Hello there...I am not very experienced here, I am still learning. What is the deal lately with Asian providers flaking at the last minute? Has anyone ever set up an appt, got to the place and then asked Age and ethnicity and then the provider says the girl is no longer available? One time I drove 25 min only to find after being asked the questions that the girl left and is not coming back and the other, I made it to the place and they said she was out to lunch or something. Is it me? What is the deal with that, is it just me or has it happened to others? I have had it happen to 2 providers who I think are actually the same provider as they are both in the same apartment complex. Any tips or advice here? Thanks!
Especially at not reputable spots.
Its one thing for a gal to be on holiday. Its another for the booker to book that gal and then bait and switch.
I wouldnt stand for it and id simply go elsewhere.
should have been disclosed during the client verification process.
Maybe you didn't mean it that way but it sounds bad. Flaking knows no race or ethnicity...or gender for that matter as many providers will tell you that men flake too. lol.
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That said, yes, of course this happens to others. If you play this game long enough, you will run into unprofessional women/organizations. But this was why TER was invented in the first place. Using the resources here will drastically cut down on your disappointments in this lifestyle.
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With time, your research abilities will improve and you will develop a spidey sense about someone or some organization but that happens over time, with experience.
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Even with all that, you will be treated unprofessionally at times. It is just a fact in this business, and really, any customer service industry. It is what it is. We learn from it and move on. I am sorry this happened to you though. It can be very frustrating. All I can say though is when you find the right women this p4p thing is better than gold. lol.
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Good luck moving forward!
They have good TER responses, unfortunately TER does not let you put in a review unless you met the person and the session was bad. I think they need to let you submit a review when these things happen to let others know and the providers know they will have less clients. Just my thought anyway.
I really appreciate the feedback.
And you are correct about TER and not be able to review a girl you haven't met.
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Again, sorry about this but Just keep plugging along and try not to let this get you down. This lifestyle is incredible and you will have many more good days than bad. Good luck bro!
I've been seeing Asian's almost exclusively for going on 15 years. Not once has one "flaked" on me as you describe. So if you're interested in helping others provide some actual information rather than some broad-brushed claims about a group of people that make up more (probably much more) than half of the world population.
If its asian parlors doing this to him, we arent generalizing. And no, it doesnt come off as bad.
Grow a spine.
Did you expect the Asian lady in the picture and then find she flaked only to be offered a replacement?
One time yes, I was offered a replacement with was severely subpar and then the second time I was not offered anything.
I have had this happen on very rare occasions.....important to keep in mind that we are dealing in an illegal activity of which the potential co-conspirator is involved in the first place.....if she has a "Booker" ---the "Booker" may have overbooked her or found a better deal with a Frequent Flyer , or she just had a very bad experience with the client just before you, or she was just having a bad day .....and couldn't stand the thought of another new guy asking questions and acting all paranoid---etc.....I do remember one experience in which she hauled butt as I was looking for the room number as I was driving the parking lot---I was about 5 minutes Ahead of the scheduled time---I had been verified on TER etc....and I noticed a gal get into a car---start the car and drive off---from her picture I realized it was her---but the picture was from several years back---overall---I was happy to see her leave and my shirt pocket was still intact with the "Donation"....!
Matter of fact---that is the only one like that I ever experienced---now bait and switch---yes---that happens a lot with high turnover gals----generally there is a similarity in appearance, but you can tell...so it kinda goes to "Buyer Beware"...
I'm unclear on the claim " and then asked Age and ethnicity".
Was this you asking about the provider? Or, was this the booker, asking it of you? If the latter, are you implying that there may have been some bias?
On the subject of 'reliability', I have never had a 'bait and switch'. I attribute this to the fact that I've been able to resist booking a provider who is not well reviewed. I'm not a paragon of will power (just the opposite). But, I do greatly treasure the luxury of this hobby. So, I want to make certain that I am getting what I pay for. That said, I have had a couple less than sessions. But, they are a small minority of experiences. Use the tools at your disposal.
Which is why I've been reluctant to visit an AMP or book a provider from an Asian service (not being racist, this is my experience). Reading the reviews, I find too many instances of 'not the girl in the photo'. Or, 'older than stated'.
When I arrived I parked and the provider specifically asked me my "Age and Ethnicity" then said wait 2 minutes. On both occasions, which is why I am wondering if it was the same booker because it happened the same way. The first time they did a bait and switch and said someone else was available at another location for a discount (which was nothing) then the other time they totally flaked and said she was at lunch and they were sorry. So, I am not sure why this happened. I will however, be much more picky and find a way to negatively review these places. Appreciate the response.
