Ladies and gentlemen ,

a year. There's an Italian proverb that goes like this ...

Statson, this is totally normal and probably more common than we realize.  Your monthly contribution to our lovely providers is not keeping the industry afloat.  Providers are preferred to an affair, where either party may be looking for something besides the physical.
I love my wife dearly.  I love our life together.  I do not want it to end.  But I need providers.  I need that excitement, pleasure and attraction.  Just don't get caught.

but marry her for life...

Haven't touched my wife for over 15 years.. don't worry about it.. The thought to me of even touching her.. gives me the willies..

If you don't you will loose her.     Some one will show her some attention.    Happens every day.

and btw , the caution against stupid comments is a great touch. It will absolutely guarantee that all comments are well thought out and written with intelligence.

very begrudgingly.  After a while, it was no fun and my interest with her waned.

When you are in bed, imagine that you are with a hot hooker. That will give you instant erection. Then you can fuck her real hard to completion, do a cum in pussy.  

...and it's not unusual for either partner to explore outside fun. With a lack of interest from one partner it's not unusual for that sexual spark to die. I still love my wife and still find her very sexually attractive, but I still need my goomahs

of this hobby?  We can have variety and connect with many amazing women.  Most who would never choose to be with us under normal circumstances.  No hunt, no presumption, no roller coaster ride.  We have already done all those things to find our perfect mate.  Now it is time to have fun.

I was married for decades before getting a divorce. I was never unfaithful to her. For the first twenty to thirty years, we had a fantastic sex life, although she couldn't have sex sober (I wasn't sober, either).  

It's not possible to want to fuck only ONE PERSON
for the REST OF YOUR LIFE.

any stupid comments, you are missing out on a great line.  Its okay, I don't play well with people  that take themselves too seriously.

Great post!

The Wife used that Sex stuff to get what she truly wanted---Security. That's prostitution, but it's legal.

it should be mandatory for the parents to split their "stuff"  50/50 and be on their merry way.

The two who decide to have children will  
take care of them
and
have to pay into a Fund for the children's Education

So I went to a doctor. He asked me to bring my wife to the appointment.
After talking together he asked me to step outside.

I wonder what he told her in private, lmfao.

Wow...another "this one time at band camp" story from Dave.

You don't give your age, but after you are married for several decades as some of us have been, sex is no longer an important part of the marriage. Love, loyalty and companionship are the motivations. The hobby actually helps me (and I sure many others) stay in a sexless marriage. Simply a fact of life.  

I think marriage just isn't realistic for most people. You get tired of each other, too familiar, the grass is always greener theories, etc.  

Seeing providers can be somewhat insidious because it starts to skew your perception of reality and relationships. I'm not surprised you like having sex with providers more than your wife. Why? Well it's simple, providers have a job to make you happy. When you look at the two interactions juxtaposed, it would be easy to decide which one you enjoy more.  

If she is,  I'd love to fuck her for you then, you can fuck all the ladies you want,  guilt free
Not trying to be a smartass.  I really will, if she's hot and bi!  
XOXO,  
TL

The OP might even try to romance his wife and spice things up for her. Little things go so far in marriage.  It is hard work.  Talk about your feelings to her (of course leave out the other women you've been fucking) if all else fails,  I'll take care of her lol
If you have a family,  it's totally worth it to work it out if you love her.  
You really sound like you are upset that you don't desire her more than others. Make it work,  even if you have to get some on the side but try to make it work.  Love is love. Sex is sex. You can have both in your marriage.  
Best to you and your family
XOXO
T

I suppose I should rethink it, no?  

You are Expecting / Hoping
this woman will be a certain way / act a certain way, for the rest of her life,
to make You happy.

We live relatively long lives, and dramatic changes often occur during our lives.  When my wife and I got married, I was a christian.  A few years later, some rather dramatic things happened, and I became an atheist.  She couldn't handle it, and started having affairs.

Actually I did say it before, but the post above mine was deleted, so my post disappeared along with it.

Here's the thing, why do you need to marry her? Is it societal pressure? Do you think that you need to because you want to have children?  

Personally I am glad I got married, but MUCH happier I got divorced at a young enough age to not have an iota of bitterness about what my ex wife "did to me"

getting hard with your wife.  (Sorry, could not resist.)

to abide by his request, and I don't know him well enough to know if he can take a little ball-busting without turning it into a flame war.