I get on social networking sites. Why? Because just like millions of people around the world I'm interested in meeting people that I may have common interest with. When I get on those sites, it's NOT to "hustle" clients, it's to socialize. I believe there is a time and a place for everything.
    When I meet men on social networking sights and they say "what do you do for a living", I'm like "Oh shit, here we go again" They often say "I saw you on 'such n such' site" I'm like "Oh really? What were YOU doing on that site?" It's always the same ole tired line about how their "friend" saw me, etc,etc. I get the impression that they feel like they've caught me in the act of some heinous crime. I tell them that I'm NOT there on that site as an escort but rather as a 'regular' girl looking for new friends. I think some guys have a misconception that escorts are always 'prowing' for sex and that we don't have hopes,goals and fears like anyone else. I'm hear to say and I'm sure many other escorts will agree that we are REAL people. We may not have a 'traditional' job, but make no mistake, when we don our g-strings and lingerie we are going to work. Some days are good, some days are bad, but such is life.
    As a whore, I won't turn down an opportunity to make money on social sites when they express an interest in my services, but those guys don't realize that in approaching me as an escort they lose the opportunity of dating me and getting to know me as a person and POSSIBLY knowing me in an intimate way, for FREE, but once a man becomes my client, He'll NEVER just be my lover or boyfriend. He can become a platonic friend ONLY if he so desires.
    I'd like to say that what I do for a living is VASTLY different from who I AM. HOES HAVE LIVES TOO!

I have friends in the town that I live in that I used to work with.  A few nights ago I was hanging out with them and I noticed some weird tension.  I thought they didn't know what I do and just told them I was cleaning houses.  So I'm sitting there playing drinking games with 4 guys I've known for at least 3 years and I get the sense that they want to get me drunk.  An especially close friend of mine made some crazy rule which caused me to drink more than everyone else.  By time its over I go outside to smoke and this friend follows me outside and says "I know what you do"  and then starts trying to kiss me.  I'm like WTF?  This guy is like a brother to me and now he is hitting on me telling me we should go to the guest bedroom and I'm really upset so I run to my car.  I realize its probably a stupid idea to drive having as much to drink as I did and just sit there and fume.  One of my friends come out and takes my keys away and I accuse him and all the other guys of herding me into a bad situation and I ask him why he would do this to me as I thought of them as my brothers and he tells me he just found out from my former best friend who tried to hit on me.  I was really upset and sat there and talked to him for an hour and he told me hes not judging me as he has dealt drugs in the past and knows what its like to be on the fringes of society.  I confronted my ex best friend again and asked why he thought me doing what I do makes it ok for him to treat me that way and he told me his perception of me changed and why would I do this to myself and so on.  I felt like slapping him honestly, or at least putting him in a tight chokehold.  The whole thing kind of reminds me of the scene in The Girl Next Door where he finds out she is a porn star and trys to get her drunk and takes her to a cheap motel.  Damn, sorry I really needed to vent!  My two worlds are colliding!

I'd like to thank  you for sharing and it's ok to vent. escorting can be a head fuck, no doubt about it.

Thanks for responding and I LOVE tha pic!! (seriously) What you said is true, of that I have no doubt, but my story was MY TRUTH, and as I said initially, when I'm approached and essentially OFFERED an oportunity to make money, yes I'll CERTAINLY take it, but I do not solicit clients on social sights. I allow them to set tha tone for our association, if they don't mention my 'occupation' then neither do I. We may date or become friends, etc

LMMFAO!!!!!! DAYUUUM!

Sally here is not into women/escorts...he loathes them or at least he's trying very hard to convince us he does.

So which is it...do you just have no one else to share your wisdom with whom will listen that are not paid whores, or are we the best you can do? Just curious.

they prowl for money.
I once tried one of the single network sites and found two hookers in my first week. They were not there to socialize but they were there to gold dig.

It was fun playing them, but in the end it all came down to paying them or not.

You are nothing more than a trick that prowls internet in search of pussy?

if you want to be treated as human being, try treating others same way

Lina

Wow that sucks!!! I don't think teir your friends if the don't accept you for who you are. Keep thinking positive thoughts. I'm sure your a Awesme person.

