does the " law of diminishing returns " apply to this hobby? in other words..the more you experience something..the less effective it becomes..

Haven't you heard of the proverbial burnout?

As a baseball fan, I get bored after watching about 130 consecutive games. Every April I feel that this year is going to be different, but NO..Its not.. Come Sept, I don't even want to turn on the channel..

This year, I am going to pace myself so I am still excited about it come Sept, since Nats are supposed to go all the way to World Series..

Its all about pacing yourself..

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...just not yet.  You see these threads on the Reviewer's Only Board all the time (am I allowed to disclose that guys?  It is OK because nothing specific, right?).

absolutely it applies.    just human nature  

Probably so, for many it's like the proverbial kid in a candy store when they start hobbying.    

It seems the more comfortable some people get with their clients, the more bs they lay on them, the more they expect, and all that makeup, hair fixing, and lingerie turns into wet hair, no makeup, and a T shirt. Some guys like that, and some don't. Whatever you did to get those clients in the beginning, you have to KEEP doing or they will find someone else.

Sure I can see that after dozens (or hundreds) of BBBJs they all may seem to be the same. Likewise, with "screwing" hundreds (thouands!) of times. But it is about the unique experiences with each new lady you meet that keeps this from being mundane. Each lady has a different personality and if you take a little time to get to know them your experience with her will not be boring. One typical example for me is meeting a new lady and getting to the point where we get to Daty; for me it is a completely new experience with every lady - not only are there differences in the physical/anatomical makeup of each woman but most importantly in the way she reacts. So for me, when I meet a new lady it is always an adventure, a "voyage of exploration". Even with a regular or repeat lady I never get "bored."

Or, for the ladies who are with the same clients, and the service starts to drop after a while. Your point makes sense about variety though, and the law of diminishing returns usually connotes...same business, same service. With the hobby, it's always different.

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i think he is talking about hobbying in general. i know i'm at that point where im kind of bored with it.

so I think he is referring to that.

In any case, I still get a boost from this and I hobby at least once a week and have been doing so for 35 years or so.

I think the secret is to see both regulars and new people, and try some new things once in a while.

It also helps to stay in good physical (and fiscal) shape.

Mental shape, not so much.  8o)

In any relationship between two humans this is inevitable.  The reason some men come to the hobby in the first place is because life with the SO has lost that zip and of course women cheat because their existing relationship has stopped providing the needed validation,  intimacy, etc. So the answer I've found is to not lead an unexamined life. You should be thinking about your relationships,  working on them and generally being thoughtful about how we're living our lives. In the hobby that might mean taking a break, trying new activities,  etc. The only wrong answer is to just let yourself go through the motions unthinkingly. That's a sure route to burnout.

Sorry. Had to..

is about when things are CONSTANT, they yield diminishing returns.
In relationships, civvie or pro, you have the ability to add a little extra effort or money, each and every time to improve the return. A little romance, even with a pro (that wants and will allow it), will yield better and better results in my experience. Contrariwise, if you keep everything constant, it will diminish, so in that case the change you add is, FRESH MEAT.

don't you think that the constant addition will plateau out over the period of time to the point where sex itself becomes monotonous and you are not looking forward to it anymore....??

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Ditto for a husband :0)

iminishing returns is based on theory known as satiety. For example if you are thirsty, can’t get water, the first glass of water you get has the highest level of satiety and it decreases for every cup there after reaching zero, eventually. It goes up when you get thirst again.

If you're asking yourself this question, it implies that you have achieved the level of effectiveness or a goal you set out to achieve.  If I was asking myself this question I would definitely put some serious thought into my "what's next" for my own personal growth.  Maybe thats your sexual evolution, or maybe it's a different aspect of your life.  Either way, this type of self reflection is always an indicator that change is eminent.  Change is good.

For example, the first time you see someone it will be all new experiences, but there will be some moments where you try to figure everything out.  The 20th time you see that person, there may still be some new fun to explore, but all of the awkwardness is gone and the level of comfort is so much higher that the experience can actually be less erotic, but more enjoyable.

Perfectly stated, and explained!