Hey y'all,

If you splurge on an Overnight with a provider, what's your expectations re: MSOG?  Once b4 nighty-nite, once for wakey-wakey?  Luv her up middle of the night and not get a brush-off?  More, less, varies w/ provider?

Had a recent disappointment in this area with someone I'd seen multiple times, and wanted to check my expectations with the Board.

Whatdyathink?

You'll be a happy man for it. I've never tried  overnighter sessions and I don't plan ever plan on doing one.

Before I invested that kind of $, I made sure they understood that it entailed at least 6 hours of play time (2 hours X 3 sessions), 8-10 hours sleep for them and meals.   If the play time exceeded that, then great.  

This made sure that there was no confusion going in.

That is a discussion you would have been better off having w/ your provider prior to the overnight. Since you indicate you have seen her multiple times before a detailed discussion should not have been a problem. Do not recommend this however if she is someone you have never seen or only seen on one or two occasions however.

I've done this with a relaxed appointment in an evening and then a wake up call.

Here's another thread on overnights. I think a convo before the date concerning the activities is in order. You know what they say about the word "assume"

There are no hard and set rules about this. It should be something you talk to the provider about before doing the booking.

Some women hate morning sex, some women don't want to be waken up in the middle of then night.

Overnights are a main staple of my companionship - I do them often and I usually do multiple overnights.

With my gentlemen friends there have been no hard and set rules - we went with the flow. Sometimes we played several times during the day and by night we just crashed. Sometimes we played all night until dawn and slept through the morning. Sometimes we played, fell asleep, and one of us woke up in the middle of the night and caressed the other into moans and sleeply sex.  Sometimes we had sex before breakfast, sometimes after, sometimes in the middle.

If you were disappointed, then don't repeat with her, choose a different woman. Or discuss your expectations before hand.

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"buyers remorse" after you lay out that much cash and end up with a huge dinner bill, the hotel bill, the bill for the in room bar that she emptied, and a single half hearted hand job to show for it.  If you've already had one disappointment, why try for 2?

The overnighter, or weekend is where the "Provider Creed" was originated!

You are paying for my TIME and NOT for SEX!

I have had overnights with only one gal. Tried another who insisted on offering a RULE sheet.

The overnights I had were with a young lady whom I had much history with. SHE controlled the mood throughout the evenings. I was VERY pleased that she did. She didn't know the meaning of 'ME'. She was there for me solely.

Be a Gentleman and you should be fine unless you pick someone who is very mechanical in business. You MUST be sure to have some history with whom you choose.

I've had a few overnight excursions and they usually go along the lines of have a "quickie" before dinner; relax and have a nice meal, conversation and a bit of verbal foreplay to get things going; then a post-prandial session with extended playtime; sleep.

Sometimes a mid-sleep session; usually a bit of breakfast and then another bit of play befofe wrapping things up and heading out.

So 3-4 play sessions per overnight seems to work *but* you should know her and your expectations should be discussed before the date beings.

I've never been disappointed on an overnight but then they were with women with whom I'd had some prior experience.

I agree with the folks who mentioned that you would be best served by having a discussion with the lady AHEAD of time. It's all about communications and agreeing upon what you are both comfortable with.

You shouldn't go into it with expectations.  What you SHOULD do is talk it through with the lady beforehand and come to an understanding of how much sex time/sleep time/dinner time and alone time is included.

I have had several overnights, one just Friday night, and I always communicate clearly with the provider beforehand. Only the most recent one was with someone I hadn't seen before, but I began scheduling it and discussing it several weeks ahead. I am also very selective about the ladies I choose for an overnight, their approach must align well with mine. All of my overnights have been very successful and I always wake up at least twice during the night, horny and hungry... lol

...to sleep at least 7 hours without being interrupted (though I'm flexible). Also, I enjoy overnights that focus on an emotional connection and not just nonstop bunny sex to get your money’s worth. Honestly, some overnights can easily consist of only ONE hour of sex during the entire 12-14 hour engagement.  Some of the best aspects of an overnight are spooning while falling asleep together. So that you’re not locked into something you won’t enjoy, I agree with everyone else that it's in your best interest to lay out your expectations with the provider of your choice. And since she is hopefully someone you're already acquainted, communicating with her should be easy.

Have fun!

Good to get an idea of each others energy levels BUT I would be afraid that a man who had a really strict idea of exactly what will occur and when would end up being disappointed since most of us aren't working on a script but actually spending time with an individual.  2 people getting along. (or not)

Recently I had an extended trip with a fellow I had spent a local overnight with ... locally things were fine.

When I arrived for the 2nd encounter he had become a different person.  'Charming me' by immediately and continually thruout our time together criticizing my make-up, clothing, performance...(?) I was the same person he had seen a couple of months prior. (?)
Needless to say the whole experience was more confusing than romance inspiring.  I did the best I could under the circumstances but I doubt he had a very good time.. I know I didn't. *boo hoo*


How can a person really predict exactly what will happen and when? Please tell me... or tell me how to put my feelings aside.  I'm not a vending machine.  Maybe in this odd instance it would have been better to have been on some automated time schedule so I could have spit out the appropriate amount of lov'in on cue.. ha ha.


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And require that they be able to sleep through at least half of it need a reality check.

I have had several overnights, one just this past Friday night, and I always communicate clearly with the provider beforehand, regardless how often we might have been together previously. Only the most recent one was with someone I hadn't seen before, but I began scheduling it and discussing it several weeks ahead. I am also very selective about the ladies I choose for an overnight, their style and approach must align well with mine, and they must be highly compatible with my sex drive. All of my overnights have been very successful and I always wake up at least twice during the night, horny and hungry... lol

I would rather splurge on an adventure! Sailing, dinner out, sex on the beach, running naked through the woods. I do have an overnight planned but includes camping out under the stars!

There are lots of posts about bad overnights with a provider the guy's never seen before.  That I understand.  I'd never recommend doing an o-night even with a highly reviewed provider unless there had been multiple previous visits as you said.

All the overnights I've done have been unscripted.  I do overnights with someone because I enjoy their company.  Usually there's at lease a couple rounds of playtime, three is typical (before dinner, before bed, before breakfast) but it really varies.  That's all I can handle anyway.  If your goal is max erotic milage overnights aren't the best value.

All depends what you value.