More than a few gals have confided to me that they would love to have an SO and even get married and raise a family, but as long as they have to continue to escort just to make enough to live on, they feel stuck in a rut.

I suppose the only way out is to save enough from the biz so that you can quit and leave it behind you.

The other route some gals have found is finding a client whom they really click with and who does not mind what they do, but admittedly that is not going to happen that often.

If some gals have found successful ways to compartimentalize their lives and "have it all", you ought to share your strategies with others.

pussy is readily available.  

And when i say "men" i mean REAL men, not women bashing self proclaimed man card holding creatures with penis.

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Keep on trying. Persistence pays.

There are a few providers that have openly discussed using dating sites and other social networks as a means to advertise. Some have Facebook accounts for their provider persona, for that very reason. And just as you will not date clients, johns, tricks or whatever you want to call us, many will not date providers. That is why if they see you someplace else, they only associate you as someone they can pay to fuck. Especially if you show your face in ads or on your escort site or use the same pictures, it almost ensures that you will be branded as an escort, with Tineye and Google image search, people can find this part of your life very quickly. I have been told by girls that use match and other dating sites, that they search guy’s pictures using the sites I mentioned, one friend even looks up their phone number records, once they exchange numbers to see if they guy is giving his real name.

I believe and I think we all know that society in general views this subculture as deviant behavior. Few outside will accept participation either as a john or escort; most will have some level of judgment, as Breanna experienced. They view us as having been compromised in some capacity, that our judgment or moral compass is broken. Maybe it is. And not all providers reject us as possible significant others, especially if both parties treat each other like people. Some guys treat the women as cum buckets and some girls treat guys as ATMs. I have dated providers and I have known providers that I have not dated, to date a client here and there. Just like people who spend too much time at work, you find each other and in this subculture, even more so under certain conditions. I have also been told by one or two, had we not met this way, we would be dating. But I think this is a small percentage of our community. It just seems to happen or you hear more of it on TER and other boards, because it takes a whole other level of interest to be active on the boards.

It comes down to some will never see you as more than yourself description of a whore, and you are correct, they are in error to assume you are there to advertise your services; just as you will never see us as more than a client, john or whatever. But that comes with the territory, for both of us.

Must be hard with a third grade education...nice image of you when you were younger. Did you ever get that cookie there Sally?

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" I tell them that I'm NOT there on that site as an escort but rather as a 'regular' girl looking for new friends."
And then you say........
"  I won't turn down an opportunity to make money on social sites when they express an interest in my services ".
Are you looking for a friend or a client ?
" When I get on those sites, it's NOT to "hustle" clients "
But you are then changing from " social friend " to " hooker ".
Can you understand the confusion the men you are interacting with have ?

"those guys don't realize that in approaching me as an escort they lose the opportunity of dating me and getting to know me as a person ". Yeah, I want to date a nutcase who is an escort and confused as to why she is even talking to me in the first place .
But you told me you were a regular girl and not an escort but you are indeed an escort and won't be offended if we have sex for money ......................Yeah , I want to get involved with a nutcase like you !
Did you ever stop to think men seperate " dating " and P4P - CLUE - We do 100% !!!

You have NO friggin' clue what you are ,and you confuse men - Sorry babe, you are a nutcase who makes no sense !

Note to self .......................Nutcase , DNS !!!!

BTW, maybe you should blur your face in your pictures if this is becoming a problem when SO MANY men recognise you on social networking sites - Just sayin' ..................

So Chocha, you said "once a man becomes my client, He'll NEVER just be my lover or boyfriend. He can become a platonic friend ONLY if he so desires."  Why not?  If you ran across a good guy in the hobby, why not give him a chance?

I am not saying this is right, but..many guys who find you attractive are hoping for the opportunity to get physical with you.  I'm not suggesting that this is the primary motivating factor in their friendship with you. It may, or may not, be. Either way, there is often an undercurrent of sexual tension within the guy that makes him prone to pursue the physical if he thinks you are amenable to it.  So, if one of said guys learns that you are an excort he may view that as an opportunity to pursue having sex with you.  The lines, to him, have suddenly become blurred or even non-existant.

And another thing; NEVER get drunk with a bunch of guys. You are just asking for trouble.

