I think....
Your size 11/12 body and ample bottom are well suited for things besides photography, but alas, if you have your limitations...(of course it occurs to me that perhaps I am just DENSE...here you are on an Escort Review discussion board...but having found no reviews, I can't be certain...which is too bad...have I mentioned that I have a weakness for ample-bottomed sexy WFs?)
Anyway...back on topic, I think that the vast majority (as in "all', except I can't say all, because I don't know them all, or any besides myself really) of hobbyists can probably be placed in one of 3 categories:
A) Relatively normal guys (normal meaning both reasonably attractive and reasonably grounded, well adjusted and emotionally stable) who have some issue in their intimate relationship with their SigO. For whatever reason...who is to say what...they are not happy with the way things are at home, so they seek "companionship" elsewhere. Some are just there for the sex (their wife simply won't BBBJ, and only wants missionary with the lights out once a week...and NEVER on Sunday), others want someone to talk to that won't ask them about painting the garage and the relationship between them and their mother-in-law, but the bottom line is they are in relatively happy relationships AWAY from the hobby (at least happy enough so that they aren't looking to end them) that are lacking something...something they get from ASPs. Once they have what they seek, they pays their money and go back from whence they came. I suspect most married guys fit into this category
B) Relatively attractive guys who have little to no problem meeting women and forming relationships outside the hobby, but for whatever reason (as in a little therapy wouldn't hurt) want / need to have sex with other women. They want steady relationships...they have steady relationships...but monogamy just isn't in the cards for them. They want sex with as many different women as possible. Frequency isn’t the issue necessarily (I know it isn't for me...the women I date tend to be that mid "30's - early 40's - hormones - ragging - can't - get - enough – sex” type), though it could be. It is the variety that matters. They are womanizers...plain and simple. They too pay their money and go back from whence they came...heck they don't WANT to see you again...that would defeat the whole point of seeing you in the first place. I fall into this category.
C) The last group are guys who are neither reasonably attractive, and / or reasonably well adjusted (at least not socially) and thus do indeed have problems meeting and forming relationships with women outside the hobby. They are good guys…nice guys…gentlemen in every way, pay their taxes, etc. They just have little to no luck with women. They come to see you because they cannot reliably count on meeting and sharing intimacies with a woman under any other circumstances. They come to see you repeatedly – forming a bond that at first is attractive to you, because it relives you of the pressure of screening and having to deal with a stranger (which I am sure is a little bit offsetting each time, even for an experienced escort). However, the problem develops when they fail to keep perspective…that they are PAYING you for your time and intimacies, and that while you might indeed like them as a person, you are spending time with them for money, not because they are all that damn charming (or good looking, or great in bed, or whatever). These guys, with limited experience with women in general, very easily confuse your kindness for romantic interest, confuse their feelings of familiarity with actual emotional involvement, and forget the business arrangement at hand. They now want to be your BF…want to “save you from all this”. Thus, you have your problem.
What do you do? Well, I’d say limit your repeat customers, and thus prevent trouble from every starting, but I know EVERY escort, like every businessperson, counts on repeat customers. In lieu of that, I would definitely say be prepared to stop seeing a client the minute (ok, maybe allow two minutes) you get the feeling he (or she?) has lost perspective. Every time you see them AFTER they have expressed a romantic interest, you are reinforcing their delusion, even while your words deny it (they care nothing about YOUR perspective on this…they are obsessed with their own).
Should you not see clients “off the meter”? Certainly not those who allude to any sort of romantic relationship I would say. Others? It is tough to say. I know I have seen a couple ladies “off the meter” and it worked out just fine in my mind. And I know a couple more have asked ME about getting together away from the hobby, which I tactfully declined (actually, both of them were people I would have been glad to date, as side distractions aside from my SigO, had I met them under different circumstances…but since we did meet as we met, I thought better of it). You certainly have to be clear about the rules up front, whatever they are (for me, I refuse to pay for someone’s “time” the strictest sense of the word. If we spend time to together doing anything other than getting hot and bothered, it is because we enjoy each other’s company. I am not going to pay for the privilege…in my mind it is enough that I act in the role of a gentleman and pay for the festivities...)
So…what to do? Be careful…very careful…as to whom you see away off the meter. I would almost say you should limit it to clients YOU chose…that if the guy comes up with the idea first, then that is a bad sign. And be sure to terminate the BUSINESS relationship with any guy who seems to be losing sight of the fact that it is just that…BUSINESS.
My long-winded two cents…(do I get any change?)
