It has only happen to me twice, where I fell head over heals for a provider.  I am talking "falling in Love" vs "WOW".  Maybe I am jaded because it seems most of the providers I see are either, why did I waste my money or that was good.  Occasionally, but rarely there is a "Oh holly shit that was great".

Some people (very few) are just magnetic and the chemistry goes beyond skin deep.  There is one who I met about 2 years ago, who is not the youngest guy, his hair may be a little (or all) white, and/or thinning a little ontop (lol) but if I asked the ladies who have seen him, 9/10 will probably say he is their ATF.

but fair's fair, and you can only go with one of them so recently I did.

But it's still fun to enjoy the others.

Can be frustrating that way.  Have one lady I see how isn't the wildest sexual athlete or a Victoria's Secret model, etc., but I like her a lot.  And I don't think that it's a persona that I like, nobody could keep up an artifice for the number of hours that we've spent together.
I've just made my peace with her being my GF, but only during those two hour windows and I try to shut the door of my mind on the rest of her time.

I am always amazed by how much talk about love there is on this board.  Having sex is not the same thing as making love.  You need love for that.   Not (just) lust, not (just) good chemistry, not (just) fun or wow.  

it's understandable that providers do not want a raging hormone for a client. Along with wanting the convenience, and superficial security that a long-term client can provide.  

I try to keep it real and remember that there is a difference between affection and romance. I would certainly end things if “love” reared its ugly head from either party. I don’t think a provider has ever fallen for me, which is how I’d prefer our business relationship to be. Love makes you do stupid things and we all have to remain smart about what we’re doing

Gotta keep it in perspective. There are a number of providers that I like a lot, I even have one that is definitely my ATF, but no chance of falling for them. At best, they're friends with benefits (that I pay for). They have their personal lives, I have mine, and never the two shall meet. When I first started in the hobby I thought I was having feelings for a provider, but we talked and she gave me some great insight in how to manage my feelings during these very intimate and deeply personal encounters, and it has since enhanced my experiences exponentially. Of course, given my age, and the length of time I've been married,the family and economic bonds are simply too deep-rooted to disturb. Besides, I cannot imagine a beautiful, vibrant, young woman in her 20s wanting to engage in a serious OTC relationship with a man 30+ years her senior. Just my two cents.

"Naughty Girls need love too"  

No.  

I can guarantee you two things Lila , a month  with me you would be gushing  with pride how good you made me feel  , how bright you made me smile ,  every day we were together .  
   
 Unfortunately for my dreams ,  your description didn't fit me ,  my hair isn't  thinning  or near  all white ,  though I would gladly  color my hair for you , guaranteed  I would  smile  big for you  , if  you care to  pull my hair looking for  thin spots , until  I'm  bald as a onion , still  smiling big for you .    

The particular lady that I am talking about is touring my area and I would love to see her but I am very reluctant due to the fact I understand it cannot go further than a very temporary girlfriend.

Nor because we are any smarter, of course... It is just that for some of us (hobbyists of the 60+ board), even a provider in her early 40's is on the edge of the range where a woman could be considered as a long term partner...

It's a wonderful service that these ladies provide, they satiate a carnal need, most of them make us feel as if they are our girlfriend for X amount of hours. The best of providers will make you feel like a King, for X amount of hours. But at the end of that X amount of hours the fantasy is over, and we both move on with our lives.

Fuck her brains out. Then pay her to leave.  

and if I was you, I would book an session with her and enjoy it.   Judging from her profile and her reviews, she has gotten better with time since you saw her as Mia.  Hey man, this is not Match dot com, drop your envelope and have fun.... oh and at the end of your session tell her you love her and must be with her for all time.  She will end that little fanatsy once and for all   LMAO  

its not counter intuitive to the concept of p4p, but it does fall right in line with the concept of open relationships and especially Polyamory

It is not only possible for a "hooker" to love one person while having sex for money with others, it's actually quite common.

I have been in many relationships with providers, and while the rules of "being faithful" are quite different from the norm, but there are rules nonetheless.

I am the one who coined the phrase, and I expect royalties anytime someone uses it. lol

and hey, I am one of the usual suspect you are talking about and having feelings for a hooker don't make a person a mangina, whining about it does, and so far I haven't seen the OP whining. The OP has already recognized that nothing more is possible, and appears to be wise enough to not set himself up for a fall, but I disagree with both of you that a "real relationship" is Impossible with a provider, but I would say in 99% of the cases, it's best not to try for anything more than what is offered.

Most "I've fallen for a provider" stories end badly unless she falls too, and even then the odds are against it. Anyone with a propensity for "falling hard" would most likely be best served by not allowing themselves to fall for a provider in the first place.

uh BTW, just how many years has it lasted already? I am sure your relationship with "Mrs Fisher" has already lasted a lot longer than my marriage did with a "civvy" woman.

I think the trick is to not live under the same roof.  We talk every day and keep up on each other's lives, but live our own lives.

We may be on to something.

I recall being told once that the Talmud advised Rabbis to live in a different city from their wives.

So, it's really just an illustration again that there is nothing new under the sun.