If you want to meet a gentleman who will treat you like a lady, then hang out where gentlement hang out and conduct yourself like the lady you can be and the lady you want him to know. That's hard to do when you're sucking down suds like a sailor and it give some guys the wrong idea.

By the way, I hate the word Whore. It's demeanning. As you've ponted out, providers are real people with families and feelings and interests beyond the "hobby".    

Those are actually very good points, and I agree. I have a London Rayne facebook but I am not stupid enough to associate it with the real one that has since been deleted. I use my hooker photos, email, and name for my hooker facebook. I simply don't see how anyone can connect a person to their real life if they are not outright showing their face and making it obvious. I am starting to agree with the ladies who said facebook was a no no for this business, as I will not discuss "meetings" via PM or openly on facebook. I just thought it was a way to chat with likeminded people with no moderation, but I rarely even go on there anymore.

I agree that when a guy hobbyist or not knows you are a hooker, he is not exactly making plans to marry you from what you put out. Is it tacky to approach someone at a party you might know is in this business? Well, yes, but the fault is on both parties not just one. If you value your privacy, protect it!

Thats very true, I never thought about that.  At the time I thought it was fine to drink with my friends, I've done it a ton of times before as I was in the military and had little to no female friends.  I thought they all thought of me as "one of the guys" until they found out.

You have to lighten up a bit and toss some kind words inbetween the insults, or you will get moderated like the rest of us hooktards!

Hi,

.. creations should be treated w/ respect no matter what profession they're in!!

don't mind confed john, he gets like this when momma doesn't let him watch his daily...."Dukes of Hazard" re-runs.

SienteMiChocha thanks for setting the record straight. But in response to your post and the following, men are biologically programmed to have sex. I would think a provider would understand that better than anyone. Just because a friend tried to have sex with you does not wipe out your years of friendship and shared experiences. It does not negate all of the good times you had and the confidences you shared. I wish it weren't so but men need sex like they need water. It doesn't make a guy a monster, it makes him a man. Mens' sex drive is a part of what drives us to be stronger, successfull, build, conqour. We are programmed to pursue and too seek out a mate and pass on our genes. Now this does not excuse manipulating, controling or taking advantage of women. Some guys do this because they are assholes. But just because a man wants to have sex  does not make him an asshole, it makes him a man. Basically if a guy talks to you or even breathes in your direction you can assume he wants to have sex. Can we all just operate from that assumption and get over it. I for one am not going to apologize for that, if a man expresses sexual attraction for a woman that is natures way. There is no need to apologize for something as natural as breathing.

Like mentally and physically.

Or so I thought. We keep hearing that men can't help being who they are when it comes to sex and really, no one needs sex, we need air, we need water, we need food. We want sex. If you don't have sex you will not die and your balls will not explode. And you can always take of business yourself.

Due to our higher brain function, I think that men using the "men will be men" and "we can't help it" schtick when it comes to sex, are looking for an out to excuse shitty behavior. In the OP's case, BEFORE they knew about her escorting, they were fine. Then it was is if a switch to stupid was hit and her bestie decided she was fair game. That's no best friend. If a guy can't deal with having a few women in his life off limits from sexual predation, then he needs serious help.

I have ditched a two male "friends" for overstepping that line. There is no need to go there and it then alters the balance the minute they did. I know for me I could not be myself around them, had to watch every thing I said, and everything I did for fear that it might encourage him...I almost fell for that stupid crap about it being my fault just for being female. Nope, they were high functioning human males and knew better. Once that line was crossed, they were gone. It showed me how much they did NOT respect me as  HUMAN being devoid of gender. And no, it was not flattering, it was sickening as I lost two good friends who CHOSE to go where they knew it was wrong.

My male friends now consist of gay guys, who are true friends and I have no problem with any lame ass excuse for stupid, chosen, crappy behavior.

I would take one of these ladies anyday, good, bad, or indifferent.

The best decision I ever made in life was to extricate the time vampires from my life...(i.e. people who command your time, but have know real value) and the best day of my life was the day I finally realized that for some time now, I know longer gave a crap about what others thought of me.

Were our friends to find out that we "hobbyists" participated so willingly, they would judge us too. Why would we do this to ourselves...well, our answers are usually easy...

