I'm somewhat new to the hobby and although registered with TER haven't had the time to check it out much.  After persuing y'all's posts and responses I thought I'd go ahead and ask for input on an experience I had with my last client.

I have seen some incredibly AMAZING people since I've started...conversely I've had some not so good experiences as well.

I don't want say anything derogatory or mean towards clients but this isn't directed towards the group as a collective whole and if it's taken wrong I apologize.

I had a client that insisted on DFK....as he burped in my face a total of 7 times. I wanted to donkey punch him.  I got so sick I truly believed I was going to vomit all over him and made up an excuse that came out of my mouth sounding like 'myboyfriendiscallingweneedtofinishupGAGbutthisisGREAT!gag'

he then proceeded to chastize me on just about every move I made... I did a lil self examination after that and then decided to cut it short because, after all, he burped in my effing face....repeatedly. I smelled it. oh god.

And so my question is, do we chalk this up to part of the services we provide because we are well..providers.  Or are there some things were are simply not expected to tolerate?  I've been debating this in my head for the past half hour since he left and truly I have come to the conclusion that there must be a balance which is somewhat elementary....

I honestly don't even know if I'm supposed to be posting this kind of stuff. But man.... what in the world.

everyone's input would be much appreciated...from providers and clients alike.

In over three years!  Though I'm rather picky about whom I'll see....  After the first time he did that, I would have refused DFK, and if he was otherwise similarly repugnant, would have just made up an excuse (ie not feeling well) and left.

That's gross...

You have every right to terminate a session if at any time you feel uncomfortable- for whatever reason. Of course, if the client has already paid you, then you should grant him a refund.

Although I'm not sure how you should have dealt with it. Cutting it short is probably the right thing to do. I'd be embarrassed if I burped in a girls face. This guy is obviously an asshole. Let TER (and us) know if he posts a bad review.

do a search on me - bizarro superdude.... I have repeatedly requested of my brother DICKS that they clean up their act when seeing a lady of the moment!  You are correct - even (and maybe especially) in this hobby the behaviour that you describe is rude and unacceptable.  

I have been with ladies where I could "taste" their dinner! ugh.  not a turn on.  I sincerely hope that you do not judge us all by this persons inability to understand that you were physically affected (know that I am).  the ONLY exception for the acceptance of the "food odor" thingy - whether it be burped or not - is if you both go out and share a meal - then it is not quite so offensive, but even then to burp in your face is still IMHO unacceptable...

What gets into us dicks!?   hummm.....  

Guys, if you would not accept it in a provider - why should they have to accept it in a hobbiest... I know we pay, they provide - but com'on....

I would hope that if either party is uncomfortable in any way(even to include belching repeatedly) that there is an understanding that the encounter can end and this should be without retribution. I know that I have done this in the past and did not accept a gift when I did. I am always looking to have a sexy and sensual time and I want my partners to have the same. Why continue when something is distasteful? We are Ladies and gentlemen who hopefully always have respect for oneanother.

Kisses
SexyC

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A few brave and honest goddesses clued me in that maybe my breath was not quite as minty fresh as it could be.  I took the hint and now before each date a scrub my mouth (Use Therabreath mouthwash and toothpaste, it really does work) and also use a couple of Dell's mint drops (Try health food stores.) just before I knock on the door.  DFK here we come.
Moral of the story:  A little honesty works if done in a helpful way.
(I also shower just before a date, but that goes without saying.)

I'm also very picky about who I see, and I think  I've just about managed to figure out how to restrict my clientele to the true 'gentlemen' on this planet! I can honestly say that I have met so many wonderful gentlemen in the past couple of years, and with very few exceptions, I have only very good things to say about these great guys! I doubt if I would have schedule an appointment with anyone quite that disgusted but if I had, his first burp would have been his last around me because I would have most definitely thrown up in his face... nothing I could do to stop myself!

Since you say you're new, the best advice I can give you is to decide for yourself what is and what is not acceptable behavior from a client.  If you encounter behavior that you find unacceptable, you have a choice of putting up with it or promptly ending the session.  You sound as though you are a very smart, very sweet lady who is doing her best to please her clients and I'm sure you'll have no problem with the unacceptable/acceptable behavior issue and know exactly what to do in the future.

Good luck!
kisses
Suzanne in San Diego



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the reason why the bologna BURP happens:

Providers are accepting WAY TOO MUCH !!

There should never be DATY or BBBJ or DFK
to begin with.  who cares what Anyone says.
Respect yourself and they will respect you.

ONCE a jerk burps in your face.  END THE SESSION.

Refunds May Vary.  You are a lady demand to be treated as such. You will still Prosper.

(1)  Many providers will not French; and that is your absolute right.  For me, kissing with tongue is so central to sex that it's one of the few search criteria that I use.

(2)  But it goes unsaid that one does NOT give a partner any part of their dinner, only their tongue.  Any asshole who belches (apart from acts of God) should be cut off.  (I have no problem forgiving the lady who farted in my face as she went into a 30 second epiletic fit orgasm.  It's nice to be appreciated.)

(3)  Blacklist him.   Unfortunately, it's hard to predict the wide range of marginal conduct you're likely to see; you just may get better at it with experience.

...which end were you at?  Just joking. By the way, it was nice meeting you at the Philly M&G.

"There should never be DATY or BBBJ or DFK to begin with."

What does DATY/BBBJ/DFK have to do with either burping or respect?

y'all's input has been awesome.  I'm going to go ahead and be proactive about posting here.... what a refreshing place. haha. thanks again everybody!

xoxo
-G

and not just for you, as much as general consideration.

(4)  Most of us are in the hobby for good sex.  Good sex pretty much needs a good relationship, as much as time permits.  I.e., sex doesn't begin or end with the genitalia.   The guys who manage to thrill you are just the ones who are best at getting the most out of their money.

..."Lex Luethor".

Location: DC
Availability: Most week-days

and that's an improvement for you, isn't it?

Got a problem with that?

"squeezes-brain-through-ass" might fit you even better.

Oh, now that is a good response from an editor. Give me a break! Again, you are not worth my time. Blah, blah, blah.

I liked the idea of Blacklist this SOB, so who the h**l is he anyway, Ginger J? Heaven help us (and him too)  if he manages to make his way to San Diego!!