https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2017/feb/23/golden-trio-of-moves-boosts-chances-of-female-orgasm-say-researchers?CMP=twt_a-science_b-gdnscience

....not in the sense of self induced O's (although those are great too!) but in the sense of understanding and loving their own bodies enough to be comfortable expressing openly what she wants in bed. Civvie women have to be willing to show their lovers what they like and what turns them on and not expecting it to just happen. Every woman is so different and if she doesn't make herself responsible for her own sexual fulfillment then no one will.

more orgasms if a man (or woman) knows how to lick their gap correctly.

In fact, so much so that I am willing to pay them for the privilege.  I enjoy DATY and other activities involving mutual satisfaction and I certainly give it my best as part of the whole GF experience. And yes - just like civilian women, if you give them the opportunity, they do seem to know how to have an orgasm.

I think there needs to be more discussion of the emotional and mental processes that are required to achieve orgasmic release.  Also, it should be noted that for men anyways, ejaculation and orgasm are not one and the same.  Not sure if that is the case with women also, but my experience makes me suspect so.

This is the central truth.  Nothing can be discerned from "positive feedback."  That extends to civies who are reluctant to express negative comments.  We just have to consult the literature and go on instinct if we are interested in pleasing the pleasers.

Absolutely! I could not have explained that better! Also coming from one who goes from 0 to 60 in 30 seconds. Ha!

My best orgasms are during my lady's orgasm, or, better-still after my lady has multiple orgasms and we cum together.  My ladies always cum.  Hence my name: Mr.M.Johnson - the "M" stands for "Magic."  No, I'm NOT the ex-Laker.  My ladies call me "Magic Johnson" because they love my Johnson and what it does to them!

Or maybe I'm just confusing it with whiskey dick?

I'll bet many if not most mongers share my belief that the best kind of party is one in which everyone is having fun. Thus if there's something we can do to maximize the provider's O potential, we're happy to oblige.  And as you said, we need help understanding what turns each provider on because everyone is different.  For example, my ATF showed me what her "hot buttons" are (there's 3, and one is NOT her clit) and how she likes to be touched there. When I or others do that, she Os in a few minutes.  With any other approach, she seldom Os.  

So are giving a woman a handjob. Just saying, sometimes "highschool" type sex is fun.

....and was on the receiving end of a wonderful "handy".

are you saying a woman can orgasm from nipple stimulation?

She had those fabulous huge thick nipples and she delighted in my biting them and would howl with delight.

yep. not all, but some.

My orgasms are 50% physical, which means its important how and where I'm touched and I have no issues communicating that to my client. The other 50% is emotional, it doesn't matter how hot you are, or whether you have a six pack (although I prefer my men soft) I simply not capable of coming with someone I don't feel a mental attraction to. It doesn't mean I don't enjoy the sex, I love sex and can enjoy it with strangers, but I can't come with a stranger.

So this "golden trio" doesn't fully apply to me as it's limited. A frisky forced orgasm date is a perfect way to find out the plethora of ways one can induce all the oohs and aahs from me!