and their wives had taken a vow of abstinence and turned into nuns.

but be aware that others may not share your viewpoint.

as with anything.
I never expect anyone to agree..merely understand..
As far as relationships go - I only want (in return) what I am capable of giving, or more..but never less.
Your wording was exact - I refuse to 'settle' for anything.

Thanks for your post.

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