Sometimes the asian orgs with bookers will take advantage. Have to be very up front with them. Im super polite, tip well and am always open minded when i arrive, but i stand firm on you will not bait and switch me, especially if the switch is lesser than the bait.
I was afraid that you were going to say that you were asked for 'Age and Ethnicity'.
I'm not surprised, but disappointed. I don't so much blame them for being age selective. But, they seem to be selecting based on ethnicity as well. Very disappointing.
I have had guys tell me ladies even do this with services like nuru. They book a nuru and the guy asks if they use the gel. The lady says yes and they ok only want to set up appt if you use gel for nuru. They reassure again and the appt gets set but then when the guy arrives some how the just ran out of gel but try to get them to stay for another in activity. These agencies and parlors are no different they just try to get you to see another lady. It is just rude and unethical. I would never do that. I am sorry this happened.
People are flakey. Not just providers and bookers. Bookers are usually pretty hands off. They will text to confirm the girl is there or someone. And send you over. Sometimes the girls double book with different bookers thinking they can finish in time for you to get there. Or to account for guys flaking, IE book 2 and only 1 shows.
I've done the same, drive an hour to find "she isn't there" or "isn't feeling well".
Not there, out to lunch, etc, usually means she's fucking someone else and wants you to wait so you can be next in line.
Hes at the kgal level of $$
You are asking what a porn star asks
Its just not the same market
You have to be in the DC area, not the Southwest, but yes as was said I do not have porn star $$$ which I see you are at that level for sure. I do very well, but is an hour worth it? Not being mean, just asking and being honest.
And absolutely no shade intended, darlin... if you're asking that question then the answer...for you... for now... is NO.
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Not on account of any particular lady or rate in question, but because of whatever is going on inside your own head and wallet.
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The last thing you (or anyone else) needs is for you to push some internal boundary, feel some sort of negative effect and then saddle her (or yourself) with that negativity going forward. That just ain't fair to anyone. So be a stand-up human being and protect both yourself and others... whatever that ends up meaning.🙏🏼
It seems like whenever I book for the first time with a provider, there is a 50 percent chance they will contact me day of and want to reschedule. In the last 5 months I have had providers want to reschedule because they have had car problems, not feeling well and family overstaying their stay.
My theory is that because I am only asking for an hour, am a new client and may be a long drive to my house, providers are not really excited about meeting me. If they get a chance for a longer appointment or an appointment with a returning client, they are likely to ditch me for that appointment.
It doesn't seem like these issues happen when I make an appointment with a provider I already know.
Also, it seems to happen a lot in Vegas. Didn't happen as often when I lived in Florida.
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So it makes me wonder where you're going for appointments.
But yeah if you venture to something like kgirl land, youre just gonna have last minute cancellations. I've had plenty in my experience. One org/girl canceled me last minute three times in a row.
The list of excuses being made for cancellations and delays can be quite extensive. Aside from operational hazards such as broken dryer etc, I've had the "she just had her period", "oh I forgot to tell you she has a period" (imagine seeing this on your phone after prebooking and being on time ready to bang), "she's having dinner so she is only available half an hour later sorry" and so on.
These shops have cameras so they can see who is walking up to the door. Many girls and shops don't like AA or Arabic customers because of racism or prior bad experiences. Not that I agree with them, but one bad apple can ruin the batch. If you're a big dude they could also be intimidated and don't want to risk any perceived trouble.
It's also possible you made it onto their blacklist because a different girl you've seen before didn't like you. Some of the shops share info.
One more possibility since you suggested that it might be the same girl. Maybe you are the stalker trying to see a girl that has been rebranding to escape from you.
It's such a shame people can't be GROWN. I do not have many No Shows, b/c I mean, It's just ignorant, but I had my first one this year, today. Disgusting. I mean man UP. I thought ONLY seeing 30 & older, I would escape the Immaturity problems. Which would also go the other way. If you guys are trying to see "younger", that is a lot of the problem. They don't CARE. They do not get it. It doesn't bother them if they waste time. You can take what you want from a review, but understand just knowing she is REAL & reliable is the MOST. If someone doesn't show up, & I report it to other providers to "Beware", guess what they are going to do? Write a bad review, & probably don't even KNOW me, b/c my repeat clients would not do that. I do NOT keep info. BUT, if you wasted my time, I'm gonna lock your digits down for the REST of my life. BIBLE.
I am so sorry this happened to you by a person that contributes to the distrust that comes along with booking. Just immature. Check reliability first, then judge for yourself if you like them or not. Everyone wants, or likes, different things anyway.