I kind of want to cry. I'm new at this, about 5 weeks (provider). I had a guy I've been connecting with ask me to see him before work, 4-6am. He says he wants to be discreet and needs me to book the hotel. I'm hesitant but we've been talking and he finds one with a cheaper rate (like $200). He comes early, puts the envelope on the table, and we "hang out" for a little over an hour. We go outside to have a smoke and he wants a soda from the vending machine. I offer to grab him a single from my room, go in the room, get the single, come out, and he's gone. Like, nowhere.  

That really Sux.....What a pathetic SOB this dude is.............Tough Deal.......

Thanks hun. I don't even know you but just having someone sympathize helps me feel a bit better. Not quite at "" yet, more like ":/" instead of "" like before

Always screen!   Even if you are piss broke do not take some bum with no reputable provider references.  You got an envelope of play money. Others have gotten much worse. If you're not good at screening hire someone who is.  Please be safe 😙

If so, let those references know, but I suspect he did not.

I'm sorry this happened to you. I'm pretty new myself and I know at first it's awkward to count to money upfront but it's a learning lesson. I had one person short change me and after that I made sure I counted everything up front. Screening is so huge. It's a learning curve to find your own method to doing it but once you go through something crazy you realize the true importance of it. Things will get better use this as a lesson.  

So from your post the only thing that you are out of pocket is for the hotel room and you did not provide any services to him. Like the others have said screening is most important for your safety and please blacklist this guy. I was ripped off once so I know the sick feeling you had in your stomach.  Good luck in the future and stay safe.

I'm sorry one got through your door...it's a shitty thing to do...

That you ALWAYS need to count the money first before anything.You just got played.no sympathy from me.Hopefully you learn from your mistakes smh

Blacklist

I will definitely learn from this... Actually, no one brought me in, I made my way in all on my own Now I do have friends who I rely on for advice, support, etc. but I'm kind of ... proud? of the fact that I got into all this myself

Of course you SHOULD screen!  You know this, so I'm not going to belabor the point.  
However, just so you know, before you beat yourself up any further with self-blame: screened guys have done this!  

losing $800 is minor compared to what could have happened....safety is your first concern and good screening is very important.

I know there's nothing that will make you feel better, but rest assured that everyone of us, guy and gal, has been hobby snookered before, in one form or another. Wish it weren't so, but truthfully, it's part of the process. For example, I've been no showed five times, asked to leave early twice (did nothing wrong), upsold twice, given the run around once (I need fifteen more minutes several times), and not the girl in the picture twice. Let's not even mention, the blank stares off into space, watching tv, looking at the cell, the kids are running around, and counting the money in front of me.  

Might want to post this on the Minnesota board too.  

Sorry this happened to you Sweetie.  
Just remember this guy will get his eventually.
He is a piece of garbage and life always eventually takes out the trash!

Lol yaasssss

You have my sympathy. People like that make it harder for the honest ones. Incall etiquette requires the person to shower upon arrival, but this is also to give you a chance to look at the envelope. I am guessing the paper written play money on it was so that the envelope weighed correctly

screen. If a guy doesn't checkout, then don't see him. Like others have said, at least you are safe and he didn't rob you of any personal belongings like a laptop or iphone.

And if the guy doesn't take the hint about freshening up, go ahead and count the donation in front of him... slowly, deliberately, out loud. Count twice!     Maybe he'll get the hint for next time.  

On either end, by the guy or the girl.

"No Stinkin' Envelope--Spread Out Bucks for Fucks"

The great thING about life is that there's always ways to improve and grow as humans.Yes you made a big mistake as I'm sure we ALL have done.You were more trusting than you should've been and it's seems you've learned a valuable lesson.

All in all, I think you're off to a good start.  I saw your ad the other day, and I can tell you've got the "street smarts" for this.  You merely got scammed by a douchebag who could tell that you were new.  Dust yourself off and move on.

So sorry that happened to you. I'm fairly new to this as well (9 months) and at the beginning I would neglect to check the envelope just because it felt crass or insulting to check in front of them. But I've learned to best way to handle it. I go in smiling, hug & kiss hello, grab the envelope and then excuse myself to the bathroom to "freshen up" and while I pee I count the money.  

Pathetic SOB indeed

I always check and sometimes guys ask me that , I check even if we have met a few times . I feel kind of awakened doing in in front of the guy so I'd rather be put it down then go use the bathroom and wash his hands . I've had guys try and short me 20 and play it off like oh it was an accident I doubt it .  

I always ask the lady to check the gift in the envelope before anything starts just to make sure the donation amount is correct.

I'm glad you are safe.  Creeps like this make it hard for the good guys.  Lot's of gals don't check the donation but it's never wrong to.  And watch your own purse & cash too!  If you have good proceedures, you won't look like a 'mark' & hopefully this won't happen again.

What a despicable thing to do. l sure feel bad for you, even if it might have been avoidable...  best to be a little more careful from now on and just put it behind you.  The loser will eventually get what he deserves

Oh he got some. Twice, in fact.

There are dishonest guys out there, like there are dishonest escorts. I always thought the first rule is make sure the money is good, before you hang out. That is why you tell him get comfortable, go to the bathroom, and check the contents of the envelope. If it is fake money, you leave immediately.

And things happen when you are new and still learning this business.
Take this experience and learn from it.Everyone has to be screened in some kind of fashion every lady has her own way of screening.Please for your safety take the time to screen or hire someone he could have been dangerous.
And check the envelope everytime discreetly before the appt when he excuses himself to the bathroom or excuse yourself and go to the bathroom.Even if it is someone you have seen before.
Karma will get him...please believe that....people who steal and are dishonest like this will get theirs.
Is he a ter member?
Hang in there it will get better a better appt with a gent who pays and is there for a good time and not someone trying to get something for nothing.


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I never mind if the provider counts the money before we begin---a lot of guys think it's rude but it never bothers me. Frankly, IMHO it tends to "reassure" the provider that you're not a scam artist and that you're honoring the agreed-upon donation which always helps to start things off on a good vibe!!

Everyone reading this is really feeling for you.  I am just glad he was sick that way, but did not physically harm you.

This is the same guy that scammed my best friend Lexi Lee in Phoenix a few weeks ago. He had ripped off several Az girls and many in Las Vegas. He was going by Curtis. He may have a newhandle now. Some girls reported him having a tazer and a knife. I know you feel violated, but thankfully you are safe. This guy needs to be caught.