So I have been thinking about this for awhile actually .
I have been providing for sometime now and I do not date civilian guys at all , no SO , BF , or booty call hook ups . Which I have determined is the way it should be , no doubt.
How did I come to this decision for a final time?
Quite a few months back I fogot that i do not date for a minute when i met a guy not in the hobby . He asked me out I went , we had a great time .
At the time he said something like that was the single best date he have ever been on . We got along it will surfice to say
A little time goes by and we have sex . During which time he says to me , talk to me ......
Ok , Now wait a minute!!  
He said talk to me right????
Wellapparently even though i thought i knew what that meant we had what i am going to call a crossover moment. I started to talk to him....
A day or two goes by and he asks me to go for coffee , yup we are going in reverse .
We get a coffee and talk .He looks kind of distressed .
Then says remember when i asked you to talk to me , yes i reply .He says Well i just totally was not expecting what you said to me .
He was shocked i guess . Well he didn't love it either .He apparently was looking for me to say soething like you feel so good , or i thought about this or something very vanilla and well not porographic .
THE MAN waS NOT specific damn it ! I apparently went directly into provider mode and said some things he has never heard before and he was shocked . Damn.I thought everything i said was super firggin hot ...I did THOUGH! Like as in very lol
He says i was expecting just something else . He says I was like a she devil saying these things , he outright asked me right there are you like a porn star or something weird ? Do you talk lik this always or you had a moment of.....
OK crossover moment apparently regular guys are afraid of me and he thought i was friggin possessed by the spirit of , well whoever .
Do you ladies and gents have a similar experience ? How did you handle it .For me I didn't see him again .. I think i have been afected too much at this time lol. Kendall Lyn

Thank you for sharing such a great story.

I do not date, chat, or even go out with ANY man outside of this world who is not in some way, shape or form, contributing to my finances. I simply have no interest in them at this point in time. All of my male friends are gay, and that's how I keep it.

My experience, most civies don't like the dirty talk, but you can talk dirty to me anytime you want.

I only had one civie gal who would talk nice and dirty, and she was a treat.

I think most guys enjoy that, but prove me wrong if I'm wrong.

Maybe I'm the weirdo.  If so, I'm proud of it.

Yep.  You went into "hooker mode."  And I've seen you do it and it's awesome.  You can talk to me like that any time.
Reminds me of a girl I know, a civvy, but very hot and slutty.  She had just bought some sexy new panties and was telling her boyfriend how slutty they were and all the nasty things she was going to do to him while wearing them.  He freaked out.  I guess I'll never figure out manginas.  Takes all kinds, I guess.

Some guys like filthy talkers and some don't (he obviously doesn't), but I don't think it's a civvie vs. provider issue.  The filthiest talker I've ever met was an ex-girlfriend who also taught Sunday school to 4-year old kids.  I assume she toned it down a bit with them.

I briefly dated a civilian guy for a while. The first time we were together, I applied the condom with my mouth. CLASSIC ho move. He didn't even realize it was on until after he finished, and he seemed genuinely bewildered as to how it got there. He kept saying, 'How did you DO that?

I had a crossover moment when I told my wife to...

That's why I don't even bother anymore. I'm just like "well if you can't appreciate it then I know someone who WILL!!" Haha!

Apparently, we had different definitions of sexy notes. Mine was too hardcore I guess as I commented on what I wanted to do to her. I must've gone into too great of detail. Anyway, she said she was a little shocked by the letter and we only saw each other once more. She was a cute blonde and I was bummed at the time but looking back it probably wouldn't have worked out. She was too restrained.  
 

Posted By: kendalllynn

So I have been thinking about this for awhile actually .  
 I have been providing for sometime now and I do not date civilian guys at all , no SO , BF , or booty call hook ups . Which I have determined is the way it should be , no doubt.  
 How did I come to this decision for a final time?  
 Quite a few months back I fogot that i do not date for a minute when i met a guy not in the hobby . He asked me out I went , we had a great time .  
 At the time he said something like that was the single best date he have ever been on . We got along it will surfice to say  
 A little time goes by and we have sex . During which time he says to me , talk to me ......  
 Ok , Now wait a minute!!  
 He said talk to me right????  
 Wellapparently even though i thought i knew what that meant we had what i am going to call a crossover moment. I started to talk to him....  
 A day or two goes by and he asks me to go for coffee , yup we are going in reverse .  
 We get a coffee and talk .He looks kind of distressed .  
 Then says remember when i asked you to talk to me , yes i reply .He says Well i just totally was not expecting what you said to me .  
 He was shocked i guess . Well he didn't love it either .He apparently was looking for me to say soething like you feel so good , or i thought about this or something very vanilla and well not porographic .  
 THE MAN waS NOT specific damn it ! I apparently went directly into provider mode and said some things he has never heard before and he was shocked . Damn.I thought everything i said was super firggin hot ...I did THOUGH! Like as in very lol  
 He says i was expecting just something else . He says I was like a she devil saying these things , he outright asked me right there are you like a porn star or something weird ? Do you talk lik this always or you had a moment of.....  
 OK crossover moment apparently regular guys are afraid of me and he thought i was friggin possessed by the spirit of , well whoever .  
 Do you ladies and gents have a similar experience ? How did you handle it .For me I didn't see him again .. I think i have been afected too much at this time lol. Kendall Lyn

Hound is awesome!

I love reading your stories. It is refreshing to hear a woman of intelligence who can actually write a coherent post.

On the other side of the spectrum, I have seen civies who are not used to multiple positions and some dirty talk while having sex. I guess that most of them are used to their dates smoking a cigarette after 10 minutes of action. I love to entertain the shy ones. The look in their eyes when I say "get on your knees" is priceless.

Maybe the next guy will be more open and receptive to the Kendall that we know so well  

and had a emotional affair with  client, what I mean is, my bf and I were going thru stuff.... and instead of focusing my energy on making that better, I was very vulnerable to the first what I thought was a decent client and actually contemplated leaving my bf for him....

I was waay off topic lol i am tired from school

But I am so enjoying these responses!! Reminds me of Along Came Polly with the ass slap.

Thank you so much for your story. It was priceless! And I agree with those who said it was a good thing this happened at the beginning. Can you imagine how he would have reacted had you down the road told him what you do? No way. Too weak he is.

I was traveling in SE Asia once and had some amazing sex with a South American guy. We had sex first, and then talked later, and during our conversation I mentioned what I do. He said he could tell by the way I moved and the sounds I made- that he hadn't had sex like that ever. Lol!! too funny. He remained a great lover for the time I was in that city. Some guys aren't put off.  

And I never restrain myself- sex is this amazing thing I do with my body- and I am damn well going to do it however I like to when I am off the clock! In other words, I don't cover my face with a pillow when I come with a civilian. I am sure that can be off-putting to some.



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