A bunch of old, overweight women who band together. I have no idea how a bunch of guys could be "over the hill fat broads", so as the term applies here, I still claim credit. That and the SPOTY's lol

is that the relationship between client and provider does not need to be hard dick to slab of meat.  I think you can honestly have some affection for the person that you're with, and when you do, the sex is better.
Love and a LTR are obviously off the table, but I don't think that P4P rules out FWB.

and yeah I have fallen for more than a couple of providers over the years, and the last thing I want is advice from the peanut gallery here on how to go about it.

Several posts respond to the OP by citing their own experiences, usually all tell of having known several providers (or clients), but one stands out as something more, an ATF. Of course one out of a group will always be your favorite (please, don't start an argument by talking about your kids). I've got a closet full of shirts. One of them is my favorite. I have five types of fruit juice in the fridge. One of them is my favorite. Need I go on?

I'm pushing 50 and have never been married. He'll, I haven't been in a serious relationship in over 20 years. One of the reasons I was reluctant to start hobbying was that I was afraid I would fall for a PYT. Over a year in and it hasn't even been an issue. I've met some girls that have rocked my world, and some I would almost call friends, but nothing on any sort of emotional level.

I think I got my posts mixed up, I thought you meant mangina

Then consider yourself paid.

She was married & Yes to the guy who said LOVE makes you do crazy stupid things.  Looking back, it's surprising I didn't get my ass full of buckshot.  Carried on the affair for a year under everyone's nose.  I'm sure a lot of people knew but either chose to not get involved or couldn't prove what they knew.   There is still a special place in my heart for her...  maybe we'll get together again under different circumstances.

well then I guess I still don't know the meaning of mangina, and that makes sense as it's a silly made up word. In fact the first time I saw it I was completely confused as I was pronouncing gina like the woman's name and not like the second half of vagina. the few times someone has used it at me it's been when I've shown compassion, and you may check if you'd like I have never whinned about anything or anyone on here. I'm free with my opinions and feelings, but I don't have the time nor patience to whine.  

nearly 50 and never been married. I wish I could say the same, almost but then I must have fallen down and hit my head. One short marriage and easy divorce later and I'm the happiest I've ever been in my life in the hobby.

After reading you definitions of marriage and divorce I think cash on the barrel-head sounds like a pretty good deal. A real bargain. The social pressure to marry is pretty great, though, especially for the young. The need for monogamous relationships is fading in the culture, but still pronounced in the psyche. I wonder how many young lovers marry their partner out of a very real fear that someone else might get him or her.

WELL SAID  ....

It's about being a man or not. You know how to close the deal or not. You accept failure or not. You don't whine about it here. Like Sean Connery says in the Rock: Losers always whine about their best. Winners go home and fuck the prom queen!

I'm talking in the context of most client provider relationships. Now I'd like to see the TER poll. The do you love your provider poll. Along with the do you love your client poll, for the ladies. Ya'll can put money on it.

There are a lot of different kinds of love. I love my country. I love chocolate cake. I used to love paragliding. Now I love and cherish the memories of paragliding.

From another Mother .

We aren't real. This is a fantasy. Have fun, but you will never be in love with us until well after WE have asked you to come into our real life and see what it's really like.

Yes, most relationships in this game are not steady and do not involve "love."  But it does happen, and that's all the others are saying.  I myself know several girls who are married and seemingly happily so, to former clients.  Perhaps it's the exception that proves the rule, but it does happen.

Ohhhhhhh my god I am such a freak sometimes, it really did come across that way hahahaha

Falling for a hooker doesn't make a person a mangina, common respect and courtesy doesn't make for one either. A couple of examples of what does make one a mangina are a habit of falling for EVERY provider that shows the slightest interest "might make you a mangina" (courtesy to Jeff Foxworthy" Kissing up to every provider on the board regardless of her behavior "might make you a mangina" or thinking that impressing a hooker by giving her gifts, over tipping, falling all over yourself to be "nice" is going to make a hooker fall in love with you "might make you a mangina"

There are several other types of behavior that I could list, but I think you should get the gist of what constitutes a mangina by now.

but then again you are usually about as clear as mud, even on your best days, and these last several days have been far from your best.

Nice job telling everyone,  can a guy get some privacy around here?  

In the context of my posts in this thread, I am forgetting about successful loving relationships that can aspire from this lifestyle. I usually like to expanded upon the thought process. This time I was contracting the thought process.  

You can FEEL however you would like to feel WHENEVER you want to. With one provider, you can imagine that the moment will never end, if you want. With another you can imagine how grateful she is to entertain you. Another, you can have her repeatedly ask you if she can please suck your cock (make sure she says the magic word), then little by little allow her to stroke, lick, kiss, and finally suck. You can create any kind of fantasy you want. It's playtime!

I was using the BF terminology loosely more as a long term client who has a very good rapport with the provider. Versus an actual boy friend. I also wanted to acknowledge that those relationships can progress beyond that, and have the potential to become more. Then I wanted to dismiss that fact from the equation, so I could pose my question (why do providers sometimes advertise seeking a LTR?) in the form of a client.

If so, that makes you the most naive and clueless guy who has ever shown up on this board.  It's kind of breathtaking.
Really sorry you're sad that a great fuck doesn't require a "soulmate."