Because she had read your reviews and she wanted to fulfill a fantasy of hers? Oh, and she also happens to be someone that you've been dying to see but she's never been to your city? So, it would be two fantasies filled at once.

I had one reach out begging for rent money. That was awkward. 😂

How about:

If you think it's something more, ask her which reviews compelled her reach out and what exactly is the fantasy that she wants to fulfill by allowing you a freebie.  If it's a little flattery to massage your ego into seeing her, you're not likely to hear from her again.

Been hit up so many times, that sounds awful!!

We should have a competition as to how many of the above list a guy had received.....  for me at least 11 of them over the years !      

I have never had one ask me for any handouts. Probably because I rarely repeat and don’t allow myself/them to get close.

That sounds like something such a hypothetical lady would be looking forward to very much!

Surely you’re not implying that people who enjoy their jobs should do them for free 😘

I enjoy helping out, and obviously I must evoke this somehow.

Was the point that you're a real softie and the girls all feel comfortable asking you for help?

Start your own OnlyDads page lol

Their jealousy knows no bounds 🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️. All we can do is live our best lives and live out our spectacular fantasies!

In the following manners:

A girl who was touring in my area.  I assumed she was teaching out to guys who are on here often and in the area.  Makes sense.

I am implying that if a man has what you want and doesn't seek you out, but you seek him out, the role of who is working and who is the client can flip. She claims she read his reviews and she wants him to help her live out her fantasy. That sounds like he has something she wants and she is asking for it.

I got a few PM's back then to meet asking me when I'm back in town to let them know we we can meet, But that was then...and now, none at all. But there was only young lady who contacted me who I happened to have my eye on at that time. We met...and she was great.
Sadly. along with TER. I've slowed down as well.

Goodness! I have never asked for money ever 🤔. I guess I not a hustler like some of these ladies. I would rather starve than beg for money 🤷‍♀️.  

I totally do it. I’m not shy!  

I've had a few ladies PM me here telling me that my board posts impress them and they like my reviews and feel we'd be a good fit and asked if I'd be interested in meeting when she's in town.  

I seen this girl one time lol. Was planning on seeing her again but not after that hit up.

A quick analysis of Mr. Fisher's input  would indicate that over the many years I have been involved in pay for play I have heard nearly every one of these from strippers or escorts----the more you learn about most gals in the business is that there is a common thread that holds all of them together as a unit.....you won't learn much of their various issues on the first visit.....but become a repeat customer and you are labeled as a ATM and the Daddy they never had.....give a little----but be careful---a little at a critical point in their time is more valuable that serious money---In my view it is okay to be a little benevolent....I mean this could be your daughter or niece with a problem---generally it is best not to get very far into their lives----once you become a benefactor---you are just like back in the day of the door to door sales people that would put a mark on the fence !

You only saw her once, and she hit you up for rent money? Dayum, that's some balls.

To something about a hobbyist being used by a degenerate woman looking for a handout, when it started out being about a spectacular provider who is by no means in need of money or support and only wanted to enrich both participants lives. You don't even deserve to hear the incredible review.  Let's see what negative responses pour in  now.........

Im a tipper. Years ago i realized it was better to not be such a big tipper. Have had too many providers hit me up out of the blue claiming hard times like Dusty Rhodes.  

Taking notes….📝 😅

On more than one occasion, my investment in this karmic practice has paid off handsomely.

Ie, they will try to get biz this way. Because when it's busy they ain't got time to solicit biz if they are kept busy.  

Sometimes real life is better than fantasy

This was actually about a very specific provider?  

He also suffered from RCS -- Random Capitalization Syndrome.
Oh, wait! It was ROGM. "Mr. Milk and Diapers!" What a head case.

I DM’ed him. He was excited. He posted here because he was excited and to ask if anyone else had had a similar experience. Me messaging wasn’t a weird fake marketing ploy or done out of desperation. An utterly delightful time was had by all. I would call it a TER success story.

....without knowing your relationship status, but have any of them ever hinted at wanting to retire and were looking for a permanent arrangement? An older provider I saw told me that she had a friend who married a client and left the lifestyle and she herself says that she only worked on and off depending on when she had a boyfriend.  

Sounds like you got suckered into a session that you didnt really want. And you even paid full price and left a review.  

This is the first time I have seen a successful provider working TER to get a booking become a board post. I’m glad it worked out for both of you. I’m a little jealous now lol. I have had several providers reach out. For one reason or another, they never worked out. That said, if you ever decide to come to LA, you can slide into my DM anytime. I can’t promise I will make a board post about it, but a review will come for sure. And I promise, I will be the paying customer!

Who hurt you?? Your message is so full of resentment that it almostmakes me sad for you, but it don't

The guy started a thread with a question, and when people started giving their opinions, got upset because thread didnt go the way he expected it to, and started peddling "they jealous haters" nonsense before he even said who the provider was!  

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My understanding was that reaching out directly to hobbyists on this board was prohibited. Am I wrong? Is it occasionally acceptable to DM someone if you think that you'd have a lot in common?

I didn’t ask him to make this post and was surprised and honored to see it.

Just click on "Messages" at top of page. Then click on "Compose". Then paste his name into the "To" box, type out your message to him and hit send.

Ive had someone reach out but not directly inquire if I was interested. No idea 🤷‍♂️

Reaching out is fine. If you spam solicit, that’s where you can be in breach of the rules.

I slid into her DMs. Now she just needs to respond if she ever sees fit.

Most guys would have no issue with it. Several women have reached out to me over the years and I loved it, tbh.