If you do, how do you extinguish those feelings?

When I like the person. It has nothing to do with whether I orgasm or not.

-- Modified on 9/13/2012 7:25:03 PM

when it gets me off...

Ive had feelings for clients who gave me orgasms-- but it was usually because I just digged the guy.

But no, I wouldn't say that I've ever developed feelings just because of how good a guy is bed.  There would have to be something else about him that I liked.

BUT.. I've never had feelings for a client who WASN'T great in bed.  

Coincidence??

clients.

it would be interesting to see if there is any hard data to back that up.

Anyhoo,

I don't think there is any need to extinguish the passion that either has for each other, as long as both act on it responsibly.  By that I mean, don't get too clingy.

I get off on the passion I have for many a provider.  Whether or not they do the same with me is the question.

Once reality set in and they found out that fantasy of their life was a living, breathing human being, with flaws and bad habits like every one of us, they would run for the hills when confronted with the reality of the situation.

Besides, can you really imagine being married to any one of those needs clingy manginas who make those insipid "I've fallen for a provider" type posts?

I hate to keep picking on Lungman, but would one of you girls please tell him, and those like him, that sucking up and acting needy aint sexy? PLEASE. lol

I like assholes myself, but what ya gonna do.

more careful with their feeling. I would suspect most clients would not think of that until it already happened. It almost happened to me recently.

Many guys come here looking for LOVE..real love, and not just passion. Many women do the same.

It's dangerous. Passion can and often will lead to other emotions and relationships. I don't think the natural progression is that much different than civilian dating. Once you are addicted to the emotional high of passion, it's too easy to want to continue and to want more. I get addicted to everything so it's extremely dangerous for me to go down that path. I need to watch myself constantly of new addiction.

i realize in this little corner of the world, you feel important.....so, i won't burst your bubble
just wondering why u have to buy pussy, like the rest of us un-sexy type.

Do u think the lady i'm seeing tomorrow will accept my proposal. ( i'm getting down on one knee and bringing flowers )
Maybe even a box of chocolates......then the ring.

Dear Ms. Rayne:
Because it is a psychological requirement of your role as a provider, what are some of the ways that you tend to keep yourself separated emotionally and erotically from your clients when they are in the hedonistic throes of passion? Also would you say that because you have developed that barrier, it enables you to preserve your career and be more functional as a provider in the same way that a mental health professional would be towards their patients? Finally, would you say that because you have shared thousands of erotically and physiologically charged moments as the one described above that an instance like that would be certainly old hat?

Dear Ms. Rayne:
In your extremely illustrious career as a provider,with special attention to your regulars, would you say that more of your clients tend to see you because of their physical needs or do you find that more of them come to see you because of their emotional and psychological requirements? With respect to the first question, can you tell with some accurate suspicion if some of their relationships are on the rocks predicate on how much they contact you and how emotionally and sexually deprived they are? Finally, how much would you say that you know what is going on with them more so than their wives since several clients tend to open up to you?

I would say any guy who sees me does not have many emotional issues. I make it very clear the type of man I will see, and it's not ones who need a mommy or a shrink...there are plenty of other providers for that. Now, guys that know me can feel free to open up to me, BUT they better be ready for an honest response, because I don't sugarcoat. I have talked many guys out of seeing me to be honest, because I sensed it was not what they really needed or wanted to do. But, I am all about the money lol.

most of my partners. But then again, all of my partners have made me orgasm (I do so very easily). But it never leads to something that goes beyond the walls of our playground because the partners I choose and I tend to have a good handle on this way of playing.

I will say that orgasms don't make a difference one way or the other as far as bonding, except that by taking the time to pleasure me, my partner is showing me that he is into mutual satisfaction and not just out to get his rocks off. The latter type of guy just doesn't appeal to me (and I probably don't appeal to him).

Tracey, I understand you perfectly. It was a total (and fortunate) coincidence that I happened to find your post. E-mail me if you get this!

-S

It takes more than an orgasm for me to get feelings about someone as Im sure most gents and ladies are the same.

all are fake orgasms but it feels damn good to be tricked when your my age lol

You have confused the ability and desire to buy pussy with "have to buy" pussy. I can't speak for GaGa but I'll gladly tell you why I CHOOSE to buy pussy.

1) I realized when I was married that I'll be never happy fucking just 1 woman over and over for the rest of my life. Since I don't cheat on women, I got divorced. I crave variety.

2) I'm 41. I have no problem meeting women from their early 30's and on. However, 25 year olds with perfect bodies probably are a thing of the past. I could theoretically be their father, hence they require money.

3) I don't have to lie and tell them I'll call them tomorrow or that this "relationship" has any kind of future. I have 2 FWB type women in my life right now and its not that easy to find. I don't like the bar/club scene anymore ... well not more than once a week at most these days.

4) I probably only hobby on average twice a month (some months alot more, some not at all) unless I'm on vacation somewhere. I live in an area heavily visited by traveling providers. When I see one that really catches my eye, I schedule a visit or I might finally see a local lady I've had my eye on. I also see ladies because of specific acts they enjoy and/or offer.  Between my 2 friends, my ex-wife, and the occasional one night stand, I don't "have to buy" any pussy.

5) The money doesn't matter to me. I'm by no means Bill Gates or Zuckerberg, but 1 or 2k a month won't break me either. Besides, I'm an "experiences" type of guy. I don't spend lots of money on possessions. I would rather jump in a plane and fly to Paris or Fiji whenever I want than make payments on a Ferrari.

It's just soooo damn easy. No lying, no hangovers, no cheating, no wasting my time. I pay, fuck a gorgeous woman, go home by myself. Maybe one day I'll want a real relationship again, but for now ... this is perfect. I'm willing to bet there are lots of other mongers like me.

but you probably could, lol

With the exceptions of our ages, I am 53, and the amount we hobby. I am more of a several times a week type of guy, We are quite similar in our reasons for hobbying, and our choices of what to do with our disposable income. LIke you, I would much rather hop a plane and go somewhere than make a mortgage payment on a multi million dollar home, or a five digit car payment.

I love whore mongering and will do it until I fall head over heels for some woman and start thinking of the hobby as cheating. I don't like being a cheater, so not being in a monogamous relationship works out just fine for me.

If you are seeing someone who fakes it that's too bad cause there are some of us who actually enjoy what We do. And though I cant speak for other ladies .. but I sure as hell never fake it ...  not to hurt anyones feelings but I'm the. Type of gal who really love her job and aim to please therefore it is ultimate pleasure for knowing I'm making a differnce in somones day...... don't believe me check my reviews....