1. We do not wish to participate in the traps of a traditional relationship and all of its complications.

or

2. We otherwise lack the confidence to approach women as beautiful and as confident as most of you are...

or

3. We believe that most people would find our sexual appetites strange, and to find a participant that thinks like we do is a "bang your had against a wall process."

or, like me...

4. We are stuck in a near sexless relationship with a woman incapable of any adventurous thought. (In 16 years my wife has initiated sex twice.) Some of us, wont break free, and others like me literally cannot break free for at least 10 more years, without seriously impacting a 3rd party.

Like any job that exists in the world, there is a dilemma, and a solution to the dilemma. I like to think that the providers that I have seen, believe that they are doing their job because they want to be a solution to the problems that men face. And like ANY good job, they are rewarded for their efforts. I would like to believe that they enjoy their work...not just during the session, but the feeling that their men leave with.

Your "friends"...sound just like the one's I had. Once they figure out what I do for a living, their first reaction was to not take my job seriously at all...and then their next reaction is to try and get work out of me for free. You guys are not alone here...but, the deeper perception that exists of why you ladies  do this to yourself, only exists because we continue to create generation, after generation, of sexual automatons, that believe there is something wrong with enjoying intimate companionship to its absolute limits. The question I would have for them is, why would they choose to live a mundane personal life, when everyone that has come before them, tells them how miserable it is.

Screw all of them...until they start stroking you checks to pay for your rent, their opinion is mute. You do what you do, because its what you chose to do...and for whatever our reasons are to come to you for companionship...we thank you!

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You can literally drag/drop a photo into Google Images, and it wlll search and find those pics on the web.  Not sure if it will pick up social networking/media images, but then again...who wants to find out?

Not a lotta upside, tremendous downside.

I concur

awwwwwwww how cute Afraid you gotta try harder to actually insult me.

Although I doubt you actually are familiar with word HARD

Lina

I'm doing as much as I can to protect my privacy.  I don't show my face and rarely work in the same area I live in.  One of the few people who knew about it and promised to take it to their grave told someone, who told someone else and etc.

No I've not been an escort, but I was in the Navy during the Vietnam War.  Once I donned the uniform, I was a baby killer.  Unfortunately I have no simple answer for you.  Most men are pigs, not all, but most.

what a way to say " brainless morons that dont know any better". im a human, not a machine, im not programmed to do anything. i make choices

how few young people know the difference between the spelling of the two

I'm under the impression that providers aren't looking for a SO, or a dating relationship, seems the common thought is that it would bring too much drama to one's life.  Social network site are mostly about advertising one's personal and private lives.  When you have a "friend" on a social network site, well guess what, you really don't have a friend.

I agree.... What made me mad was about a month ago I started talking to this guy from FB and we chatted on their then went out a week or so later. That of course was when he asked what did I do?. I don't just say a escort cause most guys don't know what to think. So I told him I was a Private Entertainer and He Asked If I could Entertain him. At that moment he changed our relationship to work.....  Then After Discussing money I told him he was a client, he was okay with that. Only if he knew I wanted he more then he wanted me so he most likely would have got me anyway but now he's Paying!!

Don't Judge A Girl By Her Job!!!!

I hear ya.

Anchors Aweigh
OldFollowmeSailor
2012 = 28

My OP to this thread was merely a small dose of reality. I can't help it if others would rather not face it and be so offended. Sometimes this board is more like cosmopolitan and gay.
You, my darling are a straight shooter and honest. So there are some kind words just for you.

Next time I will give you an entire sweet potato pie instead of one little cookie along with a gallon of cider. I didn't realize that you would be insulted for not getting a proper portion.

Your English is pretty good for a foreigner. I applaud for your studies

dismiss the fact that every one of us also has this thing called SELF CONTROL. Some simply use bs excuses as a way to avoid using it. Believe it or not, there are men out there who don't spend the majority of their time thinking about sex...a few CEOs I know personally come to mind. These men are so obsessed with their work and getting to the top, sex falls by the wayside of what they need and value. Now, if that is the case for them, don't tell me that you can't simply program your mind to think about something else. If your child were dying, I highly doubt getting your c*ck wet would be your top priority, so don't give me the bs about "men can't help it."

