Hello there...I am not very experienced here, I am still learning.  What is the deal lately with Asian providers flaking at the last minute?  Has anyone ever set up an appt, got to the place and then asked Age and ethnicity and then the provider says the girl is no longer available?  One time I drove 25 min only to find after being asked the questions that the girl left and is not coming back and the other, I made it to the place and they said she was out to lunch or something.  Is it me?  What is the deal with that, is it just me or has it happened to others?  I have had it happen to 2 providers who I think are actually the same provider as they are both in the same apartment complex.  Any tips or advice here?  Thanks!

Especially at not reputable spots.  

should have been disclosed during the client verification process.

Maybe you didn't mean it that way but it sounds bad. Flaking knows no race or ethnicity...or gender for that matter as many providers will tell you that men flake too. lol.
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That said, yes, of course this happens to others. If you play this game long enough, you will run into unprofessional women/organizations. But this was why TER was invented in the first place. Using the resources here will drastically cut down on your disappointments in this lifestyle.
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With time, your research abilities will improve and you will develop a spidey sense about someone or some organization but that happens over time, with experience.
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Even with all that, you will be treated unprofessionally at times. It is just a fact in this business, and really, any customer service industry. It is what it is. We learn from it and move on. I am sorry this happened to you though. It can be very frustrating. All I can say though is when you find the right women this p4p thing is better than gold. lol.
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Good luck moving forward!

Did you expect the Asian lady in the picture and then find she flaked only to be offered a replacement?

I have had this happen on very rare occasions.....important to keep in mind that we are dealing in an illegal activity of which  the potential co-conspirator is involved in the first place.....if she has a "Booker" ---the "Booker" may have overbooked her or found a better deal with a Frequent Flyer , or she just had a very bad experience with the client just before you, or she was just having a bad day .....and couldn't stand the thought of another new guy asking questions and acting all paranoid---etc.....I do remember one experience in which she hauled butt as I was looking for the room number as I was driving the parking lot---I was about 5 minutes Ahead of the scheduled time---I had been verified on TER etc....and I noticed a gal get into a car---start the car and drive off---from her picture I realized it was her---but the picture was from  several years back---overall---I was happy to see her leave and my shirt pocket was still intact with the "Donation"....!

One time yes, I was offered a replacement with was severely subpar and then the second time I was not offered anything.

They have good TER responses, unfortunately TER does not let you put in a review unless you met the person and the session was bad.  I think they need to let you submit a review when these things happen to let others know and the providers know they will have less clients.  Just my thought anyway.

If its asian parlors doing this to him, we arent generalizing. And no, it doesnt come off as bad.  

And you are correct about TER and not be able to review a girl you haven't met.  
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Again, sorry about this but Just keep plugging along and try not to let this get you down. This lifestyle is incredible and you will have many more good days than bad. Good luck bro!

I'm unclear on the claim " and then asked Age and ethnicity".

When I arrived I parked and the provider specifically asked me my "Age and Ethnicity" then said wait 2 minutes.  On both occasions,  which is why I am wondering if it was the same booker because it happened the same way.  The first time they did a bait and switch and said someone else was available at another location for a discount (which was nothing) then the other time they totally flaked and said she was at lunch and they were sorry.  So, I am not sure why this happened.  I will however, be much more picky and find a way to negatively review these places.    Appreciate the response.

Sometimes the asian orgs with bookers will take advantage. Have to be very up front with them. Im super polite, tip well and am always open minded when i arrive, but i stand firm on you will not bait and switch me, especially if the switch is lesser than the bait.

I have had guys tell me ladies even do this with services like nuru. They book a nuru and the guy asks if they use the gel. The lady says yes and they ok only want to set up appt if you use gel for nuru. They reassure again and the appt gets set but then when the guy arrives some how the just ran out of gel but try to get them to stay for another in activity. These agencies and parlors are no different they just try to get you to see another lady. It is just rude and unethical. I would never do that. I am sorry this happened.

I've been seeing Asian's almost exclusively for going on 15 years. Not once has one "flaked" on me as you describe. So if you're interested in helping others provide some actual information rather than some broad-brushed claims about a group of people that make up more (probably much more) than half of the world population.

People are flakey.  Not just providers and bookers.  Bookers are usually pretty hands off.  They will text to confirm the girl is there or someone.  And send you over.  Sometimes the girls double book with different bookers thinking they can finish in time for you to get there.  Or to account for guys flaking, IE book 2 and only 1 shows.  

Hes at the kgal level of $$

You have to be in the DC area, not the Southwest, but yes as was said I do not have porn star $$$ which I see you are at that level for sure.  I do very well, but is an hour worth it?  Not being mean, just asking and being honest.

And absolutely no shade intended, darlin... if you're asking that question then the answer...for you... for now... is NO.  
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Not on account of any particular lady or rate in question, but because of whatever is going on inside your own head and wallet.  
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The last thing you (or anyone else) needs is for you to push some internal boundary, feel some sort of negative effect and then saddle her (or yourself) with that negativity going forward. That just ain't fair to anyone. So be a stand-up human being and protect both yourself and others... whatever that ends up meaning.🙏🏼

It seems like whenever I book for the first time with a provider, there is a 50 percent chance they will contact me day of and want to reschedule.  In the last 5 months I have had providers want to reschedule because they have had car problems, not feeling well and family overstaying their stay.

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So it makes me wonder where you're going for appointments.

These shops have cameras so they can see who is walking up to the door. Many girls and shops don't like AA or Arabic customers because of racism or prior bad experiences. Not that I agree with them, but one bad apple can ruin the batch. If you're a big dude they could also be intimidated and don't want to risk any perceived trouble.

I was afraid that you were going to say that you were asked for 'Age and Ethnicity'.  

It's such a shame people can't be GROWN. I do not have many No Shows, b/c I mean, It's just ignorant, but I had my first one this year, today. Disgusting. I mean man UP. I thought ONLY seeing 30 & older, I would escape the Immaturity problems. Which would also go the other way. If you guys are trying to see "younger", that is a lot of the problem. They don't CARE. They do not get it. It doesn't bother them if they waste time. You can take what you want from a review, but understand just knowing she is REAL & reliable is the MOST. If someone doesn't show up, & I report it to other providers to "Beware", guess what they are going to do? Write a bad review, & probably don't even KNOW me, b/c my repeat clients would not do that. I do NOT keep info. BUT, if you wasted my time, I'm gonna lock your digits down for the REST of my life. BIBLE.  
I am so sorry this happened to you by a person that contributes to the distrust that comes along with booking. Just immature. Check reliability first, then judge for yourself if you like them or not. Everyone wants, or likes, different things anyway.