So… I've noticed when having sex for fun outside P4P, (yes, I do lol,) that guys like the usual system… but they must NOT get good blow jobs outside of hiring escorts in most cases bc…  

barter a good BJ for a nice pounding...Tell your civvie friends that if they want a good BJ from you next time, they better give you a good pounding right now...lol

providers have spoiled us when it comes to the fine art of cock sucking..for the civie girls..it is something they have to do..for providers..it is something they want to do..

This is not directed at you obviously since we haven't met. But you guys by and large THINK you're good at BJs...sorry to break it to the pros but only about 10% of you are THAT good.
(Bring it. I'm fully prepared to discuss. You can see a previous post of mine.)

- Be gentle.. No rough play with my junk, since I am uncut...
- No talking dirty - Curly gets turned off
- No eye contact - Focus on the job girl..
- Lots of spit  - Loves sloppy BJs
- Finger up my anus also does wonders...

Tell me, what is a great BJ to you? I would actually be interested to hear.

Just the other day I met someone who I found very attractive, shy, so I went down and then came back up and asked if he wanted to fuck me and he said, "suuuure" so I laughed and said "don't sound too enthusiastic, be honest, what do you want?" And he said, "more head?"

Sorry I had a difficult time getting past professional cocksucker and blow job. What was the question? Is it too early for me to say I love you? Lol

Then again, I would prefer sucking over fkin. Guys who are spoiled to great oral, take intercourse for granted, so start biting them lol.

The first time a lady who really knew what she was doing let me CIM I felt like a druggie must feel after his first shot of really good coke.  But of all the lovely ladies who have been kind enough to favor me with their charms I've never found anything so wonderful as a good vigorous humping and a finish in that mad sweaty DFK clinch.  

I like to hear her talk dirty; e.g., I want you to shoot a big load im my mouth, I want to taste your hot come, I want every drop of it.  I also love the eye contact; she should look at me constantly with her lustful eyes and ask me if I am enjoying it. NO finger up the ass for sure (rimming on the other hand is great). I want her to caress my boys while deep-throating me. Now that is HOT for me!

Best Handle I've seen thus far!!!  

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qPxSU7zDmOE

I don't do BJs for civvies. Like, ever. If I'm having sex off the job it's all about me and my pleasure. Which is, you know, selfish, but, oh well. :

Guy, "Can you give me head? I don't orgasm from fucking."

Doritos   http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8DCkJw-IPe8

I like to fuck and go down women. BJ, not all that into it.

I just posted something about how civie girls just don't compare.
Gee. Everyone told me I was tripping, yet they agree with you..
How quaint.

and as for the OP, she should probably find guys with more staying power. I love to finish with a CIM, but I don't mind at all giving a little to get a little, and I throughly enjoy giving a thirty minute pounding before taking off the cover and finishing with a BBBJNQNSCIM.

either that or you must be getting blow jobs from ventriloquists, didn't anyone ever tell you NOT to talk with your mouth full? lol

if you still have time for civvie chics, I am surprised that your dick just doesn't fall off...

I'm searching for a provider that can perform a Linda Lovelace style Deep Throat blow job. I also enjoy dirty talk, the dirtier and nastier the better. I absolutely adore it when a woman looks up at me and asks me if she's being a good little cocksucker, ohh just got a chubby typing it. I haven't found the Linda Lovelace DT yet, but I sure am enjoying the journey. Women are unbelievably awesome creatures, I just can't live with one.

I have actually had some civvie action down here from time to time.

But they go crazy when I go down on them.. Now I don't sleep around so I am talking about guys I have dated. And yes I Do give phenomenal blow jobs. I really enjoy putting a man in my mouth and making him pop. I pride myself on my blow jobs among other things. I am a very proud girl. Lol

loss of sensitivity using a condom that does not allow me to finish.  I tried ED meds about 8 years ago and they helped with a finish but the headache was more than I wanted.

I travel to hobby anyway, providers don't come to my area, unfortunately

1. Look great with cock in your mouth;
2. Look like you love doing it, like you are goin' to get that load no matter what, and are in no rush to get it (even if in reality there are time constraints). The longer the buildup the harder the orgasm usually is;
3. Be able to use your mouth, hands, throat, spit together effectively;
4. Learn to build up tempo and excitement - I hate the " rapid jackers" who think that jacking me off at maximal velocity indiscriminately is the way to go. To me it only feels really good once the penis has gotten fully erect. Achieve that before "going to town";
5. Employ a wide variety of techniques (eg, dt, BLS, hj, eye contact, dirty talk, prostate massage) and positions with effect, depending on the subject;
6. A large part is psychological. That's where talking, eye contact, and reinforcing a role playing fantasy help;
7. Be able to watch your partner's reaction and adjust accordingly;
8. You cannot be skiddish about cum at all.  

I imagine it's a skill keeping teeth out of the way while keeping a grip with the lips and mouth.
Yes, braces too.
Mouth/ facial muscles surely will fatigue.

But I rarely cum with a BJ and even then it has to be a BBBJ. I almost always want intercourse more. Too bad we don't live closer to each other. We could test it out.  
 

She's in NC, but travels I think.

Maybe she wanted to get pounded by you so she gave you a 'loose vagina' blow job lol. Was it civvy or a provider?

You sound like you've got the makings of a great CkSker. Btw my # 8 was about tailoring the bj to the benefactor.
Your civvie guy was a dummie. No better way to get good bj's than to make sure you get yours regularly. I always ask what gets a civvie lady off. Unless you pass out after your orgasms, in which case, he's gaming you while you're gaming him. Lol.

I get confused when someone likes dt and another doesn't.  

Not that you need my permission... Calm down guys!

But there is no reason I can't stay a few days when I travel there to see her and take the opportunity to see Charlotte as well. And/or I can watch Charlotte's calander to see if her travel schedule and mine sinc up. But honestly, if she is as talented as you seem to indicate she must be then I don't want to wait for our paths to cross, I'll have to ensure it happens sooner than later. Thank you very much for the heads up, pun intended. It's awesome that you are looking out for a fella.

Here is my take on this. I am married and my wife really no longer has a great interest in performing a BJ. I can pound away on her all I want but getting her to go down is next to impossible. So I hobby! And when I hobby I look for a provider that not only gives BJ's she gives AMAZING Bj's! And yes it is selfish for me to sit back relax and get amazing head BUT isn't that what I am paying for? Now I get what you are saying so maybe the next time that happens you just tell the guy listen I NEED you to pound my pussy right now! Chances are he will forget about the BJ and go to town because not much is hotter than a woman telling you to destroy her

hmm - I'm a bit the opposite -  I find that a lot of providers seem to imitate porn stars when it comes to sucking cock,  and that approach does not work for me and I have to do a bit of training -   ladies in my personal life who are accustomed to me are more satisfying in this respect - however,  I've never met a kitty I did not enjoy tasting at my leisure, and giving a good long stroking....

for me anyway.  So while the visuals of pounding away at a pussy can't be beat - I'll often go with the BJ for the finish, especially for round 2.