People who can't control their emotions and act on every impulse, are considered insane. I would like to think we are higher than that.

Sexual predation is separate from expressing sexual attraction. It is never ok to manipulate people or take advantage of a person in a weaker position.  I hate to see women tolerate controling pricks because it empowers them.

From a biological standpoint a man's purpose is to procreate. That is not an excuse to act like an asshole, but I am often surprised when women are shocked that a guy they know and are "friends" with comes on to them, albeit untactfully.  If a guy disrespects your boundaries he was never really a friend in the first place. People throw that term around loosely.

Personally I like women and I love sex and I don't apologize for that.

Saturn was all over me on this thread. Why should I be nice to him? I don't understand what a gay guy is even doing here.
I looked at Lina's pictures and offered her an entire pie and a gallon of cider. I even complimented her on her English skills.

Well, I am through with this thread anyhow. Too many mean people.

Just because I find someone attractive I don't have to act on it...that is called self control and are you saying men don't have that or very little of that?

There are times when expressing sexual attraction is out of line. Try doing at your work place. You might find someone attractive and want to have sex with her but you don't because you know better, so the impulse to breed is selective in this case, because you know what the consequences are.

What we are shocked about is not that he did it, it's the disrespect and dismissal of clear boundaries. We all know a man will fuck just about anything resembling a female....put a wig on a jar of warm liver and someone will screw it. I guess we give more credit than should be afforded, hence the shock.

I am all women. Yeah, didn't spit too much back at me because you thought I was a guy, now you know I am a woman, bring it sissypants. Ya big bully crybaby. What, running away because we give you back what you dish out?

There is always a time and a place. Whipping out your penis evertime you see a pretty lady not cool. Making an aggressive sexual pass at your 18 year old niece not cool ever...but going back to the OP post, 99% of guys on social media websites are ther looking for women plain and simple. Does not make them all deviant perverts. But I would be confident to bet it is way more likely a guy is fishing for sex on social media than a provider. If he messages you assume sexual attraction was part of the motivation even if he is not a heavy breathing pervert. Once he finds out you provide it will be like putting gasoline on a fire. Not saying it is ok to break peoples boundaries just saying you have to approach situation realisticlly. With that said Im sure the guy the OP was talking about was probably a dirtbag, unfortunate but there are a ton out there.

First I appreciate telling how you feel, not trying to criticize just offer another viewpoint. Just saying guys who have money and power are the same as any they just use their position and resources to be more strategic. They have too much to lose otherwise. There is a saying about not losing money chasing women.  Guys with money have more options. That's why there is TER in the first place. Not defending it, just trying to explain.

AWESOME response!! With regard to the word "whore" to me it is what it is, if a woman charges for companionship, she's a whore. I don't look down on myself for being what I am. If you see a hispanic,black or asian person and refer to them as such, it's not derogitory, it's a statement of a fact, right?

I really appreciate your response and I accept it as FACT. Late last night i had this very discussion with a friend and told her that men physically need to have sex. I think women do to, but to a lesser degree. I told my friend I felt she was sexually frustrated and NEEDED to get laid because she's becomming a lil agressive, LOL

Once again a resonse I view as FACT. I have no jaded ideas about my 'profession' I have not been in a personal relationship in OVER 10 yrs. I understand fully that no guy wants to take a workin gal home to meet his mama, and truth be told, my heart would break if my son brought such a lady home to meet me. I could change my ads and block out my face and lie, but honestly THAT'S NOT ME! I made a choice for money/profession over love a LONG time ago, a woman can't successfully have both (in my opinion) For me personally I'm at a stage in my life where I want to actually consider a personal life. Not all men peruse sex sites and those are the gents I wanna meet, someone who doesnt know I'm an escort cuz he's livin a life apart from adult services

There is a right way and a wrong way to go about it but fact is we gotta have it. I denied it for the longest time but here I am. God bless women.

You can never know what guy has used a sex site by looking at him (its not like you grow a unibrow and hairy palms from using TER) and if he takes your adice he will never tell you! Wouldnt that be ironic if a former hobbiest hooked up with you and you with he both none the wiser appreciating eachother because of something you think eachother is not but in fact your shared (secret experiences) are in fact what brought you together!